Anyone else dreading having to see people?

[rainbowballs]

I've been through a hell of a year (miscarriage etc) and am about a stone over what I feel comfortable as.

I just don't want to see anyone!

I know I just need to lose the weight but socialising then brings on more eating and drinking....

I need to do my roots too, that will make me feel a bit better I suppose.

Just me then

Me too. I've gained a lot of weight and my house is a mess. Can't get hair coloured till April 21st either.

For different reasons but yes, ending lockdown brings social pressure I was glad to see the back of!

Sorry for your loss. Your roots, a pamper beauty session, and a nice outfit won't change how you feel, but might make you feel more confident

@Shouldbedoing

Me too. I've gained a lot of weight and my house is a mess. Can't get hair coloured till April 21st either.

I'm going to really try and get the weight off.

Definitely not just you, I feel EXACTLY the same, I just didn't see this thread until now!

I'm really sorry you've had such a tough year

I think a lot of people are feeling the same about seeing people again. Apart from the way I'm feeling about how I look, I don't know how I will cope with being properly in the middle of a lot of people again. I was in Tesco last weekend and it was absolutely packed and I felt I couldn't cope with all the noise and people. It's going to be strange.

I am sorry re your miscarriage.

No. I can't wait.

Why are you such a dick @ginuwine

What a cunty comment.

💐 Sorry about your mc op.

@Wobblesandchickuns

Why are you such a dick *@ginuwine*

Right? What an arsehole response that was.

Me too OP, I’ve gained weight, I look older and unhealthy, I really need a couple more months to sort myself out before socialising.

@3Britnee

What a cunty comment.

💐 Sorry about your mc op.

I missed there comment.. what was it?

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Not just you op. I cant be bothered with all the catch up socialising, christenings, weddings and other parties. People keep asking when I'll be celebrating my 30th which was last august. It's been and passed in my eyes no need to catch up. I know people on mumsnet say you can say no to going but in real life you cant miss these family events. Ugh

I've been quite ill and I've made it clear but I haven't received cards or phone calls or texts to see how I am. I've kept on top of birthday cards, anniversary cards etc. We've moved, not one card. I don't think I can be bothered to see any of the miserable sods to be honest. to you OP. I know a miscarriage can really do a lot of damage to your view of yourself. I hope you navigate your way to better days.

Yeah I'll only have about a month back in the office til I go on maternity leave, I'm not really bothered apart from I've been able to drop DC off at school every morning and if I go back I'll have to pay extra childcare for that so I can get to work on time.

Other than that sometimes I feel anxiety about it, sometimes I look forward to seeing people again.

@Shouldbedoing

Me too. I've gained a lot of weight and my house is a mess. Can't get hair coloured till April 21st either.

Me too

None of my clothes fit. I need to lose at least 10lbs before I can go out!

This was exactly me last lockdown.

This year I have been doing Fast800 and lots of exercise so finally fit back into my nice clothes (I had cheap bigger size stuff) and it's amazing the difference in my anxiety etc this year.

Please do be kind to yourself though. You've had an awful start to the year. A stone will come off quickly when you're ready.

The people that matter won't care if you've put a bit of weight on. Lots of people have!

A lot of people have out weight on OP. Weight comes off when things go back to normal I think if habits change back.

Personally I've loved not having to see my family. I'm hoping to spin it out for as long as I can.

Sorry about your mc

Totally with you. Got tons more greys in the last year that need sorting. And at my heaviest for a while. Plus I’ve got nothing to say and all people currently give me the ick.

Just done a fresh dye job and feel much better about that.

Having a few wines today and then will be virtuous for a while

@bookish83

For different reasons but yes, ending lockdown brings social pressure I was glad to see the back of!

Sorry for your loss. Your roots, a pamper beauty session, and a nice outfit won't change how you feel, but might make you feel more confident

I think like this, but maybe our reasons are different. For me having come out of the relationship with my abusive ex, and even prior to that feeling crap, but more so last year being the start of difficult times, not much chance of getting out for a night out etc, just not the same anyway since DC came along, and I look and feel terrible. So for me during lockdown I was thinking at least everyone else is home at night too! Selfish and sad I know, but that's my outlook on it!

Me too. I don't even dare weigh myself but wouldn't be surprised if I had put on 2 stones.

I've got to travel to an office next week that I haven't been to since December 2019. They will remember me as an averagely attractive, reasonably well groomed if middle aged blonde lady who was about a size 12. I am now a fat, haggard, grey haired crone.

I am actually embarrassed for myself.

@Redruby2020

Yes different reasons but I can understand those. I'm sorry about your ex but glad they are an ex!

I had a baby last year so the biggest life change I've had was done in the worst year... I see the positives from it but I feel like socially I'm struggling to get excited for
Meet ups, planning things, etc. Like I still want to hibernate for some reason.

Life feels a lot less pressured when you
Can't see anyone but perhaps that is just how I think now as I feel a bit mentally tired. And post partum chubby, a year later!