Has anyone ever called out their school bullies?

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Has anyone ever called out their school bullies? I messaged the worst few yesterday just saying how they treated me during the school years led me to wanting to kill myself every day after school and how I hope that they, their kids or someone they love is never made to feel the way they made me feel. I said that now I’m turning 30 I wanted to make peace with my anger and feelings towards how they treated me and I felt getting it out would help me move forward.

The main lad who made my life absolute hell blocked me straight away, one of them replied and apologised and said no one should be made to feel like that.

Another one blocked me 🙈😂

I feel a kind of sense of weight off my shoulders. Iv held on to so much pain from my childhood (still lots to go, mum an alcoholic but she’s died so can’t call her out 🤷🏻‍♀️).

The bullying and home life led me to have BPD and mental health issues.

As my post has been picked up twice now... my point is, unless that was clear (and it is clear to my children), unless you are happy to take your bad day out on somebody who definitely will answer back/hit you, then don’t. Never be mean to anyone who can’t defend themselves.

The thought of going up to the school bully, class mean girl and tell them that their hair cut is silly (or whatever) is so ridiculous that my children laugh at the thought. It is a joke we have but I am dead serious that they are to be kind to all children not only their friends and make especially sure that they are kind to shy children.

I am proud to say that both have on occasion protected other children from being teased. We talk about bullying at home and that it is unacceptable.

Well done. And I'm glad you got apologies. Sometimes kids are kids and I'm not making any excuses for this but young and silly and immature people don't realise the extent of there actions. Hopefully by apologising they can stop how they behave in the future.

No:

1. some people don’t even remember bullying people
2. some never changed so it’s pointless

3.finally, some became a better person especially they are a parent and perhaps have a child who is being bullied.

I let it go, if they want to apologize, I am available on Facebook.

My mom used to tell me about a bully who made fun of child with Down syndrome. When she had a baby, it turned out her child have Down syndrome as well. I am sure this person regrets her behaviors now.

I am sorry this happened to you and had such a huge effect on your life. My daughter was bullied at a prestigious (!?) all girl's school where she had a scholarship. I would have moved her if I had known where! Fortunately, she then had a great time at university. The worst offenders turned out badly...booze, drugs and attempted suicides. Some of the girls' lives looked good from afar, but they had family problems. You need to stop looking back and focus on improving your life now.

I bumped in to my bully's mom 20 years after I left school. She asked me if I would contact her daughter as depressed and needed friends. I said no and told her mom how she made my life hell and didnt want to She just said ohh ok and walked off. I worked with a bully too and she came and worked about 5years later at another job I was at. She tried to be all friendly but I went to HR and said can I never work for her as she was horrible to me. Told me once no point in talking about general life with her as she was more intelligent than me. She did not stay that long where I worked and left on her accord.

Nope. It's a waste of time. You're not even a blip to them, and yet you've allowed them to continue to take up far too much head and emotional space even after you've left school. If I was the one who's done the bullying (never did) I'd block you. It's a lifetime ago, and if I'd ever had any feeling to apologising to you, I'd have done so.

@Ruth2009

Not call her out, but I was in a nightclub a few years after I left school, and the bully was behind me, laughing with a friend and flicking her drink onto me. I turned around and punched her on the nose. I have never punched anyone before or since, but it definitely works and wished I'd done it years before 😂

Good for you! Everyone should get a chance to punch their bullies. I had two racist bullies try to friend me on FB. I couldn't believe it and called them out publicly on the school page. Hope it fucking humiliated them, twats.