Another escort one

[Silveretta71]

I've name changed as I feel embarrassed about this, but would this be the way an escort would be contacting my boyfriend, obviously I know he'd have to message her first. There's a message on his phone from a man's WhatsApp no number saved, the first picture is a young girl 20s Romanian either driving licence or id card, then a postcode, then an address. I know I should not have looked but I just want to know as there's other issues, thanks

Unless your BF is a hitman, it sounds like a visit to a woman, likely involving sex trafficking. I'd screen shot and tell the police.

And dump him.

Oh I plan to, but I am just really confused about why the picture of the driving licence is there, its not a sexy picture so why?

Possibly proof that she is not a child?

Regardless, take the advice about the contacting the police and dump him fast.

I have the name, address and photo of a young Hungarian woman’s driving license in my WhatsApp messages somewhere: she ran into the back of my car on the North Circular and sent me her details.

Presumably there’s far more of a backstory to all this? A sex worker doesn’t generally send photos of her ID to customers.

Presumably if boyfriend had had an accident he might have mentioned it to OP?

You're going to have to find out more.

What does he do for work? Could it be someone he is hiring at work?

@TimeForTeaAndG

Presumably if boyfriend had had an accident he might have mentioned it to OP?

The point was that if DP found that message exchange on my phone, his first thought wouldn’t be that I must be arranging to have paid-for sex with a trafficked Hungarian woman.

If you’ve got to the point where that’s what you suspect and are going through your partner’s phone to find it, it doesn’t matter whether this is a sex worker messaging him or whether it’s normal for them to do so. Your relationship is dead, there’s no trust there. Honestly OP, you don’t need proof or an admission of guilt from him to end your relationship because it isn’t one you want to be in anymore.

And if he’s just a boyfriend - no DC together, no shared assets - brilliant! Makes it a far more straightforward task.

I would t automatically suspect a sex worker liaison from what you’ve said, the punter never gets to know the workers real name or ID.

Remember it’s always about protecting the worker not the punter.

*I wouldn’t.....

An escort wouldn't send her ID to a prospective client.

But her 'pimp' might if that's the only photo he's bothered to have, and reality is she's locked in a room and not willing to pose in a slutty way.

Any hoo thats my guess. Hope I'm wrong.

Sorry for not replying sooner, arghh I'm so confused, he works for himself but I can't ask him lol, it could be anything, doesn't even matter, he's gone anyway. My first thought was to prove her age. The backstory is my ex did this too, that's why it's so embarrassing, feeling like it's something to do with me

I don't mean he's actually gone, I should have said he will be gone, just have to get a few things sorted first and a bit more digging, I can't do this again but I want to be 100% sure

not an "escort". A prostitute.

At least call a spade a spade.

@RaspberryCoulis well put and OP please contact the police. Not for your shortly to be ex-boyfriend but to possibly protect the young woman.

@RaspberryCoulis prostitute or victim of sexual exploitation/human trafficking/vulnerable woman whatever has happened it's not the fault of that woman, it's the fault of the cheating man who thinks he can buy a woman for sex. I've worked with many many women who've sold sex and you wouldn't want to swap lives with any of them for a moment. Mental health issues, addictions, victims of childhood sexual abuse, pimped and exploited by men they thought loved them, passports taken away, threats made to their families in other countries, forcible heroin injections, physical abuse, control and the list goes on, but sure they're just prostitutes.

I'd rather call them escorts, I don't blame them, I know it's the fault of the dirty sleazy men that they even exist! It's a Romanian ID card, I just googled it

From reading UK punting reviews, it seems like the majority of prostitutes in the UK (in the non high end of the business anyway) are Romanian.

The car accident theory is not impossible but if seems strange you'd give an address and post code - rather than a car license plate (??) and if he hadn't mentioned an accident, the prostitute theory seems most likely.

Can you investigate further?

As to it being "you" if he is using prostitutes.(because a previous partner did it) .. that's like saying you tread in dog shit twice so it's you; no, clearly you live in an area with irresponsible dog owners or you've been unlucky or .... Any no of factors.

Lots of women are having this find to them.anc don't find out ; it's obvious from.uk punting reviews that a portion of then are attached men, and those are just the ones who make it clear and "joke" about it.

You are probably more switched, more suspicion, and have your radar on because of your previous experience ... So you've become aware of this.

Will you be calling the police?

You should. A message to your DP from a man on WA showing a foreign woman's driving licence.

She is possibly being trafficked and prostituted.

What more do you need to see?

An escort is definitely not sending clients copies if id. Nobody works under their real name.

There's lots to think about, I agree with the dog shit theory but I'm also struggling to find a reasonable explanation, I am going to be doing more digging but I'm not going to call the police at this point, not ruling it out though

I also definitely listen to my gut feeling after going through this with my ex