Friend cancelled plans last minute ..aibu?

[wegetitalmosteverynight]

Had plans for lunch with a friend today.
She told me to pre order for 1pm collection and to meet her at her house.
She gave me her order at midnight last night.
I rang up at 10am and booked our lunch (Italian restaurant)
She gets up late so rang me at 12 saying she wasn't that hungry and was just going to have a slice of toast.
I told her I had pre ordered and she said
"Well I can't help it if I'm not hungry"
Anyway I've ended up having 2 pay for both lunches as I pre ordered
And I'm now not going to friends as it turned into a argument of her saying
"Why are you trying to make me feel guilty"
"Not my fault I'm not hungry"
Aibu to think I'm not in the wrong am I ?
Is it a bit cheeky ?

bookworm29x
How are you meeting her at hers anyway? With the covid restrictions? confused
Why are there always these type of comments? OP might be in a bubble with the friend or they might not be in the UK!

Agree. Enough already.

YANBU

@MiniTheMinx

I wasn't aware it was OK now to go and have lunch at other people's houses.

Yawn.

Plus RTFT.

@MiniTheMinx

I wasn't aware it was OK now to go and have lunch at other people's houses.

Yawn

She should definitely pay!

Interested in who welly dad is though 😂

Whoops @ChelseaCat

Ask her for half the money. Next time she comes over give her a cuppa and some toast.
While you eat a lovely lunch..

@honeylulu that made me lol

@Daydreamsinglorioustechnicolor

Ask her for the money.

Yanbu

How the fuckwit other half live

It's my own fault as she is flaky.
It was only £7.95 as it's a lunch time special and my dads over the moon with his free lunch
She's trying to guilt trip me into apologising now.
Tbh even if I hadn't of already paid I would have been a bit annoyed..I hate plans being cancelled with 20 mins to spare.
I hate that people think you can just re arrange your day to suit them.

Sounds like you're going to let her do his to you again OP. It's not your fault.

For anyone who didn't see my update
My friend is a single parent and I also live alone.
Hence us being in the same support bubble since last year.
We are doing nothing wrong.
I don't mix with anyone else.
I don't even go into my dads house
We speak at the door even tho we both have had covid jabs.

I would be so livid!

I wear my mask at my dads front door and keep back.
When I go to bubble friends house we sit spaced out and anti bac etc

@honeylulu

"Why are you trying to make me feel guilty?"

"Because I've had to shell out for two lunches, shit for brains".

😂

She's extremely rude and no friend.

You have very poor boundaries if you accept being treated like this.

I've told her in future no plans.
Just go with the flow on the day.
Hopefully that will let her know I'm done with her shit.

To be fair if you’ve got this far into a support bubble with a friend and this is the first time she’s annoyed you like this id be asking her if she was ok? And pointing our the blindingly obvious about why you’re annoyed with her.

Your update about her trying to make you apologise is waving another red flag though. Time to pop the bubble.

@bookworm29x oh shut up would you

I had a friend like this. After I ended up shelling out for 3 cinema tickets that she and her kids didn't use and didn't pay me back for, I stopped making plans with her.

Apparently I shouldn't have assumed she would make it despite her texting me the night before to make sure I bought tickets all together. Grrr.

CF friend can buy her own lunch from now on. Don't apologise.

Gosh people are weird. When you have lunch plans you don't eat in the run up to ensure you are hungry at the time you have agreed to eat. If you genuinely aren't hungry despite not eating then you just get a fucking grip and eat what you can and thank/pay whoever made it. Skip dinner. It would be different if she was sick, but she wasn't.

Honestly who are these people??? Your friend is a moron, and has no sense of social norms.