To think OH prank isn't funny?

[afternoonnapqueen]

Today is the day I hear if I got the job I wanted I'm really banking on getting it and will be gutted if I don't.

I get terrible anxiety I worked myself up so much last week I had a panic attack. OH has been pranking me this morning of No caller ID he even got his brother to join in.

I kept thinking I missed the call and was wondering why they couldn't hear me when I kept saying Hello, I was getting my self into a right mess.

OH and his brother cracking up laughing messaging each other, now they've put me in a terrible mood.

AIBU to think this isn't funny or am I just too serious?

He sounds like an abusive bully. Is it really worth staying with someone who treats you so badly?

I hope you get the job and can use it to make a better future for yourself without him.

Nope that doesn't sound funny to me, it sounds really cruel.

I am keeping my fingers and toes crossed you get the job. You have my sympathies on you dh/dp and his brother. It must be horrible having to deal with such nasty pathetic losers.

I'm willing to bet he's an arsehole in many other ways.

Good luck with the job. I'd reconsider the relationship.

@afternoonnapqueen

I'm in tears over it all he's saying I've ruined the day because I've got in a mood over it all. God I hate him so much! He's trying to say he was preparing me for the call.

AIBU to think this isn't funny or am I just too serious

There's no such thing as the 'right' level of how serious a person should or shouldn't be. You are as serious as you are, and that's the end of it. It can't be judged in terms of (un)reasonableness - it's part of who you are. Get hold of that. Whether you find something funny, entertaining, stupid, rude, mean, complimentary, insulting, abusive, childish, etc etc, is up to you. If anybody tries to tell you you are wrong to feel what you feel, they are not letting you be who you really are. In this instance, he's even going so far as to say that you are 'ruining the day' by being in a mood, whilst overlooking the fact that the reason you're in a mood is because he ruined your day first. Clearly, that is an irrelevance to him.

It seems your feelings count for nothing.

But if he is disrespecting your feelings, you must start to respect them yourself. Your post is asking, really, is it OK for me to feel how I feel, or should I try to shove my feelings to the side, ignore them, silence them, surpress them, minimise them, pretend I don't have feelings at all?

Never ignore your feelings afternoonnapqueen. If you feel something, feel it in full. Feel it altogether. Share it, and stay away from anybody who tries to correct it. Your feelings are who you really are, they are the real you, the strong, brave, loyal, courageous you who stands up and says 'Hey, you arsehole! I've told you I don't like your jokes. You stop, or you leave: Got it?' It's easy to tell that she's there; she's the one who posted.

She is afraid to speak out strongly, though, because you don't have faith in her. She will always be right, though. Let her speak. She will be the one to guide you into a better relationship than the one you have with this pranking, giggling schoolboy, and into a better relationship with yourself.

What kind of man has so little regard for the mother of his children?

@ChristianGreysAnatomy

Prank him back with a promise of sex that you don’t deliver on. Ever.

Or "prank" him and say "I'm leaving you".

Then pack his bags and say "sorry, that was a prank, you are leaving me, now fuck off dickhead!". Then chuck his bags through the door.

He sounds like a right turd burger.

It’s not a prank any more, it’s bullying. They’re continuing to do something they know for a fact upsets you.

I’d also put money on your OH being horrible in other ways too. I hope you get the job and it gives you enough options to walk away from being treated like this.

I would actually leave him for this

It’s one thing to do the prank, but when he realised it upset you as much as it does, he should have apologised.

Instead he’s turned it back on you and saying it was just a joke and you’re so miserable

He’s a horrible man

I tried turning it around and thinking of how a prank like this might be funny. Nope. It's fucking horrible, and only a complete tosser would even think of pulling this shit, even on someone they didn't like, never mind their partner.

Wow, can’t believe what I’ve just read op....that is really shitty behaviour. How are they find your anxiety funny?

They need to stop this because if the interviewing company is trying to get through they won't be able to.

I'd be biding my time to extricate myself out of this. My husband does silly 'pranks' occasionally but if I'm not finding it funny, he stops. Immediately.

Somebody who does this knowing that it's upsetting the person they're supposed to love, isn't worth having.

I think he feels insecure about you bettering yourself, OP. It's not a prank, it's a considered and sustained dig at your confidence. He's a twat. But he's a stay-at-home twat. Get some advice on how to leave one of those.

Good luck, I hope you get this job, it will really open up your world for you and give you a lift.

He sounds cruel and dare I say rather stupid!! Why are you the only one job hunting? Sounds as if he needs to get off his arse and get employment. He is setting a really bad example to your children...Mummy crying and Daddy laughing at her ...vile behaviour.
I hope you get the job 💐

Prank = bullying. The very word makes my blood run cold

@purplecorkheart

I am keeping my fingers and toes crossed you get the job. You have my sympathies on you dh/dp and his brother. It must be horrible having to deal with such nasty pathetic losers.

Exactly this. It’s upsetting to read, let alone live through. 🤞you get good job news soon!

How will he manage if you don't get the job; haven't got a job? - Perhaps he should go and find a job instead of you? Seems very immature.

He sees your distress, delights in it and tries to sustain it. I don’t know why someone who loves you would do that.

I hope you get the job, so good luck.

Your partner and his brother are deliberately choosing to upset you and escalate your anxiety. They're also occupying your phone line which could result in you not receiving the call.

Your partner sounds like a childish prick with too much time on his hands and nothing but contempt for you and your feelings.

I'd be rethinking this relationship.

@afternoonnapqueen

I'm in tears over it all he's saying I've ruined the day because I've got in a mood over it all. God I hate him so much! He's trying to say he was preparing me for the call.

what a wanker. I would not let drop how truly shitty a thing he did tbh

Have you much to stay with him for?

Why the f are you with him? He’s a loser.

Him and his db are still doing it even after he knows you've been crying over it?

Sorry op but I'm struggling to see how he thinks it's ok and funny. Upsetting people isn't a joke.

Wow I can't believe they are still carrying on! What absolute tossers.

Hope you get the job. I wouldn't be telling him the news for a while either way after the way he has behaved.

So he's tying up your phone repeatedly? Does he not want the employer to be able to get through to you?

He and his brother sound awful. I was hoping you were childfree so you could get this job and walk put on him instantly.

He is likely to be emotionally cruel to your kids for the bantz. Maybe he already is. I'd be making plans to throw him out.

What an absolute loser. He sounds about 12 as does his brother. The fact that they blame you for being upset and continue behaving like dicks after you've been crying is awful behaviour. I'd tell him to grow the fuck up.