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Original poster

to think i can cut my finger nails in my own sitting room if i want to

65 replies

thatwasme22 · 29/03/2021 13:36

I am living in a house share and there is 1 girl who 'moved' her bf in unofficially-well he is not part of the share but bes around a lot regardless and never pays bills etc. TBH I don't really care as I am not there much myself with long work hours.

Anyway I was sitting watching tv last night in living room and he appears. And I start cutting my fingernails-ok I was being unreasonable doing it there but he kicked off and told me off. This thread is not about me cutting my fingernails as I am expected to get roasted for that but it's more he doesn't have the right to tell me off in my own house I am paying rent for when he isn't. I wouldn't dare dream of entering somebody's house and give bout to them for picking their nose, eating loudly or breaking wind because it is THEIR house or a house they are paying rent for.

I didn't say anything but surely you don't dictate to people what they do in their own houses or houses they rent in if you are just a mere guest.

OP posts:
JustLiketheraptors · 29/03/2021 15:33

What is wrong with cutting nails? As long as you aren’t dropping them on the floor and leaving them ??! It’s not like OP was polishing her nipples or trimming her pubes ffs

stackemhigh · 29/03/2021 15:33

Another one wondering why you didn’t say anything. I know you say housemate would have thrown a wobbly, but does it matter if she does?

Easterbunnygettingready · 29/03/2021 15:38

He isn't a guest. He is a freeloading cf...
Keep all your trimmings and shove them in his shoes...

BackforGood · 29/03/2021 16:31

YABU to start a thread asking if YWBU to cut your nails in your own living room, and then put in your op that you don't want people to comment on the rights or wrongs of cutting your nails in your living room Confused

So, to answer the next question.... I still think YWBU as cutting mails is (for most people) something you only do in private. So it is irrelevant if the other person that comes into the room pays rent or doesn't pay rent but lives there a lot, or is an occasional visitor or this is the first time they have ever been in the room with you. It isn't a polite thing to do, and some people find it really really cringy, even if others less so. So YWBU to carry on with personal grooming when others were quite legitimately in the same room.

Longer term, in house share, YWNBU to think about coming to some arrangements financially if other people move in, but that doesn't seem to be what you are asking.

LST · 29/03/2021 16:33

@BackforGood

YABU to start a thread asking if YWBU to cut your nails in your own living room, and then put in your op that you don't want people to comment on the rights or wrongs of cutting your nails in your living room Confused

So, to answer the next question.... I still think YWBU as cutting mails is (for most people) something you only do in private. So it is irrelevant if the other person that comes into the room pays rent or doesn't pay rent but lives there a lot, or is an occasional visitor or this is the first time they have ever been in the room with you. It isn't a polite thing to do, and some people find it really really cringy, even if others less so. So YWBU to carry on with personal grooming when others were quite legitimately in the same room.

Longer term, in house share, YWNBU to think about coming to some arrangements financially if other people move in, but that doesn't seem to be what you are asking.

Really?! Even if it was just your family in the room? Wow.
Original poster
thatwasme22 · 30/03/2021 12:10

''YABU to start a thread asking if YWBU to cut your nails in your own living room, and then put in your op that you don't want people to comment on the rights or wrongs of cutting your nails in your living room confused

So, to answer the next question.... I still think YWBU as cutting mails is (for most people) something you only do in private.''

Only if you read my op you will see that you are missing the whole point and I was asking whether he had the right to rebuke me in my own house when he was a guest, although as other posters said a cf.

OP posts:
jessstan2 · 30/03/2021 12:16

You can do what you like in your own home when you're on your own. If there are others around, best to do it in bedroom or bathroom.

jessstan2 · 30/03/2021 12:17

I 'get' that the guy was a guest in your house but why on earth would you cut nails in front of a guest?

Maybe he shouldn't have remarked but it probably freaked him a bit at the time.

fizbosshoes · 30/03/2021 12:23

My teen DD asked me to cut her (finger) nails the other day. I did it for her while we sat and watched tv (not LoD though - too much concentration required to multitask!) I threw them in the compost bin straight afterwards, didnt feel it was a hygeine crime...?

