To do what I like with my gift?
Mixedupmuddle · 19/03/2021 20:39
A relative bought me a birthday gift recently for the house. Haven’t mentioned which relative as it’s not really relevant (not MIL).
She apparently bought it with the intention of it being used in a particular room. (Think of something a bit like a sofa throw).
I have put it in a different room to where she ‘intended’ it to go, and she was not very happy when I sent her a picture to show her said item as that was not where she wanted it to go .
Aibu for putting it where I want it?
YABU: your relative is right, you should use it in the room she intended.
YANBU: it’s your gift, use it wherever you like!
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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BusyLizzie61 · 19/03/2021 21:23
Did you put it elsewhere because it "fits" better there or because you don't like it as much as the relative hoped, so not worthy of the prime area?
CeeceeBloomingdale · 21/03/2021 07:12
YANBU unless it was bought following a conversation along the lines of "I hate the hole in my sofa, I need something to hide it but can't afford it" and then they said "I know we don't usually do gifts but I got you a throw to hide that sofa hole as I knew it was bothering you so much". Then I would say it's been bought for a specific purpose and you should at least pretend to use it in that way.
notanothertakeaway · 21/03/2021 08:02
I don't think I would do that, as it sets a precedent of accepting tgat relative dictating to you
clarepetal · 21/03/2021 08:34
My in laws bought my son a plastic pirate ship foe a gift a few years ago. They said he could play with it in the bath, it was not a bath toy, and I didn't want it in the bath as it would go all mouldy and be a pain to clean.
I could tell they really wanted me to do this, but tough shit as it was me who had to deal with it. They weren't hugely bothered as they aren't unreasonable.
My mother has an annoying habit of trying to give me things when she is throwing them out thatbi don't need. Recently, it was a pair of slippers someone gifted her that were too small, I didn't need them as have loads of slippers, but she (and brother, as they were from his girlfriend) laid it on to me that it would be a waste if I didn't take them, I took them then threw them away in the end. It's not my shit to deal with.
Sorry, went off on a tangent them, just get annoyed when people try to do you a favour and get all bossy about it!
StillCoughingandLaughing · 21/03/2021 08:52
A friend did this to me many years back when I got my first house. She bought me a mirror as a housewarming gift. I thanked her and said I thought it would look really nice in the hall. She made a face and said, ‘Hmm, that’s a bit downgraded isn’t it? I was thinking over the fireplace’. You’ve got your own bloody fireplace, love!
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