Friend cancelled plans last minute ..aibu?

[wegetitalmosteverynight]

Had plans for lunch with a friend today.
She told me to pre order for 1pm collection and to meet her at her house.
She gave me her order at midnight last night.
I rang up at 10am and booked our lunch (Italian restaurant)
She gets up late so rang me at 12 saying she wasn't that hungry and was just going to have a slice of toast.
I told her I had pre ordered and she said
"Well I can't help it if I'm not hungry"
Anyway I've ended up having 2 pay for both lunches as I pre ordered
And I'm now not going to friends as it turned into a argument of her saying
"Why are you trying to make me feel guilty"
"Not my fault I'm not hungry"
Aibu to think I'm not in the wrong am I ?
Is it a bit cheeky ?

How did you make her feel guilty?

She sounds like a cf

She said "it's not my fault I'm not hungry"
I said
"I didn't say it was anybody's fault,I'm saying I've forked out for two lunches"
Then she said about me trying to make her feel guilty

@Wearywithteens no I deffo haven't let her off.
I meant it was silly of me to pay for today's lunch going off past form.
Today is the first day I've actually stuck up for myself.
Normally i would just say ok no problem
I think she's annoyed that I didn't just roll over for her today.

Kick her out of your bubble, bubble with your dad instead. At least he's greatful.
I dunno how you can put up being friends with someone who has a bad attitude.

I used to have a friend like this. Used to. Everything on her terms, would think nothing of crying off last minute as couldn’t be bothered or whatever and felt perfectly entitled to let me down. Made me feel a right mug.
I sacked her off in the end obviously.

@bookworm29x

Kick her out of your bubble, bubble with your dad instead. At least he's greatful. I dunno how you can put up being friends with someone who has a bad attitude.

This is what I was going to say. Bubble with your dad instead. Tell her he needs you to help him out so you are switching. At least you and he have had your jabs so are safer bubbling up together.

I reckon she didn’t want to pay and was banking on you ordering anyway and bringing it over as planned. Good for you for taking it to your dads!

I would give her till dinnertime and then expect a phonecall from her.
She probably thinks you still have "her" food.

Put it all over fb that you had a lovely lunch with your dad.

To add, she was like this with everyone, not just me. I still found it unacceptable though.
She was late for everything as well. Fuck sake.

It's because she lies in bed every day till 12/1 pm and then wonders why as soon as she wakes up she's not hungry for a meal.
I wouldn't dare say that tho to her as it would cause hell on

@wegetitalmosteverynight

It's because she lies in bed every day till 12/1 pm and then wonders why as soon as she wakes up she's not hungry for a meal. I wouldn't dare say that tho to her as it would cause hell on

She’s lucky if she’s a single mum and can lay in bed until the afternoon 😁

@Osirus as soon as kids are at school she goes back to bed

I'm just gonna stick to my guns from now on and not plan anything with her.
Sick of getting dropped in it

@wegetitalmosteverynight

I'm just gonna stick to my guns from now on and not plan anything with her. Sick of getting dropped in it

Bubble with your dad instead. It sounds like he'd appreciate it, and he's probably available all day, unlike your friend who's only around for half of it.

Good for you op sticking up for yourself , if you hadn't of stuck up for yourself it wouldn't be long before she took the piss again .

It's astonishing how many self-absorbed people there are out there, who believe that they shouldn't have to pay for something they've agreed to in advance, just because they changed their mind. I don't know if it's arrogant disregard for others or just an inability to realise that other people are people too.

Nobody is forcing her to eat it now/ever if she no longer wants to - that's entirely up to her; however, she is expected to pay as she's committed.

What's the betting that, if she had a freelance business or self-employed trade and a customer suddenly changed their mind and decided not to pay for the product/service at the last minute, she would see them as the worst person in the world ever....

Going back to bed for another 3 or 4 hours after the school drop-off every single day is concerning, though - unless she was working the night-shift or something. Has she given any reason why she does this?

I'd also suggest bubbling with your dad. Your friend clearly expects you to jump when she clicks her fingers. At least your dad was grateful for the food.

Unreasonable to cancel last minute but at least paying her share. Even if you are ill it is short notice.

other than laziness or depression - I bet she has been online to all hours or she is meeting someone (on line dating???)
Op pop the bubble - meet up with dd

@LIZS

Drop it off and she can eat it later.

Not a chance in hell would I be doing that.

A good friend would let you come over, have a little nibble and then say they were feeling surprisingly full. They'd give you the money, fridge the rest for later, and spend a nice afternoon chatting with you regardless.

Why do some people find it so hard to navigate life?

Sorry op but she’s a shit friend and also a lazy selfish person .
You ordered lunch then she says she’s not hungry maybe so but it was pre planned .
Don’t make the same mistake again with a flaky friend.

Definitely kick her out of your bubble and bubble with your dad instead.

Dont pay going forward. Hate flaky friends.. friend rang me years ago I had young baby at time. Landlord called. Had put my day on hold for her. Was on bus when she rang. Didnt arrange it after that