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How do men survive without women?!
Hamhockandmash · 25/03/2021 15:01
How many DAMN times do I have to tell DH that you have to take out the fluff from the filter in the dryer because it’s a major fire hazard before he actually does it? It’s been 13 years of us living together. 13 years of me saying this.
Is it just me who has a partner with selective hearing?! Please tell me your stories to make me feel not so alone! I love him but he’s a total pain in the backside sometimes!
Am I being unreasonable?
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cottonwoolbrain · 25/03/2021 15:24
After 22 years together my DP has suddenly learned to load the dishwasher. I think it may have something to do with the fact the last one broke and we were stuck with everyone at home ALL THE TIME producing lots of washing up much of which he ended up doing 
He's a brilliant man, utterly astonishing and amazing in so many ways but I do wonder if its going to take me another 22 years to teach him to use the washing machine!
Louloubelle78 · 25/03/2021 15:58
Mine is confused with the simple principle of you put dirty stuff in the dishwasher, turn it on, take the clean stuff out. I constantly find filthy mugs in the cupboard. I find him staring in looking confused. Also doesn't spin the dishwasher arm to check nothing is caught before it starts. 'Well this looks clean', no it has dried shit on it, it's having another go. 'Why don't you just clean it'...because I had 29 seconds before my next meeting and I need the loo.
Today 'are the mangos ripe?'. Me 'the mango you have in your actual hand?' Him 'yes...sounding confused'....
No words....
I could write a book on this..
Is the washing dry? Feel it
Is this milk off? Sniff it
Have we got any bread? Open the bread bin
What time does B&Q open? You have your phone in your bloody hand.
This is a man that supposedly runs a global operation for a FTSE100 company....
Norwaydidnthappen · 25/03/2021 16:49
My DS is already like this and he’s 11. I definitely haven’t taught him to be this way, I can only imagine it’s something inherently natural in males because my DD’s aren’t like that. He’s even started hiding in the toilet when he can’t be arsed with something, now that is exclusive to males.
Blueberrysquishy · 25/03/2021 19:07
You care about various bits of stuff that they find unimportant. You take the time to learn about that stuff. They don't. You attempt to impart your learned knowledge and/or experience but they still find it unimportant so won't listen. If they do miraculously listen once, they will forget, because they don't find it important. People don't retain stuff they don't give two tenths of a shit about. Notice it more in men but women do it too.
Okbussitout · 25/03/2021 19:13
@Norwaydidnthappen
Yeah its entitlement
Hamhockandmash · 25/03/2021 19:17
@Blueberrysquishy
I get this, but I still regularly have to listen, in depth, about the ‘dream he had last night’. And I do, even though I HATE hearing about other people’s dreams. So just listen to me once about the fluff, dammit DH! I have fluff fear!
NotMyPremium · 25/03/2021 19:20
Or are boys mirroring their father's and girls their mother's?
I have noticed that DD will offer to help, and is very good at cleaning and tidying, when she's not getting distracted. DS cannot be bothered and will do a half assed job. Rarely offers to help and is quite happy to have me picking up after him.
When looking at them objectively, DD is copying me (houseproud, neat freak) and DS copies his dad, can't be assed, did the bare minimum, was happy to let me do it all and sighed and huffed if was asked to do anything. And I had to repeatedly ask.
I am divorced from that one. I was his mother, not his wife and it is deeply unattractive.
New DP gets shit done. Doesn't always notice stuff, like leaving the side where we make tea in a mess, but DIY, garden, car, etc, all gets done. Bins without me asking. And if I do ever ask him to do something, he's usually doing it before I've finished speaking and never bloody huffs at me for it!
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