But I'm a MN scumbag because I use an ensuite bathroom , wear clothes (not underwear) more than once if not dirty and dont wash my hair every time I shower.

jessstan2 · 30/03/2021 12:25

@fizbosshoes

My teen DD asked me to cut her (finger) nails the other day. I did it for her while we sat and watched tv (not LoD though - too much concentration required to multitask!) I threw them in the compost bin straight afterwards, didnt feel it was a hygeine crime...?

But I'm a MN scumbag because I use an ensuite bathroom , wear clothes (not underwear) more than once if not dirty and dont wash my hair every time I shower.

That is quite different, it was you and your daughter, you didn't have guests and you are not in a house share with a communal sitting room.
AryaStarkWolf · 30/03/2021 12:27

@LST

I cut my finger nails in the living room. Is that taboo?!

He is being unreasonable regardless and you should have told him to do one!

So do I because it's my bloody house! OP you are unreasonable for not telling him to fuck off
notsorighteousthesedays · 30/03/2021 12:27

I had no idea so many people had an aversion to fingernails - can any of you explain please?

AryaStarkWolf · 30/03/2021 12:30

@notsorighteousthesedays

I had no idea so many people had an aversion to fingernails - can any of you explain please?
I know right? Why is it a private activity, weird......
FourWordsImMuNiTy · 30/03/2021 12:35

It had genuinely never occurred to me that this was icky. When things return to normal my high street will be full of women sitting behind plate glass windows having their nails filed by strangers prior to painting. Is that disgusting?

BackforGood · 30/03/2021 19:56

Only if you read my op you will see that you are missing the whole point

I did read the OP, and I haven't missed the point.
I'm making another one.
I still maintain it isn't helpful to ask a question - ie, the 'title' of the thread that people pick out of active threads, then in your first post to say - "No, ignore that question, I'm actually asking something else'

You can do what you like in your own home when you're on your own. If there are others around, best to do it in bedroom or bathroom.

This ^ .

Wellpark · 31/03/2021 10:57

YABU but...if it annoys him so much I'd do my toenails in there too.

jessstan2 · 31/03/2021 11:54

@Wellpark

YABU but...if it annoys him so much I'd do my toenails in there too.
Hee hee, or even in the kitchen, letting the clippings fly everywhere.

I doubt many people cut their nails in the sitting room though (I might but then I am on my own so can do as I please), especially if there is a visitor. Other people don't want to see your grooming practices.

stopthrowingyourfood · 31/03/2021 12:16

I'd have told him to fuck off.

Emeraldshamrock · 31/03/2021 12:19

Leave one his slippers. Grin

Inaquandry19 · 31/03/2021 12:24

He is an asshole and what is he even doing in the house? If he doesn't live there then surely he is breaching covid rules? She can't have an extended household if she shares a house. If he lives there he needs to pay rent.

LaceyBetty · 31/03/2021 12:25

I always do my nails in front of the TV. Cut, file, polish. Everything over a towel and then into the bin. Also, this person is not a guest, but a cf.

sadpapercourtesan · 31/03/2021 12:29

I'd ask him who the hell he thinks he is! He doesn't even live there Confused

I cut my nails in front of the telly. So does everyone else in my family. Clippings are picked up and put in the bin. Nobody dies/vomits/has a fit of the vapours.

BradleyCooperwillbemine · 31/03/2021 12:29

I was just thinking the same as FourWords - what do people think about nail filing in front of others? I would feel a bit squeamish about toenail cutting in front of others for some reason, but can't get het up about fingernails in your own home. Agree with others about telling him to do one.

Serena1977 · 31/03/2021 12:47

I cut my finger and toenails in the living room and hoover after. Tell him to piss off

LaBellina · 31/03/2021 12:50

YANBU to tell this entitled twat to fuck off and mind his own business.

YABU to cut your fingernails in the living room unless you immediately hoover the place afterwards.