AIBU to think lockdown suits introverted people?
ssd · 05/04/2021 17:54
Its quite suited me, I'm pretty introverted. I like company, one or two people but i feel lost in a big gathering. I don't like parties or forced get togethers. I live my own company. I've got friends but no family to meet up with.
Lockdown hasn't been a million miles away to my usual life.
Don't know if I'm a weirdo or fairly typical?
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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UhtredRagnarson · 05/04/2021 18:00
It has suited me but I’ve also recognised that left to my own devices I become completely insular and then get depressed. At the start I thought yes, this is perfect I can hide from the world but I now realise that not healthy for me. I do need to force myself to have some social contact.
DramaAlpaca · 05/04/2021 18:08
I'm with you @ssd. I'm an introvert, as are DH and young adult son still at home. We've all quite enjoyed just having each other's company in lockdown, and the relief at not having to attend social gatherings I don't particularly want to go to has been great.
Angeldust747 · 05/04/2021 18:13
DH absolutely loves it, although he has a dedicated office and already had a lot of friends that he plays games with online. I'm the opposite, I hate working from the living room, haven't seen anywhere near enough of friends and family, and would love to get back to the office part time as I miss my team
LegoPirateMonkey · 05/04/2021 18:16
It’s been a nightmare for me as my house has never been empty. I have been so badly drained by the constant company (of my own, much loved family!) and so few chances to recharge with silence and solitude. Restrictions easing is much better for me as the kids are back at school and so I can get my energy and focus back and then be equipped to socialise in the garden or over zoom or whatever. Lockdown was terrible from that point of view; I was constantly exhausted.
brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 05/04/2021 18:16
If you’re weird then there’s two of us. I am upset today that things are opening up, because once again I will be obliged to go out and do things I hate doing, in the name of pleasing everyone else and appearing ‘normal’.
My dream is to sail off alone across the ocean on a small boat, get as far away from the next human as possible !
Lockdown has given me “cover” to be myself and I don’t want that to end.
QuiteContraryMarie · 05/04/2021 18:22
I think lockdown suits all sorts of people.
I’m an extrovert and very sociable and love going out but equally I’ve enjoyed having a bit of timeout with no FOMO.
Equally I’ve enjoyed just having out with my husband and child, at home. But we have a big house, garden and haven’t had any change in financial circumstances.
I know plenty of my single friends, whose whole lives revolve around their social lives, have found it very hard.
thecatsthecats · 05/04/2021 18:24
I have quite deep relationships with a small number of people, and all the "extras" haven't been missed at all. My immediate in laws - I like them. The extended 20 odd extras? I wouldn't notice if they dropped off the planet. My best friends - miss them a lot. Their extended friend groups - eh, they just get in the way at gatherings.
But lockdown is about so much more than people. I miss the gym, the pub, foreign trips and LOTS of seeing the people who do matter a lot to me.
So lockdown can fuck off.
brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 05/04/2021 18:27
The thing is, I worry about what others think of me (and my lack of social life) the lock down gave a reason not to worry as we didn't have a choice, but to stay in and not mix.
Gosh you just wrote exactly what I feel too. People expect me to be sociable and it’s exhausting, stressful and I hate it. And now we have to start all that again.
winniesanderson · 05/04/2021 18:29
For me, as an introvert, it has been a struggle. I can't remember the last time I was alone. Don't get me wrong, I love my family. But I really crave time to myself every now and then. But then with two kids, one a sleep dodging toddler, that's thin on the ground at the best of times 😂
ArtemisiaGentle · 05/04/2021 18:32
Introverted, shy, and socially anxious here.
Plus side was I wasn't under pressure to go out with colleagues all the time to the pub or whatever.
Negative side is that I've felt disconnected from the few friends I had. WhatsApp can only take you so far. I am a difficult person to be friends with because I bail on meet-ups constantly, and only two people "get" why.
halfbakedkate · 05/04/2021 18:36
I know exactly how you feel.
I am dreading how my sense of loneliness and isolation is exacerbated when restrictions lift. And how down it gets me. When no one can go anywhere or do anything, I don't feel like such an odd one out. I know that sounds selfish though.
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