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Strange neighbours

127 replies

Whenthingsgobumpinthenight · 02/04/2021 21:25

Ok, please tell me if you think the house next to us sounds weird or am I just being ridiculous.

We’ve lived in our house for almost 5 months now but never seen our neighbours, not properly. They are very rarely home during the day but home late at night. So far I’ve seen a van half a dozen times pull up at the house with a man in it. He’s never in the house very long 5 -30 mins. DH thought he might be doing work on the house but he’s not there long enough. I have seen a few different cars pulling in and out with a woman driving but I’ve never got a good look at her, once I think there was someone in the passenger side. Again the cars don’t stay long. There seem to be the same 2 cars that tend to park overnight. I only know this because my bedroom over looks their driveway so when I’m closing my blinds at night I can see them, but only ever one at a time. Otherwise I never see them pulling up. The car is always gone before we get up in the mornings. Who ever turns up to the house dosnt until usually 10-11 o’clock at night. There is lots of moving around and banging which goes on quite late sometimes.

Today we saw a different car pull up, for the first time we were stood outside our front door, I was so bloody curious that a walked into the car door my DCs had left open🤦‍♀️ But it’s like they are magic as you never seen anyone going in or out of the actual house.

The other day the windows were open for the first time during the day. Not thrown open like ours and everyone else’s in the street, just slightly open and the curtains were pulled almost closed. At the front of the house I’d get as we have to close ours to block sunlight sometimes but the back of the house was the same. My DH was stood outside talking to our DC the same day and glanced up to see a woman watching them but she shot behind the curtains when she saw him look up. He didn’t get a good look at her.

Last week I was woken up by what appeared to be shouting or screaming coming from the house. At the time I dismissed it as the other side of us, not adjoining, is a student house. They aren’t usually loud but do occasionally like to have a few. When I got up I saw a couple of the students in the front garden and the music from their house was travelling through our open upstairs windows so I put it down to that but now I’m not certain it was the students as they were laughing and loudly chatting, what woke me sounded different.

For some reason my DH seemed to think older kids, high school age lived in the house, he dosnt know why he thought this and can’t remember seeing any, he viewed the house with the landlord and agent so he thinks he may have been told this.

We’ve got quite a good view of a lot of houses all around us from the upstairs of our house and with the nice weather there are lots of people out spending time in gardens, open windows chatting over hedges etc but not with the house right next door. There has been no one in their garden, front or back.

I don’t think I’m a nosy neighbour but I am observant of my surroundings and I like to know faces, I think it’s just natural to recognise movements of people where you live.

So Do you think this is weird, maybe vampires or wizards live there???? Or am I being ridiculous and stop being nosy.

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ContractClockAndCrucible · 02/04/2021 22:28

Sounds dodgy. A work colleague of mine rented out his deceased mother's house. After 6 months the 'tenants' did a bunk after not paying the rent for 2 months. Colleague went to check the house and it was in a terrible state. It had been used as a cannabis farm (the 'tenants' weren't living there), and it cost him 3K to sort out the mess.

Moondust001 · 02/04/2021 22:28

We really need to get out of these lockdowns. Watching the neighbours is not actually "normal life" Smile

WiddlinDiddlin · 02/04/2021 22:29

Oh and before anyone gets all snotty at me at what I should have done .. I put the pressure on them to get it done and gone, made it clear should the police show up, I'd definitely be giving out names, so they rushed it, overcooked the crop trying to dry it and it ended up WORTHLESS, they couldn't give it away. Ha.

CaffeineAndCrochet · 02/04/2021 22:30

I do get regular whiffs off the stuff but I put it down to the students on the other side.

Poor students are getting the blame for everything! Smile

LadyOfTheFlowers · 02/04/2021 22:31

In all honesty, I think it's fine for people to notice what's normal and what's not - there used to be a thing called "Neighbourhood Watch".

People around us used to know that DS scaling the garden wall and climbing in an ajar window was the norm as he'd forgot his key and they knew what he looked like and that a chap jimmying the garage door open wasn't ok as we didn't have a car so someone messing with the garage wasn't ok and not normal for us day to day.

It doesn't mean they know too much about us or are nosy. It's looking out for each other as much as modern day exchanges with strangers allow.

Lolwhat · 02/04/2021 22:31

You’re so nosy, maybe read a book or put on some Netflix instead

FOJN · 02/04/2021 22:33

I’m so glad that my nearest neighbours are a few miles away! I couldn’t cope with people judging how often I go out, what car is on my drive etc.

