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To ask if anyone else is feeling really flat at the moment?

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Cactus1982 · 15/03/2021 18:24

I’m not sure if it’s related to the never ending relentlessness of the pandemic or not, but these last couple of weeks I’ve felt ever so flat and a bit ‘meh’ and feel no enthusiasm for anything and struggle to find enjoyment in things I usually would. I’ve had the vaccine due to my job, and yet I still can’t see the point? I’ve not been sleeping well, but also don’t feel tired either. I don’t feel hungry and have no appetite and yet am perfectly healthy physically (regular tests so not Covid) The only way I can explain is like an emptiness inside.

I’m wondering it’s just me is everyone feeling like that?

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Countrylane · 17/03/2021 09:32

God totally. For me, it's partly because in the last few weeks life "before" has started to seem completely unreal - almost impossible. I sort of worry DP and I will spend the rest of our lives watching TV on the sofa. I KNOW we won't but "freedom" is starting to feel rather unimaginable...

JadeSeahorse · 17/03/2021 09:35

Absolutely!

I know it sounds really selfish and shallow but, at the moment, it feels there is nothing to look forward to and Im just wasting my life away. ☹️

I do keep reminding myself there are people way worse off than us, feel ashamed of myself for my thoughts and then just feel flat again. ☹️

zafferana · 17/03/2021 09:36

@PrintempsAhoy

Does anyone else feel like they have stopped looking forward to being able to go out, do things, and see friends , once we are free again?

Almost like it’s too late now and I am past caring

Yes! I can't even get excited about life returning to normal any more. I feel certain our summer holiday won't be going ahead and I don't even care any more - and that is SO unlike me.
Popcornbetty · 17/03/2021 09:49

Same here, just feel fed up of it all then at the same time incredibly guilty for feeling that way; me and my family are lucky compared to others who have been devastatingly affected.
First world problems for me but i feel sad i can't take my young children swimming (my youngest loves water and has never been), to soft play, cinema, cafes, can't stroll around the shops, that places like thorntons that i grew up with etc have closed and my dc will never be taken there for a treat like i was as a child and wonder if the highstreet will be like a ghost town when we do return. Will shopping centres ever recover or will it be empty and all online with atrocious customer service (yes I'm looking at you sports direct and matalan! Angry)
I feel like ive missed out that i havent even gotten to see inside my dc's nursery and had to hand him over to a stranger with no settling in session. Will life ever be normal again or will lockdowns keep happening?
I yearn for long sunny days out in the summer with no masks, freedom and getting to stop off where ever we like at any distance we like.

Wantocrawlintoadarkcave · 17/03/2021 10:05

Another one here! Conscious I'm in a very privileged position compared to many. Supportive family & friends but don't want to burden them. Feel combination of lockdown malaise combined with accute stress (teens + Brexit issues + health issues) and mounting pressure connected to the ever-lengthening list of priority visits, work projects, travel that will be necessary post-lockdown. Hence my current nn .

Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 10:11

Feel very flat and empty, no energy, no enthusiasm?

Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 10:12

Also to add i am constantly worried my teens are losing huge chunks of the time they should be out and socialising, worry my parents will be ok, starting to not even care if i cant have my summer holiday now, feel life as we had it is over etc etc

Bryzoan · 17/03/2021 10:17

Definitely - thought I would be so productive with the kids back at school but feeling empty and struggling to engage. Half planning weekends etc for the summer but no real confidence it will happen, all just feels a bit pointless and uncertain. Think it is a classic case of learned helplessness but can’t quite summon the zim to unlearn it!

Cailleach · 17/03/2021 11:01

Same here. Normally I never stop but on my days off now I just lie on the sofa all day, napping and listlessly scrolling through my tablet. I had a left oophorectomy back in November which I have struggled to recover from and my hormone levels are all over the place.

My allotment hasn't been touched for months.

Work was the one good thing I had but now our vile ex-boss has returned and the atmosphere within my lovely team has totally changed and people are being bullied out left right and centre just because he doesn't like them.

I can't be arsed...I'm not even going out for food any more, just getting my top up shop via Amazon Prime/Morrisons.

Just flat, flat, flat. Can't be bothered. Becoming a recluse tbh.

OverByYer · 17/03/2021 11:10

I’ve been fortunate in that I’ve been able to carry on going out to work. But days off I have no interest in doing anything. I’ve managed to keep exercising but that’s about it. My hair is a mess, don’t have any interest in clothes. I have this week off as have leave to use and am just feeling guilty for not doing things that need doing like gardening or decorating. All seems too much effort

Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 11:11

I want to add i have no interest now in clothes shopping etc even when they do open., cant be bothered?

