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AIBU?

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Weekend mega lie ins

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ticklycough · 02/04/2021 11:45

My dp has always had lie ins at the weekend, anything up to midday. I didn’t mind too much before we had our dd (now 3) but I’m getting fed up of it now.

It’s Easter Saturday and it’s 11:45 and he’s still in bed, sun is shining outside and it seems such a waste to me!

He likes to stay up late and thinks it’s his right to lie in at weekends. I feel it’s unfair on me as I work in the week too but still have to get up with our dd at weekends. Anyone else have this problem or AIBU?

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Umbivalent · 02/04/2021 11:46

YANBU re the lie ins. But, that's soooooome lie in - as it's still Good Friday

BillyIsMyBunny · 02/04/2021 11:46

Do you take it in turns? I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have a lie-in but there are two weekend days so you should both be getting a lie-in.

Umbivalent · 02/04/2021 11:47

I would probably decided that I needed to vacuum the bedroom at 10am every Saturday...

thekingfisher · 02/04/2021 11:48

Isn't it Friday ?

ZaraW · 02/04/2021 11:48

Let him stay in bed and carry on with your day. Why have you let him get away with it for so long?

Exhausted4ever · 02/04/2021 11:50

I'd be fuming. Why are you facilitating this?

ITSADOGSLIFE21 · 02/04/2021 11:52

Tomorrow on Easter Sunday, you get the mega lie in until Easter Monday.

LittleBearPad · 02/04/2021 11:53

It’s Friday but that’s good because you get two lie ins over the next three days.

Brefugee · 02/04/2021 11:53

Firstly it's friday but that's good because when it really is saturday you can kick him out early and have your own Saturday lie-in

JackieWeaversZoomAc · 02/04/2021 11:53

One of the wonders of being a single parent is a) never having to witness this shit ever again; and b) EOW I can lie in bed for as long as as I want to.

Umbivalent · 02/04/2021 11:53

@ITSADOGSLIFE21

Tomorrow on Easter Sunday, you get the mega lie in until Easter Monday.

Tomorrow is Easter Saturday, so three more lie ins available

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/04/2021 11:54

So you both work, you have a 3 year old and he is sleeping until this time but you always have to get up with DD?

Fuck that, he needs to go to bed earlier and you should both get one lie in each on the weekend. You don't get to lie in until midday when you have young kids.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 02/04/2021 11:55

@JackieWeaversZoomAc

One of the wonders of being a single parent is a) never having to witness this shit ever again; and b) EOW I can lie in bed for as long as as I want to.

Same here. Life is much easier.

Merryoldgoat · 02/04/2021 11:55

I don’t think there’s anything intrinsically wrong with lie-ins but it does depend on how the workload is generally shared.

My DH had a lie in until 10.30 today. I just got up and did breakfasts and he’ll do lunches .

I’m tired and may go for a sleep in a bit.

I think the issue is if you can’t discuss this stuff reasonably and come to a sensible agreement.

SeeYouInAnotherLife · 02/04/2021 11:57

@JackieWeaversZoomAc

One of the wonders of being a single parent is a) never having to witness this shit ever again; and b) EOW I can lie in bed for as long as as I want to.

This with bells on.

Kids with my ex today and I’m still in bed. I plan to stay where I am for some time.

Merryoldgoat · 02/04/2021 11:57

What you describe is obviously not ok but the intrinsic belief any lie in is a massive character flaw isn’t true.

catmumandhumanmum · 02/04/2021 11:57

You should each have a lie in at the weekends, you deserve one too as you get up early everyday with a young child, unless you just don't like them?
Take your son out, show him he's missing out.

Silverfly · 02/04/2021 11:59

Why do you have to get up with DD? Why don't you take turns?

namechange202086 · 02/04/2021 11:59

I just panicked thinking I had missed a day.

WaterBottle123 · 02/04/2021 11:59

Take it in turns at weekends, with a limit of 10.30 as you have a small person

Providora · 02/04/2021 12:00

Where in the world are you that it's Easter Saturday?

NoSquirrels · 02/04/2021 12:03

He likes to stay up late and thinks it’s his right to lie in at weekends. I feel it’s unfair on me as I work in the week too but still have to get up with our dd at weekends.

How the bloody hell have you got to your DC bring 3 years old without sorting this out yet?

He gets one weekend lie-in, you get another.
Lie-ins to last (completely undisturbed) to a mutually agreed time in the morning e.g. 10am.

Peace43 · 02/04/2021 12:04

I think 8am is a decent lie in but I have a kid and a dog and I’m a single parent!

I don’t know why you are waiting around for him.

honeylulu · 02/04/2021 12:10

"His right"? Because he's been working? Well so have you! Tell him it's your right as well! What a nob!

Other posters have pointed out its Good Friday. Tomorrow is Holy Saturday. Easter Saturday is the week after.

VestaTilley · 02/04/2021 12:25

It’s not his right to lie in- why do you have to do the parenting alone while he stays in bed? He’s a father, he has responsibilities, and is missing time with his daughter.

Who would look after her if you just decided to stay in bed all morning?

He needs to go to bed earlier.

My DH and I both get up with our DS on the weekend whenever he wakes up so we can be together as a family. The only rare exception is if either of us has slept really badly, or if one of us is ill.

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