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To want time to myself too much?

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Flowers24 · 16/03/2021 23:13

I'm a mum to teens so they spend a lot of time in their rooms or asleep, I spend time with them when I can or when they want to but lately I just want to be alone?! Evenings I'm itching for dh to go to bed so I can have lounge to myself, nice glass of wine, chocolate and my favourite things on TV, is this normal? Is it years of being in high demand as a mum now I am wanting this time? Is it because dh and I are together in the house every day since the pandemic began as working at home ?
Is this normal ? Probably should knock the nightly glass of wine on the head but im so enjoying that and me time?

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DwangelaForever · 17/03/2021 07:54

The number of grumps this has caused my OH because he would gladly sit and watch like 5 episodes of a TV show when the kids go to bed but I only want to watch 2 and go to bed and read instead lol.

I find my family too loud. Both WFH. 2 kids under 5. OH learning to play the guitar and constantly singing or humming. I just need quiet lol. I love a Sunday afternoon when he decides to take them to the park with his brother and neices 🙈

EmpressWitchDoesntBurn · 17/03/2021 07:56

This is why I live on my own. I love time with friends & family but the thought of having other people living in my flat.... no. Just no!

Mrsbclinton · 17/03/2021 07:57

I love having the house to myself even if it’s during the day & Im doing the house work!

Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 09:39

I also try and get an hour in the morning to myself , just swap the wine for coffee and watch some of the tv i like.....

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Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 09:40

Id always dreamed of my own little 1 bed house I could escape to for a weekend sometimes or even overnight, just me, wine, candles, tv and kindle.
I sometimes dream of staying a night in the Premier Inn down the road to be alone !!!

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Desmondo2021 · 17/03/2021 09:41

Mu husband recently changed roles so he doesn't do late shifts anymore and whilst I love our more structured evening routine (ie having him there for dinner and bedtime stress lol) I totally get what you mean. I used to love that couple hours after dinner when it was just me!

Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 09:41

@Mrsbclinton

I love having the house to myself even if it’s during the day & Im doing the house work!
I used to love my days in the house alone if i wasnt out working, even if doing housework as you say. Havent had that for a year now with both of us working from home and teens in the house.
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EternalOptimist7 · 17/03/2021 09:46

Same here - I often stay up after DH has gone to bed so I can catch up on Married At First Sight, drink wine & snack to my heart’s content! Love alone time.

Cloudyrainsham · 17/03/2021 09:48

Nope. I’m on my own most of the day but still love the evenings. Like you I’ve got teens who I rarely see but look forward tom10pm when husband goes to bed and I can watch to tv on my own.

Cloudyrainsham · 17/03/2021 09:49

@Flowers24 - we have a caravan. I love the weekends when everyone else wants to stay home! I go alone and do pretty much nothing all weekend 😂

Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 10:07

Im envious !!

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Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 16:44

Im already planning my wine, chocolate and tv for later tonight ..................

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