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Dd (8 Yrs) and ds (5 yrs) playing Nintendo switch and apparently me sitting in the room silently is enough to be blamed for them to lose game.
Ds tells me to leave the room. I told him that was very unkind and it hurt my feelings.
I say to my husband in a different room ‘if I’d have said that to my mother she would have my slapped my face off’ he responded it’s your fault because you speak to your own mum like shit so the kids are copying you.
This is completely untrue. My husband seems to blame me for all the dc bad behaviours. I just feel like a skivvy good for the washing, cleaning and school runs.
I’m the one that sorts out play dates, surprises for the kids- I’ve organised an Easter treat for them.

This seems to be a thing with certain, poorly disciplined (IMO) children these days. My nephew said it to me before, he will get pretty angry if he loses a game and it's never his own doing 🙄 too much tech fries their brains. I did the whole 'how dare you speak to me like that' and took the game away, his mum came and re instated it and told me I shouldn't be so hard as he is only a kid who is upset at his game 🙄

It doesn't sound like you and your husband are on the same level with parenting/discipline. I do hope you took the game away though. And eat their Easter eggs.

Agree w/ PP that there are multiple issues at play here. Your husband isn't being very helpful, but if it's true that you have a hostile relationship with your mother, your children will pick up on that, and it will also affect how you approach parenting.

You don't have to put up with disrespectful treatment from your children, but it would help if you and your husband were on the same page. You can work on it on your own, though, if your husband's not supportive.

How on earth did the DH become an abuser already!?

This is MN. He’s automatically in the wrong from the off.

I don't think you're really asking if you're being unreasonable, because no your kids shouldn't be telling you to leave the common areas of the house, and your husband isn't being helpful really, is he?

I think you just needed the opportunity to vent to unbiased people.

In your situation id probably tell DH they're treating you like shit because they're following DHs suit, instead of supporting you he starts telling you that it's your fault!

And your son needs pulling up, they speak to you like that, they need to lose something, go to the naughty step, their room. Somewhere. Then talk to them about being disrespectful before they can continue their game etc.

I'd be pissed off in your situation too

Regardless of where they have picked it up from they need to learn that you won't tolerate being spoken to like that.

Telling them they hurt your feelings should have been a conversation after a punishment and they accepted they were wrong.

If you don't clamp down on it now while they are young, it won't get better.

Seems a weird thing for the kids to say my 10 and 6 year old alway want me to watch them play games or play with them. You should tell your kids to not be so rude and that it hurt your feelings

@UhtredRagnarson

But they’re not helping, they’re making OP want to delete the thread.

Take an educated guess why OP is upset!

No I’d rather know exactly what she needs help with rather than guessing. Thanks.

It’s not about you, it’s about the OP and posts like yours have run her off.