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Presents at Easter

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ShutDown40 · 05/04/2021 10:52

I've seen quite a few parents post images on social media of their Easter treats but they seem to be getting more and more extravagant!?

One person I saw has a toddler who had all of their gifts lined up on the sofa (god knows why 🙄) it included multiple chocolate eggs and bunnies, books, comics, hot wheels cars etc.

Am I miserable or is this OTT? And is it not just ridiculous to bunch all of the gifts together and take a photo for social media? Confused

It's been a shit year and people want to treat their kids but I personally wouldn't do that for my children, I hope they don't expect it when their old enough either!

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FionnulaTheCooler · 05/04/2021 10:59

I got DD a gift bag with an Easter egg and a few non chocolate bits in it like a blind bag collectable, lip gloss, bath bomb etc. Nothing expensive, just bits I picked up in Home Bargains to treat her after a pretty crap year where she's generally been really good and just got on with remote learning. Didn't post it on Facebook though.

Sarah180818 · 05/04/2021 11:02

I got each of my DC two Easter eggs and they got a couple more from family. I personal don't do presents!

Okbussitout · 05/04/2021 11:07

I've never seen so many people bothers about what others do on their social media than on mumsnet. Remember many families and friends can't see each other still, social media is how many people stay in touch with each others lives. I don't use it personally much to post but I have no issue when people do. Just let them get on with it and mure or scroll if you're bothered.

As for the present issue. Things have been shit so I get why people do it. It does potentially create an issue around expectations to spend money. But like Christmas I think you can make Easter or any occasion about having fun quality time together. For example an eater egg hunt with a few pounds worth of chocolate is probably way more fun than adding 30 quid worth of toys to their already overflowing pile of toys.

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ShutDown40 · 05/04/2021 11:09

@Fatladyslim didn't realise there was already a thread, I should've know, there's plenty of us miserable mothers on Mumsnet Wink

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eatsleepread · 05/04/2021 11:10

My kids are older now, so I got them each a large egg and put £20 in their accounts, so that they could buy themselves a wee treat.
I go nuts at Christmas and have a floor full of presents. I wouldn't dream of posting that on social media. It's incredibly crass, not to mention potentially insensitive.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 05/04/2021 11:17

I wouldn’t take pictures but don’t subscribe to children not being able to have gifts/treats outside of birthdays and Christmas.

A friend thinks it’s OTT to buy anything other than a small egg and didn’t see the irony in the fact that she had bought wine, chocolates and a new nail varnish for herself.

MrsAvocet · 05/04/2021 11:18

Funny you should post this as I was just about to do the same. I've seen a few pictures on social media showing Easter presents. One child in our extended family was given something that I would have thought of as a main Christmas present. Obviously people can buy their children whatever they like whenever they like, but I was just surprised. I've never noticed this kind of thing before this year, it was always a couple of eggs and maybe a cuddly bunny or chick if you really wanted to push the boat out. I wonder if it's a covid effect - parents wanting to make up for missed holidays, birthday parties etc?

emilyfrost · 05/04/2021 11:20

Ok, so be miserable and don’t do it for your kids if you don’t want to make the effort 🤷‍♀️

Other people want to and there’s nothing wrong with that. No need to be snide because you can’t be arsed to find the time/motivation/effort to do it for your own kids.

Millymomooo · 05/04/2021 11:23

You post were you want! If people aren’t happy they don’t need to read or answer. Too many mn police on their high horses on here.

AlwaysLatte · 05/04/2021 11:26

We used to get them teddies and books and a crafty thing of some sort, as well as chocolate of course. But nothing OTT. They've outgrown the teddies but we still do an egg hunt. They have 10 small plastic eggs with a mini Lindt bunny or chocolate in, plus £1 coin and a clue to the next one. 11th egg is a bigger one with money in (£30 this year) and a key. Then in the place the key unlocks is a little hoard of bigger eggs and chocolate, Nerds etc. It takes a while as they like tricky clues. Yesterday they had algebra questions as well 😂 All in probably about £50 each but they always remember it and talk about previous years hunts.

