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Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask how you’ve improved your mood?

108 replies

Rexasaurus · 19/03/2021 21:12

Inspired by a thread on here this week where people were saying they were struggling & felt flat I wondered what people have found that’s helped?

I’m trying to pull myself out of the hole and have started listening to music more but I’m at a bit of a loss as to what else to do.

The thread made me feel like I wasn’t alone so was hoping we’d be able to help each other?

Any ideas?

OP posts:
yellow25 · 19/03/2021 22:37

Fantastic thread. Love seeing the suggestions.

Question - those taking vit D, how long was it before you felt the difference?

I have been taking a '4,000 IU' one for around 2 months now...

blue25 · 19/03/2021 22:39

No alcohol. Lots of fresh air-walking or gardening.

RedRec · 19/03/2021 22:39

High strength Vitamin D, and writing a to-do list every morning. I need that structure in my life, and ticking things off is very satisfying.

RaindropsSplashRainbows · 19/03/2021 22:44

Being outdoors.

Cowbells · 19/03/2021 22:49

Vit D spray and B-complex vitamins
Fresh air for at least 30 mins a day, even if you just have a coffee in the garden
Exercise regularly
Avoid sugar and alcohol - I don't manage this often but it does help.
Avoid the news - watch once a week to catch up on the basics but instead listen to upbeat music, watch comedy programmes or read escapist books
Do something new or different, small or large, as often as you can
Journalling
Meditation and Affirmations - lots of people say these work. TBH I don't find them mood-lifters at all - often the opposite though that may just be because I don't think to try them unless I am feeling very low already.

Luckingfovely · 19/03/2021 22:52

@yellow25 I think it depends if you are clinically deficient or not. A blood test a few months ago showed I was, and then I was prescribed the equivalent of 20,000 iu per week for ten weeks. I obviously don't recommend taking that without a prescription - or without knowing if it's an effective tablet you're taking. If in doubt, have a blood test, I think is best.

rookiemere · 19/03/2021 22:53

@ThatOtherPoster I think its 450 per day of St. john's wort that i'm taking. Took a few weeks to build up, but now I've been taking it for 3 months I definitely think it's taken the edge off lockdown emotions for me and I'm a lot less volatile.

VestaTilley · 19/03/2021 22:57

After two long, dark years this week I finally got a PND diagnosis. I’ve also been prescribed sertraline and therapy. I really hope it works.

And to any woman reading who suspects she has PND but is told by their GP, as I was, that it is just “exhaustion” Hmm - please keep going back until you get a second opinion.

ItsAHardKn0ckLife1 · 19/03/2021 22:57

Walking everyday whilst listening to a podcast. Specifically, Shagged Married Annoyed. Find it really hard to stifle my laughter and not look crazy Grin

LockdownCheeseToastie · 19/03/2021 23:06

Background- 30 years of severe depression and suicide attempts plus multiple long term health conditions.

Medication- currently citalopram. Vit d and b12. Decent diet- veg, good protein, good fats, whole grain carbs. Kefir (homemade and v low effort) couple of times per week.

Exercise. Even if it’s a walk round the block. Fresh air and sunlight, even if it’s a gin in the garden. But hard when the weather is constantly cold, wet and miserable.

Low caffeine and none after noon. New thing is cold showers after exercise- have normal shower and wash then turn it to cold for 90 seconds. Supposed to help mood. Can’t do any harm. Feels crap when cold and miserable, feels actually vaguely nice after a cardio workout.

Low alcohol (difficult- couple happily drink a bottle of wine and a few spirits every day but it really doesn’t help long term).

Sleep routine- dark, quiet room, clean sheets, lavender pillow spray, no screen time before bed etc etc.

Spent years thinking all those stupid lifestyle things made no different but they do cumulatively when done routinely. Doesn’t stop you having severe clinical depression but does help manage it when the nhs help is basically useless. Would love to hide in a dark room eating crisps and chocolate, drinking gin and wine, never going outside and sleeping randomly through the day and night, but i know it doesn’t help me feel better. I’d still be suicidal without the antidepressants even with the best lifestyle in the world, that’s just me, so I do what I can to manage it.