Tvci5 · 17/03/2021 11:14

I'm worried my post lockdown life won't feel a lot different

UncleBunclesHouse · 17/03/2021 11:14

Yep I’m with you. I feel like crying a lot but I never do because I’m so flat I can’t even do that. I feel like everything that makes me ‘me’ has been taken away, haven’t left home other than nursery run for months due to being pregnant, can’t even exercise as I have bad SPD. All I do is work on my own in the house all day, do housework and look after others and collapse into bed to start it all again.

Sorry that’s probably not helpful, but you are definitely not alone. I think the long term effects of this pandemic on mental health is going to be way beyond what anyone could imagine.

TownTalkJewels · 17/03/2021 12:06

I’m so glad this isn’t just me! I’ve been feeling so guilty about it. Don’t enjoy anything I used to. Cooking, exercising, I read a ton in the first lockdown- now I just stare at my phone.

It’s like I’ve lost the ability to hope.

I also feel overwhelmed by the idea of planning things once the lockdown is over. Almost as if it will be a burden. It’s a bizarre feeling.

SnuggyBuggy · 17/03/2021 12:07

I keep thinking of animals who've spent so long in cages their behaviour is completely abnormal and drawing comparisons.

MarshaBradyo · 17/03/2021 12:08

I’ve thought of animals in zoos often too.

LemonSherbetFancies · 17/03/2021 12:28

Yes. Planned loads of events and trips out for when we are 'allowed back out' but still feel pretty flat. I just really miss my old and fun life and each day feels harder and harder.

PollyGray · 17/03/2021 12:38

@AnyFucker

You won't know me, namechanges and years gone by and all.

But you were there for me when I was on the floor.
So here I am. Keep going. One step at a time.

blackheartsgirl · 17/03/2021 12:46

Same.
No enthusiasm for anything.

Everyone's pinning hopes on lockdown ending this summer, back to normal etc. Nah it won't be. It will be lockdown after lockdown for a few years. The experts are predicting a surge in cases and more deaths. Cant see the point of this bloody vaccine whatsover

AnyFucker · 17/03/2021 13:06

Thanks @PollyGray

Wantocrawlintoadarkcave · 17/03/2021 13:18

A friend said to me that it's like we have all been to bed but not been refreshed by a good night's sleep but you keep getting up anyway, day after day, and I thought that was a very good analogy.

Popcornbetty · 17/03/2021 13:27

'Everyone's pinning hopes on lockdown ending this summer, back to normal etc. Nah it won't be. It will be lockdown after lockdown for a few years.'

Arrgghhh i bloody hope not! Not sure alot of people's mental health would cope with that.
Its honestly just shit. I agree about everything feeling like a chore but at the same time hanging washing out in the sun is a delight...life is that dull! Thank goodness for my dc who are keeping me going!

Worknoplay · 17/03/2021 13:30

No, I'm feeling optimistic for the first time in ages.

  • I started running again (after having had Covid over Christmas) and I feel physically fit
  • gone on a diet to loose the few pounds I've put on
  • back at work in a school full of kids and energy
  • my garden looks lovely with a few flowers out

Honestly I haven't felt this good in months.

Wantocrawlintoadarkcave · 17/03/2021 13:32

I prefer to have the mindset that there won't be travel or widespread relaxation of rules this summer - so that it will be a bit like last summer - and then if it's better than that it's a bonus, but no huge disappointments if not.

JeanClaudeVanDammit · 17/03/2021 13:35

It’s a year this week since I left the office and wasn’t allowed to come back. A year of this has had a really negative effect on my mental health and while I’m now medicated it’s just made me feel flat instead of anxious. I can see spring coming but it just reminds me of how shit last spring was.

I’m not vaccinated yet and won’t be for some time. I’m not scared of covid, I never really was. I just don’t trust that the goal posts won’t keep moving further and further away and this will continue for a lot longer. We have UK holidays booked for the summer, so I should be looking forward to those but I don’t feel like I dare hope or feel enthusiastic about anything in case it gets taken away again. Public opinion worries me, with the unwavering enthusiasm for restrictions, vaccination passports, banning protects, hanging people who flock to beaches etc. It’s just all a bit shit and I don’t know where it ends.