How do men survive without women?!

[Hamhockandmash]

How many DAMN times do I have to tell DH that you have to take out the fluff from the filter in the dryer because it’s a major fire hazard before he actually does it? It’s been 13 years of us living together. 13 years of me saying this.

Is it just me who has a partner with selective hearing?! Please tell me your stories to make me feel not so alone! I love him but he’s a total pain in the backside sometimes!

I've given up and don't live with men anymore. I'm not their mum.

Apologies, that should say some men...or some people...

my partner is always telling me to clean it. 16 years together...do I win?

My dh wouldn't have dryer. He would be happy with simple washing machine, table with a chair, chair/sofa, tv and a bed😂
Minimum bother. Though now he got used to cushions, so maybe he would have 1 or 2😂

After 22 years together my DP has suddenly learned to load the dishwasher. I think it may have something to do with the fact the last one broke and we were stuck with everyone at home ALL THE TIME producing lots of washing up much of which he ended up doing

He's a brilliant man, utterly astonishing and amazing in so many ways but I do wonder if its going to take me another 22 years to teach him to use the washing machine!

Mine is very diligent about removing it.....and then leaving it on the counter top instead of rotating 180 degrees to the bin in arms reach behind him.

YANBU!

Well I imagine a lot of people just don't clear the dryer filter and manage to survive. I certainly don't do it every time.

Funnily enough, men seem to be totally capable of doing most things when there isn't anyone else there to do it.

My DH is a champ at laundry, including cleaning the lint filter. He also does most of the cooking and shopping.

Mine is confused with the simple principle of you put dirty stuff in the dishwasher, turn it on, take the clean stuff out. I constantly find filthy mugs in the cupboard. I find him staring in looking confused. Also doesn't spin the dishwasher arm to check nothing is caught before it starts. 'Well this looks clean', no it has dried shit on it, it's having another go. 'Why don't you just clean it'...because I had 29 seconds before my next meeting and I need the loo.

Today 'are the mangos ripe?'. Me 'the mango you have in your actual hand?' Him 'yes...sounding confused'....
No words....
I could write a book on this..
Is the washing dry? Feel it
Is this milk off? Sniff it
Have we got any bread? Open the bread bin
What time does B&Q open? You have your phone in your bloody hand.

This is a man that supposedly runs a global operation for a FTSE100 company....

Men not being able to find things or know what to do? There's me thinking it was just the clitoris they cannot find!!!

It's no surprise that those who live the longest are married men and single women.

My DS is already like this and he’s 11. I definitely haven’t taught him to be this way, I can only imagine it’s something inherently natural in males because my DD’s aren’t like that. He’s even started hiding in the toilet when he can’t be arsed with something, now that is exclusive to males.

Honestly I never knew that fluff drawer thing even existed until my DH told me about it

You care about various bits of stuff that they find unimportant. You take the time to learn about that stuff. They don't. You attempt to impart your learned knowledge and/or experience but they still find it unimportant so won't listen. If they do miraculously listen once, they will forget, because they don't find it important. People don't retain stuff they don't give two tenths of a shit about. Notice it more in men but women do it too.

@Norwaydidnthappen

My DS is already like this and he’s 11. I definitely haven’t taught him to be this way, I can only imagine it’s something inherently natural in males because my DD’s aren’t like that. He’s even started hiding in the toilet when he can’t be arsed with something, now that is exclusive to males.

Yeah its entitlement

@Blueberrysquishy

You care about various bits of stuff that they find unimportant. You take the time to learn about that stuff. They don't. You attempt to impart your learned knowledge and/or experience but they still find it unimportant so won't listen. If they do miraculously listen once, they will forget, because they don't find it important. People don't retain stuff they don't give two tenths of a shit about. Notice it more in men but women do it too.

I get this, but I still regularly have to listen, in depth, about the ‘dream he had last night’. And I do, even though I HATE hearing about other people’s dreams. So just listen to me once about the fluff, dammit DH! I have fluff fear!

The reason I prefer to live alone. It's wonderful!

No fuck is worth having a man permanently at home.

Or are boys mirroring their father's and girls their mother's?

I have noticed that DD will offer to help, and is very good at cleaning and tidying, when she's not getting distracted. DS cannot be bothered and will do a half assed job. Rarely offers to help and is quite happy to have me picking up after him.

When looking at them objectively, DD is copying me (houseproud, neat freak) and DS copies his dad, can't be assed, did the bare minimum, was happy to let me do it all and sighed and huffed if was asked to do anything. And I had to repeatedly ask.

I am divorced from that one. I was his mother, not his wife and it is deeply unattractive.

New DP gets shit done. Doesn't always notice stuff, like leaving the side where we make tea in a mess, but DIY, garden, car, etc, all gets done. Bins without me asking. And if I do ever ask him to do something, he's usually doing it before I've finished speaking and never bloody huffs at me for it!

Your DH uses the dryer?? Sounds like you’re winning to me! 😂

It should be how do straight men manage to survive without women. Us gays can survive just fine and our knobs seem not to fall off when we clean or cook without being asked.

Just great actually. The house does not need cleaning every day unless you run a B&B. Nobody reaches the end of their life and thinks "I wish I spent more time cleaning".

@Bluebird2021

my partner is always telling me to clean it. 16 years together...do I win?

No, getting on for 23 years here. I’m regularly told that the house will go up in flames.

DH: "Where's the cheese?"
Me: "It's upstairs in the bathroom cabinet"

Silly questions get silly answers

My DH didn't lift a finger for nearly 20 years. Didn't see the mess or jobs apparently. Now after 2 years separated he seems to be managing fine. Funny that.

@vimtosogood

Just great actually. The house does not need cleaning every day unless you run a B&B. Nobody reaches the end of their life and thinks "I wish I spent more time cleaning".

Who said anything about cleaning every day?