To think teacher shouldn't be discussing child with others before me

[Sue81]

Genuinely not sure if I'm being unreasonable to feel a bit annoyed about this so perfectly willing to be told I am! DD (6 years old) was in link club after school today - separate organisation not attached to the school so they collect her from school and take her to the club. When I arrived at link club this evening after work, one of their workers told me that when she arrived at school the teacher pulled her aside to discuss DD's behaviour. This seems to have been relatively minor things ie not saying what lunch she wanted and moments of not listening in class. I'm sure that was annoying for the teacher but it seems that it could have waited til I was on drop off next (tomorrow) or they could have called or emailed me if they felt it was that urgent. AIBU to think the teacher overstepped a bit here by asking someone else to speak to me about DD?

If you trust a person enough to collect your child, you trust them enough to pass on a message

Quite a mix of views on this one. Thanks to everyone who took the time to read and to respond constructively.

Skysblue

Yabu. The message from the teacher is obviously “your child was being a total dick today can you talk to her and try to figure out why / tell her off.” If the teacher waits another day to talk to you, she has another day of your child being a dick.

Maybe focus on your child’s bad behaviour/ your parenting instead of nitpicking at others eh.

This but maybe dick is a bit harsh!
It is also worth considering the fact that teachers are under a lot of extra pressure at the moment and finding time to call is difficult and there are also covid safety considerations when using school phones too. I had messages passed on via my childminder about DD2 when she was this age. My DD’s behaviour was my only concern, not who had been told. Trust me, if a teacher feels the need to pass on a message then there is an issue.