To want to lose my shit!!!

[DM1209]

My 13 year old daughter has today been told by a 13 year old boy in her year, 'fuck off you immigrant, you fucking Somalian immigrant, go back to your own fucking country.'

Why? Because he wouldn't let her pass in the corridor to get to the lunch hall and she asked him and his 5 friends (all also blocking her path), to move. They refused so she went around them and this was his response.

My daughter is Indian. She reported the incident, the boys own FRIENDS confirmed he had said this to her and then the school called me.
He will be 'sanctioned'. I may well impose my own sanction by contacting the Police.

So there we have it ladies and gents, 2021 is no different to the 80's and 90's when I was at school being told the same thing.

Nasty, racist little shit. I'd go as high up as possible with that. Presumably he is above the age of criminal responsibility? Even in the 90s if anyone I knew had said that, they would have been excluded and when their parents found out, they would have given them a good hiding.

@FluffyHippo
WTF? It was hardly a bit of name calling. It was a completely vitriolic racist attack.
Stop making excuses for racists.

Your poor daughter. It’s a hate crime, report it to the Police.

OP, you must take this all the way.

I am so sorry

@FluffyHippo

This isnt calling a mate an eejit. Its racism. It is illegal.

Why don't you just take yourself off this thread.

That's absolutely disgusting. I'm so sorry OP.

I would 100% report to the police.

I would raise hell! I might not phone the police but I’d definitely threaten too. I’d threaten an ofsted complaint too.

I would like to know what @FluffyHippo would do if this was her child.

Makes you wonder about where the child has heard it from too.

It's not name calling or even telling someone to fuck off, it's out and out racism.

The kid needs a slap (verbally of course) but children only repeat what they hear at home. The parents are more than likely gammony brexiteer types. I'd say have pity but that seems like a stretch.

@SylviaPlath1984

Absolutely report to the police, it's a racial attack and a hate crime. Your poor daughter doesn't deserve to be treated like that and the scum bag who said those things needs a wake up call, let his parents have the embarrassment of a police call to the house because their son is a racist little prick.

All of this. Please escalate it as high as possible. It’s disgusting but utterly unsurprising unfortunately.

I’d be losing my shit over this! Contact the police, and hopefully they will take v seriously, however, in most cases, the parents don’t give a flying fuck as the kids attitude and racist remarks are first heard at home... disgusting little shit... if he isn’t permanent excluded, I’d be taking it to the governors or moving my child from the school.

Terrible! But also terrible that such young children are using such disgusting language - I had never even heard of that word at 13. Such a shame.

Call the police op. I bloody would. My kids are white but have a “foreign” name and if anyone of that age said anything similar to that I wouldn’t hesitate.
At that age they should know right from wrong.

I feel your frustration. Ds 14 is often the target of racial slurs. We’ve had the police involved when one little darling kept calling him the n word and a slave. My child is mixed race.
Unfortunately for the child, my ds has many, many friends and after the 6th time he was jumped by them he finally stopped. I don’t condone that at all but unfortunately the school were rubbish and have continued to be since. I hope you and your dd are okay x

What a racist little shit. Take it as high as you can. So sorry that happened to your DD. I am outraged for you.

@FluffyHippo

Yeah, call the police for a bit of name-calling - it's not like they'd have anything else to investigate, is it?

And, all of you invoking the forces of law and order, how come none of you are dragging out the 'teenagers' brains not fully formed / still a child' Mumsnet mantra in respect of this boy? You do when it's your children.

And, all of you invoking the forces of law and order, how come none of you are dragging out the 'teenagers' brains not fully formed / still a child' Mumsnet mantra in respect of this boy? You do when it's your children.

Actually you’re right there @FluffyHippo

Where I disagree is that the consequences should be to do nothing. It wasn’t just ‘name calling’.
The comments were racist.
I would also argue they were sexists too.
If those teens aren’t learning now, when are they going to learn??

However, calling a child a ‘little shit’ doesn’t make anyone more right or help the OP n any shape or form tbh.

However, calling a child a ‘little shit’ doesn’t make anyone more right or help the OP n any shape or form tbh.

Better than some of the names Ops child has been called, no?

Absolutely disgusting. I'm so sorry you and your daughter are going through this. I agree. Take this further. It's not acceptable. 'sanctions' seem like something you'd impose for minor behaviour issues, not something as serious as this.

Hello all, thank you, thank you - thank you. It has warmed my heart to read that a majority of the views on here are zero tolerance for such language and yes, criminal behaviour.

This boy is in my daughter's year and she shares some classes with him. Further, he has previously called her 'names' such as 'cow' and 'bitch' all of which she has handled with absolute grace.
She's even defended his previous name calling stating that he is clearly having a difficult time at school and so she's ignored it. I have taught her such tolerance and kindness.

What I will NOT teach her is to be in any way shape or form accepting of a racial attack or to feel like she has done something wrong for simply wanting be allowed, ALLOWED to walk passed a bunch of boys.

Under NO circumstances will I allow her to grow up as a victim or to think 'well it's just some words'.
For the Fluffy loser that said this, it isn't just words. It cuts to the bone, it is terrifying because you don't know how deep that hate for your skin colour runs or how seriously that hate will later manifest itself. Finally, it shows an innocent child that people will throw hate your way simply for being born the colour that you are.
Rest assured if your kid was ever in any trouble, even coming from someone with ignorant views as yours, my daughter would be the first person to stand up for him/her.

I have a meeting with the school tomorrow. I appreciate they have a very difficult job to do and I have no complaint with them but I will be reporting this to the police, regardless of what the school do.

I thought we had gotten passed such things in schools I really did. The saddest part is she said to me, 'I've experienced indirect rasicm so many times Mum, this is the first time someone has directly said it to me and I felt actual physical pain in my chest'. NO ONE, especially a child should have to tolerate such abuse. There is a reason it's criminalised behaviour.

We must continue to try and do better.

@DM1209 you sound brilliant. Sending you love and strength.

I'd rather they were educating the ignorant fool than a punitive punishment like isolation or exclusion (time off school!) - that's not going to change his mindset . Prevent sounds like a good idea but I've no idea how you get referred, I'd imagine by school, maybe if you spoke to the police. I'd definitely speak to someone about it further.

Not just words though was it, it was intimidating behaviour in blocking her path... Behaviour listed as an example domestic violence... If in a different context.

She shouldn't have to suffer either racist or sexist insults at school.
"Sanctions" aren't enough.
You won't be told what the sanctions are, but you can ask them to confirm what the school is doing to prevent this happening in future, in terms of policy and education.
You can raise it with the governors, report to LA and do refer it to the police.
Your daughter sounds fabulous, you must be very proud of .

Definitely go to the police. That kid won't learn until it's been taken further. Also tell the school you will be taking it to the police!!