To ask hubby to remove a girl from his FB

[LilMrsT]

My hubby has always had alot of people on his Facebook from school days teen years etc. When I met him there was a girl who I knew also. She essentially bullied me in my younger years and I really dislike her, I mentioned it to hubby before but he didn't do much. She's became more active on his page liking his status, pics of our kids etc and it's really annoying me I feel she's still laughing at me all these years on. I sent him a serious message about how I felt and reminded him of what she put me through but he says I'm being controlling . I really don't feel I am.. am I??

Yanbu and you are not expecting too much by wanting your husband to be loyal enough by not being friends, social media or otherwise, with someone who has bullied you in the past. I wonder how he’d feel if you were friends with someone who’s made his life miserable in the past?

If a woman came on here saying her dh wanted her to remove a man who used to bully him I think the reactions would be different. He'd be labelled as abusive and controlling

I really doubt that. I know people are eager to shout men are abusive on here, but this really isn't controlling in any way. If you love your partner, you hate the person that made their childhood hell and make sure they are as far away from your lives as possible.

My husband would delete in a second without needing a reason

@RedSoloCup

Just go in and put her on his restricted list that means she can only see his pubic posts 🤣😂

I'd be a little concerned if she could only see his PUBIC posts 🤣

I think you both have a point. I sympathise with him because I would find it controlling if DH decided to tell me who I could and couldn't have on social media and am naturally a bit hmm about people who dictate their partner's social media.

I also see your point that it bothers you because the bullying has left a lasting imprint and you'd rather not have the closer contact.

It's the sort of situation that's best worked on by a sensible conversation rather than barking orders based on what someone else did as a child.

@thatwasme22 what a load of bollocks

Yeah this would upset me too

I think it's a bit unfair to expect him to remove her.

Just because she was mean to you at school it doesn't mean she wasn't a friend to him. The two things are separate. I wouldn't remove someone from my Facebook just because my partner didn't like them and they didn't get on.

If seeing things on his social media is upsetting you then stop looking.