To not be able to think of my best life moment?

[Misty9]

AIBU (am I being unusual...) in not really being able to bring to mind the best moment in my life? I struggle with my autobiographical memory but nothing really stands out as the best moment?! Context: I'm reading a book which asks you to imagine the best moment in your life...

Can others do this? What are your best moments?

I feel lucky, my life has had some really wonderful moments so there's no specific highlight. And personally I try really hard to find joy in the small things.

I think of the day I discovered I'd gotten into the university I really wanted to go to, or the day I met my now husband, the day he proposed, the day we found out i was pregnant, etc but there's been lots of small but still wonderful moments along the way.

One of mine was being there when DD1 gave birth, and I held my grandson for the 1st time while his mum had a bath and some breakfast. The sun was coming up and I honestly felt like my heart was going to burst.

the day i found out i was pregnant with ds1. we had been trying for 3 years and i was just ecstatic. Literally, just couldn't stop BEAMING all day. My wedding day.
i remember swimming in the sea one day in the baking Mediterranean sea and thinking that nothing could be better.

various other points that have just been ...sooo lovely

Hmm yeah that's a tough one...I remember one day when DS1 was maybe two or three weeks old, and the three of us went for a walk and had coffee at this tiny weird place, and I started to feel like 'yeah, I can do this' - we could take DS out and still be human and do stuff.

And then we went home and some family came over to make pancakes (it was pancake day) and then the three of us went to sleep on a sheepskin in the living room watching the sun set.

That was a nice day x

It's the smaller moments of contentedness and joy for me too, rather than big joyful times. Doing crazy dancing with dd, feeling loved by friends on a birthday night out, watching the sea on a winters day.

To the pp who mentioned a diary - I do keep one but unhelpfully I only seem to remember to write in it when I'm having a tough time!

I enjoyed my wedding and children being born and they are special moments. However the moments I really enjoyed are ones I didn’t expect, the little things, the small moments.

Cuddling in bed with my toddler, first time they said mama, playing games with them. Cuddling with OH in bed

One of my main ones is driving on holiday, with my dc, sister and dns. Mountain roads, sunshine, windows open, great music on the radio, everyone laughing. It was a snapshot of such happiness for me. I knew at the time that I would always remember that moment.

The amount of pride I felt when my eldest daughter walked to school in her school uniform. My youngest starts the school in June, and I know when I see both of them walking together, it will be perfect.

Got plenty of amazing moments (generally very mundane stuff such as my first trip to my local Tesco after I moved to London from abroad) but not a big moment. I'm generally quite good at finding joy in the small stuff.

Recently, I put some venetian blinds up in my flat. I didn't like the light-blocking ones that were there when I moved in, because I love waking up with daylight.
So, the first morning when I woke up with daylight was absolutely amazing.

These days, joy is coming from enjoying my little flat and doing some DIY. I'm a first time buyer and even if I lived in many flats before, this is the first time that I really feel "at home".

So many things. I am so lucky. Many of them have involved travel, live music and laughing until I cry with friends.

I miss normal life so much

Easy.....lying in a long boat in the middle of the Sunderbans in India. Looking up at the clear night sky, fluorescent plankton around us, holding hands with my OH.

@Figgyboa

Easy.....lying in a long boat in the middle of the Sunderbans in India. Looking up at the clear night sky, fluorescent plankton around us, holding hands with my OH.

Wow! I think even my memory would retain that one...

I was very happy when I got married, had kids, got the keys to our house etc, but also quite stressed! Like others I think my best moments have always been less momentous - sitting in the sun with friends, time spent with the kids, funny conversations. Beginning the descent over Ibiza with the whole island laid out below.

I've had times in my life when nothing very spectacular is even happening but I am so content with my life and everything feels so 'right' that I have this warm glow all over that makes me want to cry with happiness. I remember a few occasions, one when I was walking down the beach alone and I just felt happy, like so happy that everything in my life was not perfect, but just how they should be, it was an overwhelming feeling of contentment, hope and happiness.

Another time was when I was a couple weeks into taking my first anti depressant after years of being so depressed and not seeking help. I was sitting at the mirror doing my make up, and noticed the bird chirping so I got up and looked out the window. It was a lovely summers day and for the first time in years I seen colours, the trees were so green, the sky so blue, the sun so bright. Everything was bright and I cried with happiness because it was at that moment I realised my life had been really grey for years and I knew at that point there was hope and that I would feel better. That was a big moment for me because I have no doubt I would be dead by now without those pills.

