Threads appearing on the DM

[Painauchocolat189]

Has anybody on here had the (mis)fortune of one of their threads making it to the Daily Mail? Mine was published on there a fortnight ago, it was an AIBU regarding a situation with a friend.
Got a right shock when i clicked on the DM and there it was. Was scared the friend in question would read it and that I'd be outed but doesn't seem to have fortunately.
Has this happened to anyone else? How would you feel if it did?

I name change very regularly, in fact most OPs. It’s easy to post enough to be identifiable. At least if you name change there’s not a trail confirming it’s you.
I also sometimes change small details like the gender of a child, the age by a year etc if it doesn’t affect the meaning of the thread. I’ve been called a troll before when someone spotted a one year age gap between posts... but frankly that’s better than being pitted!

Funnily enough, the only threads I've ever seen with a "fuck you Daily Mail" note in them are really boring ones that even the Mail wouldn't find interesting.

There was an article in the DM recently that was based entirely on my comments. It was basically everything I'd said regurgitated as an article. I told them that they should be paying me to write their articles for them.

Yep my picture ended up in there when I was asking if a dress suited me. A couple of friends recognised my bedroom and msg me (picture from neck down).
There were some interesting comments sha we say but my self esteem is still intact somehow 😂😂

@lovevlyt

I haven't but a few tips as I've always worried about this : I name change fairly regularly and I also change the facts of a story, for example if I was talking about a friend getting married abroad I'd change my age, their age - the country etc.

You can change enough material facts that's the person reading would never know and you still get the answers you're looking for.

I'm surprised people don't do this anyway?! Maybe it's the pessimist in me!

I do this too.

Not the name changing regularly but I use one of my other names for potentially outing things and also change some details.

By using another name that's easily AS with a history it seems to avoid 379 responses of "interesting first post op"

@TheRedNote

Yep my picture ended up in there when I was asking if a dress suited me. A couple of friends recognised my bedroom and msg me (picture from neck down). There were some interesting comments sha we say but my self esteem is still intact somehow 😂😂

I'm open to being corrected, but I'm pretty sure you retained the copyright over that image, so that was really not on. Still, what do we expect.

I find it bizarre that people think they’re someone more recognisable in the Daily Mail than on here.

After all, if you’re on here, then why wouldn’t someone you know be here as well? Not dissimilar to the tabloids...

I also wonder whether these constant “threads appearing in the Daily Mail” threads are posted by someone wishing to attract more traffic to... oh... the Daily Mail perhaps?

I’ve never read the daily mail or any other tabloid for that matter in my life. I have recognised people from RL on here though. They will never know that I have...

Even the Guardian quoted the lack of easter eggs thread from mumsnet.

you used to be able to find mumsnet in the news, on this forum, and find all the threads quoted. i wonder if it is still here?

@JustJustWhy

Nope. I don't worry. If it's potentially a contentious thread just put a disclaimer in the opening post saying "Fuck the Daily Mail et al for their lazy journalism".

That doesn't make a difference.

Everyone always singles out the DM, but it isn't just them.

There was a discussion on R4 over the weekend (I think it was the Today programme) about the fact that there is a long MN thread about people fancying Chris Whitty

Many years ago The Wright Stuff did a very long piece based on a thread on here about where you place a clock on your mantelpiece.

The load of rubbish that was Penis Beaker went everywhere.

Different demographic though @HeartsAndClubs
In my experience completely different between getting style advice from other women to getting repeated body critiques from men discussing whether I’d ‘get it’ or not 🧐🤬

@CentBoppers

Everyone always singles out the DM, but it isn't just them.

There was a discussion on R4 over the weekend (I think it was the Today programme) about the fact that there is a long MN thread about people fancying Chris Whitty

how funny

I don’t understand why MN doesn’t let posters delete their own threads. It’s out of step with virtually all other forums / sites. It can also be hugely detrimental to posters who are vulnerable and then get subjected to a vicious pile on. It’s weird that you have to plead with a mumsnet moderator for control over your own thread.

I've had to beg MN to delete a thread once or twice due to a massive pile on I received, they just told me to hide the thread and it would stop being active after a day or so.

You can change enough material facts that's the person reading would never know and you still get the answers you're looking for

Then you get posters doing an advanced search and accuse the OP of trolling because of previous threads not matching.

Extremely lazy journalism...I saw some MN posts quoted in media coverage of Harry & Meghan's interview. If you google a subject/topic...sometimes MN hit comes up in results...so v easy for public (who otherwise would not be remotely interested in this or any other MN type forums) to wander on here. If you don't want anyone to see it /read it...don't post it. If you worry about outing...change some details but you can still make your point. Respect other people.

@Painauchocolat189

I've had to beg MN to delete a thread once or twice due to a massive pile on I received, they just told me to hide the thread and it would stop being active after a day or so.

A perceived 'pile on' is not a reason to delete a thread. Any individual posts that break talk guidelines can be deleted or if it turns into a huge bunfight with everyone arguing with each other MNHQ might delete on the grounds that it serves no purpose.

I have seen loads of OPs wanting threads deleted because they just didn't like the replies they got.

@CloudFormations

I don’t understand why MN doesn’t let posters delete their own threads. It’s out of step with virtually all other forums / sites. It can also be hugely detrimental to posters who are vulnerable and then get subjected to a vicious pile on. It’s weird that you have to plead with a mumsnet moderator for control over your own thread.

That would be terrible on here. Don't like the answers? Delete your thread? No. Report the thread and let MNHQ decide.

www.mumsnet.com/media

but nothing in the media for a year

That would be terrible on here. Don't like the answers? Delete your thread? No.

Why would it be terrible? It’s not like this is a site where everyone consistently behaves in a reasonable and decent manner. Horrible, cruel pile-ons happen daily. If a poster has ever behaved even slightly unreasonably - as literally every human has at some point in their lives - they get pilloried beyond reason. Go and have a look at the ‘was I rude?’ thread running now for a good example - OP made a mistake and said something well-intentioned but inadvertently rude, and some posters are treating her as if she’s the most irredeemably crass and awful person ever to have existed.

I think it might actually teach posters to be a little more reasonable if threads could be deleted. People might learn to state their opinions without being total dicks about it. That would be nice! And it would save posters from having to put up with horrible, shitty pile-ons which can be seriously damaging to mental well-being.

@CloudFormations

That would be terrible on here. Don't like the answers? Delete your thread? No.

Why would it be terrible? It’s not like this is a site where everyone consistently behaves in a reasonable and decent manner. Horrible, cruel pile-ons happen daily. If a poster has ever behaved even slightly unreasonably - as literally every human has at some point in their lives - they get pilloried beyond reason. Go and have a look at the ‘was I rude?’ thread running now for a good example - OP made a mistake and said something well-intentioned but inadvertently rude, and some posters are treating her as if she’s the most irredeemably crass and awful person ever to have existed.

I think it might actually teach posters to be a little more reasonable if threads could be deleted. People might learn to state their opinions without being total dicks about it. That would be nice! And it would save posters from having to put up with horrible, shitty pile-ons which can be seriously damaging to mental well-being.

It's like taking your ball and going home. Childish.

I think it’s awful when this happens and can put people off posting and asking for help, and sometimes mumsnet can be a really great source of help. I think it’s morally really bad play on the part of the Daily Mail to pull articles from relationships or more sensitive topics, but then I guess they don’t really have ethics or morals anyway.