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Original poster

To go back to bed.

30 replies

MsScoot · 03/04/2021 09:06

DS5 has started waking up early (today around 5am, and insisting on being downstairs by 6am) so I’ve been awake since 5am, and since it’s DHs turn for a long lie he’s been up since 8.30.

Lack of sleep often triggers a migraine for me. DH is taking DS to the park and raised an eyebrow when I said that I was going back to bed for an hour: he said that he was taking DS to the park so I could do the housework: not sleep.

Full disclosure: it is my turn for a long lie tomorrow

Aibu to just go for an hours sleep anyway

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LouiseTrees · 03/04/2021 09:09

Tell him if you do housework you’ll be moping about for the rest of the day and 5am is not normal adult rising time. Would he rather you got a migraine and were out of commission all day?

DYWMB · 03/04/2021 09:09

Next time don't tell him.
Going to the park so you can do housework. Grin

What a top fella. Does he see spending time with his child as a chore so you must do something equally as miserable.

If he's anything like mine he'd never even notice you'd done housework or not. Put the washing machine on and go to bed.

Orchidflower1 · 03/04/2021 09:11

If you don’t sleep you’ll get a migraine so no housework would get done anyway!

Can you have a half hour nap and half hour tidy up. I think I’ve read that a 20 min nap can be mor rejuvenating than a 60 min one anyway x

UhtredRagnarson · 03/04/2021 09:12

He’s hilarious!! Does he think he’s your employer? He doesn’t get to dictate what you do in your free time.

RizzleRazzle · 03/04/2021 09:14

he said he was taking DS to the park so I could do housework how good of him

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MsScoot · 03/04/2021 09:15

In fairness, if it was the other way round, he wouldn’t be going back to bed. He’d just be getting on with it.

I think he’s a wee bit bored of taking DS to the park (aren’t we all)

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Exhausted4ever · 03/04/2021 09:17

What a tool you're married to. Get back to bed

UhtredRagnarson · 03/04/2021 09:17

In fairness, if it was the other way round, he wouldn’t be going back to bed. He’d just be getting on with it.

That’s his choice. He can go to bed if he wants. Would you object?

Crazycakelady17 · 03/04/2021 09:18

Go to bed! I went up at 2.30pm yesterday slept till 6.30om we always have a steak night on a Friday but nope we got a takeaway we are still alive and everyone’s happy!

pasturesgreen · 03/04/2021 09:18

Go back to bed (I have, too Grin).

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MsScoot · 03/04/2021 09:19

@UhtredRagnarson I’d be telling him to go back to bed, otherwise he’s moping about being a pain in the arse and miserable and grumpy

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UhtredRagnarson · 03/04/2021 09:19

Exactly!!

Alienchannell21 · 03/04/2021 09:21

Go back to bed. I'd not be wasting quiet time doing housework. Housework can easily be done with a 5 year old.

Original poster
MsScoot · 03/04/2021 09:26

@Alienchannell21 unfortunately my son is a pain in the arse and follows me about wanting attention when I’m trying to get anything done

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bishbashbosh99 · 03/04/2021 11:22

Bloody hell we always go back to bed on a weekend as soon as the other is up. Why the hell wouldn't you use all the time to can he sleep. How weird

Flowers24 · 03/04/2021 11:30

What! What a thoughtless man!!

jessstan2 · 03/04/2021 11:37

Grab sleep when you can.

I wouldn't have liked mine waking at 5am, I don't know how or if you can train her to stay asleep longer. Maybe keep her up later? I'm so glad mine never woke before 9 during weekends, holidays and days off. He was OK getting up for school and when I went to work.

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MsScoot · 03/04/2021 12:08

DS usually sleeps in: even as a baby. But the past few weeks he has taken to very early wake ups.

I went back to bed at 10 for 90 minutes. Woke up and feel crap and groggy. Before going to bed DH was making lots of sarky remarks about me going back to bed: all smug because he was up at 830 and I’m now being the lazy one for going back to bed. Moaning because I was drinking a cup of tea instead of chores or getting DS ready while he was in the shower. Pah. I’ve cleaned two rooms and sitting on my arse having a cuppa just now

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jessstan2 · 03/04/2021 13:44

@MsScoot

DS usually sleeps in: even as a baby. But the past few weeks he has taken to very early wake ups.

I went back to bed at 10 for 90 minutes. Woke up and feel crap and groggy. Before going to bed DH was making lots of sarky remarks about me going back to bed: all smug because he was up at 830 and I’m now being the lazy one for going back to bed. Moaning because I was drinking a cup of tea instead of chores or getting DS ready while he was in the shower. Pah. I’ve cleaned two rooms and sitting on my arse having a cuppa just now

Good for you! I bet your husband would have a nap if he felt like it. Does he fall asleep on the sofa in the evening?
Original poster
MsScoot · 03/04/2021 14:22

@jessstan2 yes he does!! Every bloody night! I never do oddly: feeling a lot more awake now though

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JackieTheFart · 03/04/2021 14:41

What is his actual problem?

JackieTheFart · 03/04/2021 14:42

Apart from the fact he’s a MegaDickhead by the sounds of things?

bubblebath62636 · 03/04/2021 14:55

Get to bed op, he can look after his child when he gets back too.

For context i am 28 weeks pregnant and exhausted. I have a 3 hour nap every day working around DH work schedule.

He takes care/entertains his DSD while i nap, he even does a bit of housework! Decent men do exist!

Steptoeshorse1965 · 03/04/2021 15:05

Not much fun in your concentration camp is it? My other half goes back to bed when I leave the house at 6.30am of a morning, not at work at present, no need to be up early, nothing that urgent that necessitates it. I don't mind. Peevishness taints relationships.

PatriachyChickenChampion2020 · 03/04/2021 15:18

"he said that he was taking DS to the park so I could do the housework"

Christ I can't imagine wanting to stay married to a man who said those words to me. He sounds as though is he extremely unkind to you. Is this normal for him, to speak to you like this and have these expectations?

(@Steptoeshorse1965 I dislike the use of "concentration camp" in that context as it's completely unnecessary and a stupid comparison)