It's not as bad as you think. I live alone and I'm always grateful my neighbours notice if they haven't seen me for a few days. Sending a text to check I'm OK always feels like it comes from a good place, it never feels intrusive.

RagzReturnsRebooted · 02/04/2021 22:39

Not nosy at all. It's completely normal when living close to other humans that you'd be curious. Especially if something odd is going on, because your brain gets triggered that there's a potential threat.
I'd be fascinated and definitely thinking something dodgy is going on.

Whenthingsgobumpinthenight · 02/04/2021 22:40

@Spotsandstars

Could be trafficking. Ring 101 if you're concerned.
I did think that but then I’d assume there would be noise during the day but it’s deadly silent. And the cars that are there at night are small not the sort you’d move people around in, I’d assume anyway.
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jessstan2 · 02/04/2021 22:43

I can honestly say I never notice my neighbours unless I happen to go out at the same time as them (and I haven't been out for ages); I generally don't hear them. I hope they aren't interested in me but....I'm not very interesting except in my own mind.

Peace to you, your neighbours are probably perfectly normal but they are entitled to their privacy.

earsup · 02/04/2021 22:44

curtains always shut could be possible cannabis farm but they are more sussed these days...no longer renting grotty houses in cheap areas...moving to smarter areas and suburbs and behaving more normal....if they have good ventilation set up you wont smell anything.

Whenthingsgobumpinthenight · 02/04/2021 22:45

@whatsleep

It makes me think of the stories you read about in the news where people or children have been held captive and although neighbours say the family were odd or the curtains were always closed, nobody ever reports it. Reading your post has made my skin crawl a bit.
This is why I pressed my husband about why he thought kids lived there as it’s definitely not normal not to hear children.
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Famousinlove · 02/04/2021 22:46

Vampires 100%

soolazy · 02/04/2021 22:49

Meth lab upstairs, cannabis farm downstairs and kinky sex dungeon currently being hollowed out below.

YukoandHiro · 02/04/2021 22:50

Have you knocked on the door to introduce yourself since you moved in?

CanIHaveAHolidayPlease · 02/04/2021 22:56

My initial thought was modern day slavery but i'd defo say cannabis farm would be a possibility. Can you hear fans whirring in the dead of the night?

memberofthewedding · 02/04/2021 23:00

I am a deeply deeply private person and have no interest whatsoever in my neighbours unless they are doing something to bother me - like noise! The elderly couple next door once told me they go to bed at 9pm and rise at 6pm. So I seldom see them as I keep very irregular hours.

I have an online business tro run and certain tasks to get through each day, so I selddom answer the door unless expecting someone.
If someone came checking on me and asking why I was not up and about on this fine day I would smartly tell them to mind their own business! I do have regular food deliveries on friday and try to schedule any other deliveries for the same day.

Just because people are private does not make them weird.

Whenthingsgobumpinthenight · 02/04/2021 23:02

@YukoandHiro

Have you knocked on the door to introduce yourself since you moved in?
No, but only because no-one seems to be home during the day and I only usually see any cars if I'm upstairs and see out of the windows. If I'm downstairs I tend be in the back of the house or garden.
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Dinkydody · 02/04/2021 23:02

My neighbour has carers come in and out at different times and their curtains are always shut not just for privacy but the light shines on their T.V. Could be something similar.

toocold54 · 02/04/2021 23:03

Could it be a student house/hmo?
They could be out studying during the day and if it’s medical students they’ll likely be doing shift work

YouWerePrettyIWasLonely · 02/04/2021 23:05

My neighbours are very routine driven. Sometimes they like to destroy my garden and once even wandered aimlessly into the kitchen. It is a field of donkeys though. I sometimes miss human neighbours but not after reading this thread.

AnnaFiveTowns · 02/04/2021 23:06

First thing that came to mind: cannabis farm

Goldieloxx · 02/04/2021 23:06

There's nothing wrong with being nosy, perfectly natural to be curious and I'd much rather know my neighbours were keeping half an eye on my house. That said, my neighbours are totally odd, don't open the curtains and if you knock the door, for a parcel or whatever, will only speak through the letterbox. It is the source of much entertainment for me esp at the moment

Shrivelled · 02/04/2021 23:06

I love my neighbours being nosey. It makes me feel safe and much more part of a community than when I lived in London and everyone minded their own business and I kept getting burgled. Call 101 if you’re worried, trust your instinct. You could ask for a welfare check as you’ve seen a woman at the house who’s trying not to be seen.

Sellandtravel · 02/04/2021 23:10

I think you need to get a hobby. You sound a bit creepy watching them so much.