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ShutDown40 · 05/04/2021 11:27

@emilyfrost I would suggest that it isn't actually a huge effort to go out and buy ten hot wheels cars and take a picture of them..

When I was younger we spent the morning boiling and decorating eggs, rolling them down a hill, doing a hunt etc. Taking multiple kids outside and decorating eggs is probably more of an effort than filling your living room full of gifts to capture an image for social media, no?

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 05/04/2021 11:28

I got presents at Easter 30 years ago. Things like a teddy from Disney Store, books etc. Difference is there was no Social Media then.

My DDs have a large and generous family. I don't post pictures of the piles... But it is a lot. Yesterday they had multiple eggs, books, a collectible and Lego. They also received Christmas presents on Thursday when they saw Grandparents.

Okbussitout · 05/04/2021 11:45

[quote ShutDown40]@emilyfrost I would suggest that it isn't actually a huge effort to go out and buy ten hot wheels cars and take a picture of them..

When I was younger we spent the morning boiling and decorating eggs, rolling them down a hill, doing a hunt etc. Taking multiple kids outside and decorating eggs is probably more of an effort than filling your living room full of gifts to capture an image for social media, no?[/quote]
Do you know people don't do this too? So what if they don't.

Do you want people to tell you that your way of doing easter is better and everyone else is shit?

dropthedeadhorse · 05/04/2021 11:53

The kids grandparents buy them more chocolate than I would allow them to eat in a year plus some clothes and toys. So I don’t get them anything extra but do Easter crafts, egg rolling etc with them... oh and I eat at least 75% of the chocolate for them. Everyone has a lovely time and no effort for me.

Stompythedinosaur · 05/04/2021 11:53

The only bit I have an issue with is the pictures for social media.

I got my dc a small gift yesterday as well as a chocolate egg and bunny, and he did a hunt to find them. It gave me a lot of pleasure, as it did them. We'll enjoy using the gift too (which was a pot and seeds).

There's nothing wrong with giving a gift, also nothing wrong with not. Different families are different.

DK123 · 05/04/2021 12:01

I used to get an Easter egg and a soft toy or a book and later on an Easter egg and a cd. I don't think there's any harm in it unless it's getting ott like another birthday/Christmas. It's better to have a toy or a book than a ridiculous amount of chocolate

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ShutDown40 · 05/04/2021 12:01

@Okbussitout I don't think spending shit loads of money equates to 'making an effort', no.

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mamahoo · 05/04/2021 13:17

I agree, totally OTT.

I remember getting an

emilyfrost · 05/04/2021 13:26

When I was younger we spent the morning boiling and decorating eggs, rolling them down a hill, doing a hunt etc. Taking multiple kids outside and decorating eggs is probably more of an effort than filling your living room full of gifts to capture an image for social media, no?

And do you do any of this with your kids?

LubaLuca · 05/04/2021 13:28

I have always bought myself, my husband and our children a book at Easter, as well as chocolate. I don't know why, it just seems like a good enough excuse to all choose something we want.

drpet49 · 05/04/2021 13:31

Completely OTT. Easter gifts? Ridiculous.

TheRealForReal · 05/04/2021 13:31

I have 4 dc, they got 2 eggs each off us, and about 3 each from other family members. That's more than enough imo !

Caspianberg · 05/04/2021 13:34

Depends. Where we live Christmas is a very religious holiday and gifts are very small token gifts. Then Easter is the bigger gift event. So most local children would have got a smaller thing like some books or a game at Christmas, and now just received the bigger gift of a bike.

ItsAllBlahBlahBlah · 05/04/2021 13:39

My kids are 3 and 1. They have been given a stupid amount of chocolate from mine and DH family so we didn't bother with that, instead I got them some bubbles, some rabbit ears and a thomas train (the little ones). It's a gift but I didn't see an issue with it. Each to their own unless it's like a repeat of christmas

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