To want time to myself too much?

[Flowers24]

I'm a mum to teens so they spend a lot of time in their rooms or asleep, I spend time with them when I can or when they want to but lately I just want to be alone?! Evenings I'm itching for dh to go to bed so I can have lounge to myself, nice glass of wine, chocolate and my favourite things on TV, is this normal? Is it years of being in high demand as a mum now I am wanting this time? Is it because dh and I are together in the house every day since the pandemic began as working at home ?
Is this normal ? Probably should knock the nightly glass of wine on the head but im so enjoying that and me time?

I’m exactly the same. I put my love of being happy in my own company down to being an only child. 😊

I need alot of alone time - just the same!

My dream evening is having the house all to myself with kids tucked up in bed and DH out of the house. You are definitely NOT BU

Everyone needs some alone time. If you are locked up with the rest of your family it is quite normal to want a little bit of a break. You would automatically get some alone time in normal times, and wanting some alone time now is just your brain craving a bit of normality back.

Perfectly normal! I love the quiet time once everyone else in the house is asleep, and it’s just me sat there in silence. It’s bliss. I can do whatever I want (quietly!) and just be. No demands, no kids bickering, and I can peek in at my sleeping babies and get a rush of love for them before commando rolling away as they stir.

I think me time is important.

@Nonbio46

I’m exactly the same. I put my love of being happy in my own company down to being an only child. 😊

Same here, I only feel like my true self when I'm completely alone

I was longing for that the other night. Just a whole evening on my own. Think it's just that we're living in each other's pockets now! One evening would be enough for me though not every night.

Sounds about right.

Yanbu. Late at night, when everyone's asleep and the house is deliciously peaceful - is the best time to sit and do a daily crossword. No TV, no radio, just peace. It's the perfect wind-down.

@Nonbio46

I’m exactly the same. I put my love of being happy in my own company down to being an only child. 😊

I don’t think so, as I grew up the eldest of a large family in an overcrowded small house with literally nowhere to be alone — I think this has certainly contributed to me and my siblings being people who like space and solitude.

Although I suppose if I were a bloke I'd be accused of staying down to watch porn.

I love spending time on my own. If I don't my mental health quickly spirals. I need a alone time each day.

Totally get you.
Feel terrible seeing DH trundled off to bed on his own but I LOVE my hour of quiet watching tv on my own. Even if it means going to bed later than I should.

A whole YEAR of people 24-7 in the house - YANBU at all.

YANBU
Alone time is bliss

I'm exactly the same, I really relish an hour or so alone when everyone else has gone to bed. I feel I need it for my own sanity, after a year of near constant company.

The only thing you are unreasonable about is only having the one glass of wine.

Yes! This is my exactly.

Quite normal, Flowers.

Thanks everyone I was feeling, am I selfish wanting this but now you have put my mind at rest !

@Teawaster

The only thing you are unreasonable about is only having the one glass of wine.

Ha ha ,I do sometimes have 2!

I'm exactly the same. It's one of the reasons I got divorced (others too obvo) but just the realisation that most of the time I prefer being alone in my own house. If I get a boyfriend now, there's no way I'd live with them.

It’s absolutely normal! I love my family but I need time to be completely alone or my mental health. Given a choice, I’d have one weekend day entirely on my own. I love to cook and eat dinner together, but I’d much prefer to sleep by myself. We’re all different.

*mental health suffers

I get it. I listened very happily to DH’s talk of Thursday night hockey re-starting soon.