AIBU to be pissed off about constant comments about my cooking?

[9ofpentangles]

Tonight, dinner went a bit wrong and, first, DH complained the potatoes were hard then my Dd and ds.Even though they were, I got annoyed because a) I hate cooking and b) it's every night that someone complains. I get moaned at for cooking the same old stuff so I have been trying different things. Problem is, the first few times often go a bit wrong for me as I am not a natural cook or it msy be a case ofsomeonejust not liking it.

DDs comment particularly stung as she said I didn't care. I admit I had a bit of a strop andshoved everything in the oven again and I might have muttered ihate fucking cooking

I agree with PP. Stop cooking if it's not your forte. Let one of the genius complainers do it.

Fuckers

Hell would freeze over if my dh didn’t cook. He cooked tonight. How old are your dc?

It sounds to me as if they've volunteered to take over the cooking...

(Complaining about hard potatoes one night is one thing, but complaining every night is very different.)

My dad moaned about my mums cooking so she told him to cook his own meals, he moaned about how she ironed his trousers she refused to do his ironing. He learned to keep his mouth shut as he couldn’t cook, do the washing, ironing ot hoovering!

I think there’s two points here:

1. Were they cooked properly? I’ve never had hard potato in my life unless it was uncooked, in which case I shove it back in the oven or pan. It’s easily done of course, but that’s not the same as complaining/ being ungrateful.

2. Why are you the only one cooking? This sounds like an arrangement that isn’t working for you, and I think you need to change that. Have you spoken to your husband and told him how it made you feel?

Sounds like sandwich service from now on, then... Those old enough to make their own should do so.

Kids are 12 and 16 so old enough. I work 30 hours but tend to cook as I work shifts so get home 3pm on an early or leave at 5.30 pm when on a late. To be fair, though, dh is home just before 5 so could cook but doesn't want to come in and start cooking. He will do it at weekends, though.

I agree delivering hard spuds is a rookie error but I I don't normally. The bloody bastards wouldn't cook this time. And I am tired and pissed off with the comments of the previous days.

Anyway, they have apologised and lookforward to them cooking tomorrow

Mash the wee feckers ! The taters not the family

Best thing I ever bought was a pressure cooker, 5 mins for bolied spuds

Agree rota.

Or do it together. The children need to learn how to cook if they don't already. Your DH needs to be involved too.

If it's the sort of dynamic you've got in the family then choose some recipes and do together. Everyone gets involved with peeling/ chopping/ stirring etc.

Then if it's not great it's everyone's fault

You doing most of the cooking when you hate it, and getting told your efforts are no good, is rubbish.

It's a fucking well do it yourself then type of situation.

If he's happy to cook at the weekend, then get him to batch cook lots of stuff for the coming week that can be reheated in the microwave.
Gamechanger, I can't not do this.

When someone has handed you food that they made the only words out of your mouth should be Thank You.
Thats the rule in this house. If you dont like you dont have to eat it - but you dont get to criticise.

I feel your pain, I hate cooking and do all of it every night, I too have a 12 year old and 16 year old. My DH can’t cook so it’s up to me. It does drive me mad and I’ve made a bit of a rod for my own back to be honest. If any of them complain I do tell them to cook something themselves. I normally manage to rustle something up half edible but it is the sheer monotony of having to think about what we are going to eat every night and do something that suits all of us! My DH does do all the washing and ironing though so at least I don’t have to do that but it’s still totally boring!

Any time they complain, they cook the next night.

But learn how to cook. It really isn't rocket science to cook potatoes. Stickleback knife in. If it's hard, they aren't done.

Everyone cocks up sometimes but the whole family whinging at me, when I'd done all the cooking, would really piss me off. Time for someone else to become the household chef at your place

Stickleback? WTF?

Stick a knife.

Sorry but your DH and DCs need to learn some manners. My DD is 4 and knows it’s rude to complain when someone cooks you a meal.

He doesn't want to cook when he comes in? Poor soul.

I really feel for people who don't like cooking and have to do it day in day out . why bother??

i hate it when they critique, its not effing masterchef ffs it's fish fingers or whatever!!
anyway op I think you need to mix it up a bit, dolmio pasta, jackets and salads for the next week and frozen microwave ready meals on 3 for 2 somewhere!

My pet hate is people complaining about something they don't do themselves. I bet you dont want to come in and start cooking either. Everybody takes a turn and your DH doesnt get to cherry pick the weekend cooking. Although I do also rather like this.idea Next time, remove the food, scoop into the bin, then sit back down and carry on eating yours

The easiest way to discourage someone from liking cooking is to actually complain about their cooking.

My family is under strict instructions that only compliments are received without invitation. If I ask for specific feedback, the constructive comments are welcome.

As far as under cooked potatoes, it does happen to the best of us and a minute in the microwave fixes it.

Here the rule is you are polite regardless. You can say something is not to your taste but not that’s it’s disgusting, horrible gross etc
If your dh does the weekend that leaves 5 nights between you and the kids. Kids take one each, you take two but on night one cook a base that can be adapted for night two. Eg chilli, serve with rice on night one and in tacos on night two. That leaves one night where either you all chip in, you get a takeaway or do something effortless, oven pizzas, jackets with toppings, pasta and sauce etc.

Sorry, it doesn't matter how good a cook you are, you can have an off night.

And they still didn't bloody cook.

Time for them to step up. The fecking lot of them. Lets see how they go.

(My daughter made the mistake of being very critical about the food served up aged 12. She got home the next night to find out she was cooking. She was a little more appreciative/humble after that.)

Instead of cooking, they can do it, and you can perhaps do more cleaning.

Could you do gousto boxes and people take turns?

I vote for a strike. Those kids are old enough to cook themselves. Having to do so might generate some appreciation for your efforts.