To think she is normal?

[Serenabella]

My sd is 7 years old and dh thinks there is something wrong with her because she can’t remember her toddler years. She can’t remember going to nursery where she went everyday for 2 years and she can’t remember when she met me for the first time (she was almost 3).
I work with children and don’t think she is particularly unusual but dh is beginning to obsess about it.
She is a happy and healthy little girl, there is no trauma or anything in her past but she just can’t seem to remember anything past about 2 years ago. Is this unusual?

Your DH really needs to back off about it, or he will instil a real anxiety into her. She sounds perfectly normal but a parent obsessing like that isn't normal!

Dd2 (11) remembers nursery. But because I work there she has been in the building and seen and heard me talking about the staff since. She remembers things that aren't there any more, like the see saw she liked, she remembers her friend but needs to ask me what she was called. She went for 3 years.

I have a vauge memory of nursery, I went from 2 to nearly 5 over 30 years ago. Dd1 is the same as me.

DS (11) has the odd random memory from being 2-3. I think it has to be something that really stands out to remember it so early (and what stands out to a 2 year old might not be what stands out to the rest of us 😂).

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I am not a troll. You clearly have issues. I’ve reported you.

Oh an I have one memory of playgroup (didn’t go to nursery): I didn’t like plain digestive biscuits so my mum sent me with an apple. They cut up my Apple and offered a slice to every other child before I was allowed to have it. I was outraged.

I clearly remember feeling delighted with a pair of shoes that I can describe in detail, they were my first shoes, that’s it until I’m about five and even then it’s just an odd snapshot of my life.
I have one teenager that remembers being in their cot and another that consistently says “Don’t remember that” and doesn’t seem to have many memories before 6 or 7.
Memories are strange things and everyone is different.

It varies so much. I don’t remember anything at all from before I was 5, and very little after that until I got to about 7 or 8. DH remembers lots of detailed stuff from before he was 3. Honestly I think both are fine and normal.

Normal. My earliest memory is being next to thjs huge tree we had in the garden of a house we lived in fairly briefly when I was about 3. That's the only thing I remember, I have no idea why it stayed with me! I also have one or two small memories of a nursery I attended when I was 4, and some memory of a sibling being born when I was about 4.5 . I also have some memory of my first day of school but I was nearly 5 by then. So before age 5 I have approx a handful of memories and only two of them were even of anything significant (sibling birth, first day of school). Memory is fascinating.

Completely normal. Most people remember little or nothing from before they were 3 or 4. There's even a term for it among researchers on memory: 'infantile amnesia'.

If your life was nice and boring you don't remember it. Sister in law has clear memories from when younger twins appeared. I am the youngest, I remember fuck all til we visited our new house (I would have been 4) and I first saw punk hair.

@LadyCatStark i feel your pain.
I like a biscuit but wouldn't (and won't) eat the abomination that is sweet yoghurt. That was your Apple dude, and the others didn't want it.
My phone capitalised Apple. It is an Android!

Completely normal.

Someone I know read to their child every night and stayed with him till he fell asleep.
She thought he would remember and appreciate her doing these things. But by the time he was at school he couldn’t remember a thing.

Mine remember the odd day out here and there when backed up by photos but not really any detail apart from they enjoyed themselves

People are different.
My DH doesn't remember his early childhood but I have vivid flashes of it. I can remember being pushed in a pram. I can remember furniture in the living room in the house I lived in when I was 18 months old. I'm not saying those are accurate memories, but I do have them. However I don't remember a lot about my life in general, its all pretty fuzzy.
Similarly, my boys have very different memories. DS2 recalls pretty much everything that happened in his 11 years.
DS1 - he can't remember nursery either. He's 14 now. He just doesn't retain stuff that well, and that includes people. If they aren't around him every day, they fade into the past like they never existed.

We moved house when my dd was nearly 4 and she doesn't remember the old house - ds was nearly 5 and he just about remembers it

She's completely normal.

Completely normal. My dd2 doesn’t remember us living in Australia and when I mention friends, places we went, things she said/did she doesn’t remember that.
However, dd1 remembers loads of silly details and things she did when living in Oz and before leaving (she was 2 when we went).

Completely normal to have no/few memories of toddlerhood.

@Love51 thanks, you’re right it was my apple and it was a double abomination because I thought I should have been allowed a chocolate biscuit like I would have chosen at home but they only let me bring a crappy apple so the others wouldn’t get jealous, then they bloody well gave half of of away!

I get many flashes of things before I was three and a half, but the narrative, a continuous thread, only really began then, when my sibling was born.

I laugh with my kids now about all the shows we had to watch, music we had to listen to that they have no memory of whatsoever . Have told I should have just watched my shows and had my music if they were going to forget them all . It sounds quite normal