To be annoyed by this

[Fedup333336]

I have away a lot of clothing to a woman that was saying she needed it on Facebook. This was three weeks ago. She’s now out a post on Facebook saying I have a bag of size x clothing that I no longer need no mention that they were actually given to her. Because she kept messaging me I actually gave her more clothing than I planned to as I felt sorry for her.

Has it been confirmed that it is the clothes op gave her she's giving away?

Are there photos of the clothes, so you know they are yours?

Could it be possible the reason she needed new clothes was that she had lost or gained weight and now her old clothes no longer fit and she is giving away her own old ones?

Perhaps some of what you gave doesn't fit her.

I would just try to look at this rationally, she hasn't scammed you by getting clothes and selling them, so take a step back and calm down.

Oh ffs. I give away clothes and anything else I clear out that’s in good condition all the time on Facebook groups etc. I couldn’t really care less what they do with it after that. I gave away a brand new pair of boots that didn’t fit my daughter and I couldn’t be arsed sending them back to the shop, they didn’t then didn’t fit the woman’s daughter so she just passed them on, I mean who really cares.

I ALWAYS pay forward on everything. I have never asked the original gifted for permission.
If the lady is donating for free then just ask for the items back.
Simples x

@Fedup333336

Because I wouldn’t have given it to her and regret doing so

Lesson learned then - don’t give away anything you can’t afford to lose. Sorry you didn’t get the credit.

You are being absolutely ridiculous. She is giving the clothes away, not selling them, so I really don't see the issue! Perhaps she tried them on and they didn't fit, or they just weren't to her taste. Either way, she has done nothing wrong, and is helping other women by passing them on.

Seriously she's giving them away not selling them which would be bad. You didn't want them...she's doing you a favour really as you'd only have to get rid of the stuff she didn't take. I honestly don't see the issue here you are being ridiculous.

The OP didn't say she didn't want the clothes - it sounds like she was guilt tripped into giving away more clothes than she intended because the person hounded her and said she was desperate. That's why it's annoying to see that the person wasn't actually that desperate for the clothes.

I couldn't honestly tell you who I have given stuff away to through fb. I hand it over, mark as sold and delete the conversations from messenger. I definitely wouldn't then know it was the same person posting stuff later!

If OP gave away more stuff because she felt pressured by the other person then she needs to work on saying no.

How do you know she is not giving away mostly her own clothes?

Even if she is giving your clothes away, maybe they don't fit/suit her? Why do you care if you no longer want the clothes? What did you expect her to do - put a big banner on the ad saying 'kindly given to me by Fedup of 27 Privet Drive on 15.3.21 for which I will be eternally grateful?'

I have given clothes away and couldn’t care less if someone used them to wipe their arse with, I gave them away for a reason. I really don’t see the issue here at all. They might not all have fitted or suited her. Someone I work with gave me some dresses recently (all in my size) but none of them suited me so I will be giving those away when I get round to it. I would have felt very awkward handing them back to her. What exactly did you expect her to do? A very odd post!

@MichelleScarn

Has it been confirmed that it is the clothes op gave her she's giving away?

Not that I noticed, in which case the woman could have kept ops clothes and be passing on some of her own stuff that doesn't fit her anymore.

Well she’s giving them away so ask for them back?

What would you have done with them if you hadn't given them to her?