SeraphinaDombegh · 19/03/2021 23:07

Sertraline (since Oct) made a huge difference, but I was struggling a lot - not just a bit flat. Other things that have helped since then:

Really good decaf coffee, and some fancy teas. Makes having a drink a little bit more special.

Nice chocolate

Cuddles with the cat

Listening to music from my teens and singing along

Recently I've discovered knitting and I find it really relaxing, enjoyable and satisfying

Prayer, when I can manage it.

optimistic40 · 19/03/2021 23:07

Art
Learning new things
Keeping ups social contact - I hate zoom and suchlike, but have some texts and chats

Also, just acceptance... things will get better

FastFood · 19/03/2021 23:13

Getting up early
Meditation
Journaling
Reading at lunch time and in the evenings
Wrapping up each working day with learnings / gratitude and some actions / ideas

But the real game changer has been to quit drinking.

Mangofandangoo · 19/03/2021 23:27

Magnesium supplements

Takebackthepower · 19/03/2021 23:51

Tiktok. Ive laughed so much from even just 10 minutes on there. Im middle aged too.

InterstellarDrifter · 20/03/2021 00:05

Vitamin d and floradix
Going for walks somewhere nice. Sometimes with a friend.
Reading
Eating more fruit and veg
Music
Making myself have a playful few minutes with dcs. We all end up laughing.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 20/03/2021 00:18

Notanotherhun
Me too , but had the worst dip recently
It’s all but much
It’s all life stuff

IJustLovePirates · 20/03/2021 03:36

There’s a free course on Coursera called The Science of Well-being. That helped :)

Onedropbeat · 20/03/2021 04:26

Running 3 times a week no matter the weather

Doing 10 minutes of guided meditation a day

Avoiding news

Yogatomorrow · 20/03/2021 04:43

So many. I seriously cut down on alcohol and loved having extra time (the tiredness of even the tiniest hangovers left me not bothering to do anything, which really brought me down).

I have started to increase the amount i have been drinking (it creeps up!) and noticed how its affected me again - mood, energy and sleep have all gone down. I drink a couple of glasses about twice a week. It feels really unfair!

Otherwise small things: large vitamin d supplement, cycling to work, reading books instead messing about my phone looking at the sky (love that!), chatting to friends, cuddling dd, mindfulness.

readingismycardio · 20/03/2021 05:05

A shit ton of supplements (vitamin C, D, zinc, Omega 3)
Exercise 4x a week
Bought a lot of new skincare (including a beautiful Swedish SPF, it's so cool!)

LunaTheCat · 20/03/2021 05:16

Citalopram
Yoga - can go to classes here, walking, swimming
Spending time with my dog
Playing music
A hot shower and lots moisturiser afterwards
Scented candles
Dressing to please myself
Gin

TheDogsMother · 20/03/2021 07:37

And in the spring/summer months the garden and growing plants from seeds. Very absorbing and rewarding.

Iggly · 20/03/2021 07:40

No alcohol for two months and counting. It’s the thing that’s having the biggest impact for me. Amazing.

Plus getting in the garden, running/exercise and sleeping better.

OutComeTheWolves · 20/03/2021 07:56

This is a brilliant thread op thank you for starting it.

All the things that boost my mood are things that I find myself reluctant to start book never regret it once I have. It's like a have a weird default mode to just eat crap food and scroll on my phone and I really have to fight it. Things that really help me are
Leaving my phone in another room so I can properly be with my kids. (Obvs I'm not doing that right now)
Running
Walking on my own
Reading regularly
Listening to music loudly
Going for a drive on my own with the music up
Podcasts - I love rangan chaterjee and fearne cotton
Prioritising myself a bit in terms of making sure I don't look crap when I leave the house
Gardening- this is a new one but I love it