Preschooler wee accident in shop

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My 4 year old had an accident whilst doing the food shop, I didn't have any spare clothes as he hasn't had a single accident in over a year and we were on the way home from nursery, so I went to the children's clothes section and bought him some clean clothes so I could then take him to the toilets and change him, but a fair few people seemed to look horrified at him/me and now I'm worried I've done the wrong thing and should have just left the shop and gone home to change him?? I feel really embarrassed now.i tend to get basic things wrong but I'm not sure what else would have been a better option...
It's felt like the most logical thing to do because he was soaked

Seems like a sensible plan

This seems like a fine response.

If you had a long journey to get home, then it makes sense to get some dry clothes for him, or he'd be uncomfortable for ages. If people stared, that's their problem, not your's. Ignore it.

Would they rather you either abandoned your shop or carry on with him in wet clothes? Think you made the best decision you could.

I don’t think what you did was odd at all. I’d have looked on in sympathy and, in non-covid times, asked if you needed any help.

That's fine. My DD 6yo had an accident a couple of months ago - at home - just when the schools had closed again. Small children are often feeling insecure and uncertain now and that might contribute to accidents.

Completely sensible to get new clothes.

I've done the same with my youngest. I don't see a problem with it.

I doubt they were actually horrified. Especially at picking clothes. Considering they are available.
Only raised eyebrows should be if you left pee on the floor and didn't notify anyone.

Nobody looked horrified at you for buying clothes and changing your child. Nobody.

I doubt any one was horrified by this, unless you left it for someone else to clean up?

Are you sure they were looking on at you? Did you shout at your child?

I suffer with paranoid thoughts and often think people are looking at me when they are not.

He didn't get anything on the floor it just all went on his trousers/tops of his shoes so no mess for anyone to clear up. Maybe grossed out is more accurate than horrified because it happened one end of the shop so we had to go all the way other to the other side to get the clothes etc

Oh no I definitely didn't shout at him! I think I probably was/am being a bit paranoid to be honest now everyone's saying it's a normal thing to have done!

I can't say as I would notice if a child wet themselves. They are not eye level. If I did notice, I would have nothing but sympathy. If it happened to my child I would probably do the same.

Could you be a little paranoid? I think I might be in that situation.

I've done exactly that in the same scenario with 3 year old DC who, although being potty trained for a year, decided the middle of Tesco was the perfect time for their first ever accident. I bought new clothes, abandoned my other shopping at customer service, and changed her in the loos with the help of a packet of wipes given to me by CS (offered - not requested - but certainly welcome as I'd forgotten to grab some before I paid for the clothes). Came out, continued with our shopping. Not sure what else would have been a reasonable response?

Sorry you have literally just said you were perhaps paranoid. Don't worry about it. My DS did something unspeakable at a park once. Now that was bad!!

I’d have done exactly the same!

My DD pulled down her pants and pooed in a playground when she was tiny, people were horrified 😄

You did the right thing on getting him new clothes. And changing him.

But I doubt very much that no wee went on the floor at all. If it was a big enough wee that he was soaked, then it’s really, unlikely that he caught every drop on the top of his shoes. I’ve never known a young child who wets themselves not try to step out of the way of it. So I suspect that in your surprise you didn’t notice that some had gone on the floor and that it was that that people were horrified by.

If it happens again I’d ask for something to clean the area with. Even if it doesn’t look immediately obvious that you need to.

But it’s not the end of the world. Try to think no more of it. It’s done now.

No one looked, think you was probably feeling embarrassed so felt like people were looking at you when they weren’t, no one would even notice this.

Unless if they really were looking as you said then I agree you probably left some on the floor

Maybe you were feeling really self conscious and interpreted passing glances as horrified looks? I can guarantee no one stood there watching you looking horrified, but when we’re particularly anxious we can interpret things in a negative way

His shoes are those sort of sport absorbent material trainers and hardly any was on the shoes, he had cuffed joggers on so it was kind of absorbed by his trousers, no one was in the aisle when he actually peed

Definitely a normal response! Maybe people were looking because they thought you hadn't paid for the clothes or something? I doubt they'd be looking at you in a 'WTF is that parent doing?!' kind of way!

Do you often worry about what people think of your parenting?

Aw, poor little love. You did the right thing. I doubt anyone was horrified, they were probably just concerned. Anyway don't take any notice of them.