to think i can cut my finger nails in my own sitting room if i want to

[thatwasme22]

I am living in a house share and there is 1 girl who 'moved' her bf in unofficially-well he is not part of the share but bes around a lot regardless and never pays bills etc. TBH I don't really care as I am not there much myself with long work hours.

Anyway I was sitting watching tv last night in living room and he appears. And I start cutting my fingernails-ok I was being unreasonable doing it there but he kicked off and told me off. This thread is not about me cutting my fingernails as I am expected to get roasted for that but it's more he doesn't have the right to tell me off in my own house I am paying rent for when he isn't. I wouldn't dare dream of entering somebody's house and give bout to them for picking their nose, eating loudly or breaking wind because it is THEIR house or a house they are paying rent for.

I didn't say anything but surely you don't dictate to people what they do in their own houses or houses they rent in if you are just a mere guest.

I would have told you stop too. He is a guest, and chopping your nails in front of him was a bit urgh...

But this is the problem - he doesn’t see himself as a guest. He wants to have a say in who does what in the house; but without the little inconvenience of paying any rent or contributing towards the bills.

You can’t get all prim and prissy about people not being on their best behaviour because there are ‘guests’ in the house if the so-called guest is a freeloader trying to sponge off the householders.

You can’t get all prim and prissy about people not being on their best behaviour because there are ‘guests’ in the house if the so-called guest is a freeloader trying to sponge off the householders.

That's a point though his status in the house is up to the op's housemate from whom she rents.

However people do not usually do personal grooming in the sitting room if someone else is present.

@Titterofwit

YANBU - but you should have told him to get to fuck and keep his opinions to himself.

Exactly this.

"This is my home. I pay rent here - you don't. Therefore you don't get to tell me off in my living room. Fuck off!"

You need to call a house meeting and deal with his unwelcome presence.

I still remember having to deal with something similar with a flatmate whose boyfriend ate all our food and used up our hot water and stayed every night. We were poorly paid nurses back then. They agreed he would only stay over at the weekends... but we thought he was still about during the, which was confirmed on the night one of the girls went to hang her washing out on the balcony, following the pair of them shouting their goodbyes at the front door, and he was crouched down hiding there, waiting for her to let him back in. I still remember her saying to him "Aidan, however did you get there?" to which my flatmate replied, "I doubt it was up the drainpipe...", we lived on the third floor!

@TwunchOfBats

"When you pay rent, you'll get a vote"

This!

If you are the one vacuuming the living room (or in my case, paying the cleaner who vacuums the living room) you are entitled to make as much mess of any kind as you choose. If another resident queried your behaviour you might to decide to rethink it but the opinion of a non paying guest is not to be regarded.

I cut my nails wherever I please. It's my house. I wouldn't have let his complaining go unanswered. Let the housemate react as she will, especially if you're hoping to move soon.

cutting mails is (for most people) something you only do in private

fucking hell, the stuff people get aerated about on here is baffling. Cutting nails is now ‘private’?! They’re fingernails. On your hands. Which everyone can see. I cut mine in the living room onto a tissue then wrap and bin. If a guest in my home is so delicate they can’t stomach seeing my nails being cut they can go and find somewhere else to squat.

@thatwasme22 YANBU, he was being a dick, throwing his weight around.

@jessstan2

You can’t get all prim and prissy about people not being on their best behaviour because there are ‘guests’ in the house if the so-called guest is a freeloader trying to sponge off the householders.

That's a point though his status in the house is up to the op's housemate from whom she rents.

However people do not usually do personal grooming in the sitting room if someone else is present.

OP doesn't rent from the housemate - RTFT.

The cocklodger's boyfriends status is only up to the OP's housemate when he's in the housemate's own private space. Not in a shared space that OP contributes to and he doesn't.

I'd have told the sponger to FRO!

I'd start picking my nose and scratching my arse in there and would tell him that, unlike him I actually fucking live here and pay rent, and if he doesn't like it, he can fuck off.

It's irrelevant what anyone thinks about cutting nails in the living room.

YANBU to think he has no right to 'tell you off' in YOUR house

YABU not to tell him to fuck off

YABU to quietly seethe & not tell your HM to tell her bf to fuck off back to his own flat. He isn't on the tenancy, he doesn't pay rent/bills and now he's trying to lay down the law to you.

Fuck That Shit

If you're thinking about moving out anyway, then stop top toeing around the stupid cow.

I feel a bit like @graciebobcat

I am just coming on here to say that I think you should make a point of cutting your nails in the living room whenever he is around (you'll have to pretend if they are already really short) so he feels so revolted that he moves out (let's hope).

@JackieTheFart

cutting mails is (for most people) something you only do in private

fucking hell, the stuff people get aerated about on here is baffling. Cutting nails is now ‘private’?! They’re fingernails. On your hands. Which everyone can see. I cut mine in the living room onto a tissue then wrap and bin. If a guest in my home is so delicate they can’t stomach seeing my nails being cut they can go and find somewhere else to squat.

@thatwasme22 YANBU, he was being a dick, throwing his weight around.

In the same way it's ok to decrust your nose in the bathroom but maybe not at the dining table.

Nobody wants to find manky toe clippings in the carpet blegh

You need an industrial foot file (recommend Margaret Dabbs). Next time he’s there start filing your hooves. It leaves a very satisfying pile of foot powder. See how he likes them apples.

What's the issue with cutting your fingernails in your own house? Genuinely no idea why that would be unreasonable