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WIBU to politely ask her to step back?

33 replies

Supermarketweep · 21/03/2021 22:36

At the supermarket today. As usual, most people not really social distancing, but I try to just focus on what I'm doing, and ignore it.

Get to the till, the last bits of my trolley load of shopping coming through and I'm packing them in bags. I become aware of the woman behind me in the queue, who is now standing quite near the card machine at the till, and therefore well within 2m of me.

I assume she's just a bit over eager, and when she realises I haven't paid will step back. She doesn't, she moves forward and I now can't get to the card machine without reaching past her or standing right up next to her.

So I politely say can you step back please, I need to pay.

She goes off like a rocket. I couldn't understand every word because she wasn't English and her voice was muffled by her mask, but could understand most of what she said and her tone was pretty clear. She was shouting about why should she have to move back - I said social distancing rules are pretty clear - and then kept ranting.

The member of staff at the till calmly said to her that I was entitled to ask her to step back if I felt she was too close. She carried on shouting she wasn't too close, I was abusing her etc.

I had then paid; a security guard came over and she carried on ranting to him about how I was in the wrong.

In the car park as I was returning my trolley she came out of the shop and continued shouting at me, 'I don't want to stand near you, you smell, you stink' over and over at the top of her voice!

I didn't respond, because she seemed like the sort of person who would accuse me of being verbally abusive. But all because I asked her to step back - which in all honesty I would have done even pre Covid because I don't want someone 6 inches from me when I'm putting in my pin number!

OP posts:
Hollyhocksarenotmessy · 22/03/2021 11:46

@AnaofBroceliande

What are people going to do when all these bloody restrictions are lifted and people are around them?
Irrelevant. The social distancing guidelines are still in place now.
melj1213 · 22/03/2021 11:51

What are people going to do when all these bloody restrictions are lifted and people are around them?

Theres a difference between expecting to be 2m from someone at all times and asking someone to step back so you have room to pay for your shopping. Even preCovid this situation occured as the next customer would be standing directly in front of the card reader, oblivious to the fact that they were blocking the previous customer from paying, and then when asked to move would shuffle back a few millimetres so they were literally over the paying customers shoulder

OP YANBU, I work in a supermarket and I regularly have to ask people to step back, or ask their kids to step back, so people can get to the card reader. In theory what is supposed to happen is that there should be a customer at the bottom of the checkout packing and one at the top of the conveyor belt unpacking/waiting. What ends up happening is that the packer goes to the end of the checkout so the unpacking customer unpacks and proceeds down the checkout so that the next customer can start unpacking too while leaving a gap ... which is fine until the packing customer needs to pay and everyone has to shift back when they havent left themselves anywhere bear enough room.

BashfulClam · 22/03/2021 12:10

I’m not sure why people have this need to be as close as possible to the person queuing in front. Mil is terrible for being in the way of people using the card machine etc. I will not apologise though for protecting myself by asking people to step back. I remember pre-covid I was standing in the queue in Boots and the woman behind was so close I could feel her breathing on me and you couldn’t slide a piece of paper between us. Every time I inched forward she seemed to be magnetically stuck to my arse. My husband has been further away whilst having sex ffs! I just don’t get it!

FunnyWonder · 22/03/2021 12:21

YANBU

Maybe the woman believes she can go where she likes just because she's wearing a mask. I noticed this when mask wearing in shops became compulsory - suddenly the social distancing rule went out the window for some people. But her reaction to a polite request was appalling. And I agree that, even pre pandemic, standing right up in someone's face as they pay for their shopping is plain rude.

As for the poster eye rolling at a mention of the fact this person was difficult to understand because of her accent - what's wrong with that? It makes the situation more stressful if you can't understand what insults are being slung at you.

VettiyaIruken · 22/03/2021 12:55

Re what will people do when there's no requirement to socially distance...
I imagine people will not socially distance because it will no longer be a requirement but are likely, as pre covid, to ask others to step back if they're too close and you're struggling to use the card machine. At a guess. 🤷‍♀️

Uronmute · 22/03/2021 12:59

Who are the 5% who thought her behaviour was in anyway reasonable? And it’s not racist to be unable to understand someone with a strong accent. Her behaviour was disgraceful whatever her nationality.

Marvelwife123 · 22/03/2021 13:09

I’m 100% with you and asked various people to move back. I have found various people awful at socially distancing in the supermarket.

A little old lady reached down when I was getting something and was about 5cm away from my face and I’m not proud but I wasn’t particularly polite in my response. I wasn’t rude but I think she will think twice that not everyone is vaccinated yet.

I feel worse for the supermarket staff, I always ask if I can reach something / not get too close and a few times they have commented that other people just don’t seem to care and reach over them / get too close.

This lady sounds like a piece of work, you did nothing wrong. Try not to over think it, she’s crazy!

KarmaStar · 22/03/2021 13:42

Perisoire..was it you?

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