Obviously big moments like having my daughter, but I didn't feel particularly happy, I was out of it and feeling in a dream like state and suffered from PND for years afterwards so really missed out on a good few years of her life so can't say it was a happy time. But I love her to bits and things are 100 times better now.

I really can't think of any others.

I think my next big events will be my graduation and 30th birthday next summer.

I'm utterly grateful that I have so many perfect moments. Not in any particular order:

• taking off on a solo round the world trip when I was 25. Realizing that I was about to go on a brilliant adventure.

• sleeping out under the stars on a farm in Swellendam, SA. Billions of stars like a blanket and a meteor shower that was absolutely mind blowing.

• each of the moments both my sons were born. Feeling their hot little slippery bodies and hearing their cries was so momentous I could barely catch my breath.

• Moving to a tiny Caribbean island for shits and giggles. Had never been here, knew nobody, didn't even have a job. 13 1/2 years, great career, 1 husband, 2 kids and 2 dogs later I'm still here. I'll never forget when I first stepped onto the beach and saw it. I vowed never to take it for granted (but I kind of do now!)

• The first time I sang live on stage in NYC with my band. We go every year we can and there's nothing like the energy and utter perfection of living like a rock star for 3 days and staying in ridiculously over priced 5 star hotels.

• The day after DH and I brought home our first puppy. I woke up like a kid on Christmas, and ran downstairs thinking I'd dreamed it. There he was in his little pen, wagging his 8 week old tail. Never have I been so overjoyed up until that point!

• the moment DH saw DS1 and exclaimed "it's a boy!"

• The day after I had DS1, I woke up in hospital and saw him lying in his crib next to me and I couldn't believe he was mine. DH was asleep in a camp bed next to me and I woke him up and said "DH wake up! We've got a baby!"

• waking up with DS2 snuggled into me. He's about to turn 7 and still creeps into our bed (which is big so we don't notice!) every night. I co-slept with him when I was tiny and my heart would explode every time I felt his tiny little leg kick against me and feel his baby breath on my neck.

• When DH flew my sister and my best friend here as a surprise for my 40th birthday. I bawled like a baby when I walked in the house and saw them.

• anytime I hear my kids giggling together. Makes me smile every single time.

• anytime I fly back to the UK to see my family. I practically run through arrivals knowing my mum and dad will be there with a Costa coffee and hot chocolate and croissants for the kids.

My life is so full of perfect moments that I struggle to list many of them. Long may they continue.

Giving birth was the happiest moment of my life. Looking at my grey and unwell husband smile after the ordeal 😁
Without a doubt the happiest and hardest day of my life.

• thinking I'd said goodbye to all my friends together the night before moving away and finding them all waiting at the airport with a sign the next morning

• holding my adored lover's hand in a Tokyo park at dusk in autumn, a hot coffee in the other, delirious with happiness

For me, it was having my firstborn.

I'd had a difficult and painful pregnancy, made much worse by me literally having a phobia of pregnancy and childbirth (not just a bit of fear, proper full blown tokophobia).

After 9 months of panic attacks, dark thoughts and crying myself to sleep often, I voluntarily walked down to the operating theatre, shaking, to have a section (natural birth was out of the question for me) and half an hour, I met my beautiful daughter.

All the love, and the hormones combined with the sheer relief and pride in myself that I managed it (with a smile on my face in the end) meant I felt like superwoman. It took me many months to come down from that high.

I've had many amazing moments in life (and the birth of my second was also amazing, but less overwhelmingly so because I knew I could do it, and was expecting to feel amazing) but the combination of fear, effort, love etc, I wish I could have bottled up.

A few years ago when my business had taken off, I felt my relationship was amazing....... I was driving to a client to work with them outdoors on a beautiful sunny day in beautiful scenery and I was bursting with happiness and a great sense of well-being.

On a road trip holiday setting up a wild camp by a river in S France. It was hot, we were alone and there were beautiful silvery moths everywhere...... I’d been for a swim in the warm water in the dark. I was with my puppy and my best friend.......... It was really magical.

Most of mine have been small, domestic, content moments and I love that, although my heart bursty travelling moment was the sun rising over the river in Vietnam as we had fresh fruit and coffee for breakfast in a tiny boat from the floating market, and just beaming at my now DH and thinking we were so lucky to be seeing that sunrise with each other in this amazing place.

But then we dance round the kitchen in our pyjamas and talk nonsense to each other and my heart feels like it's going to pop because despite the many many hard things in our lives, we love each other so much and we're an excellent team. But I wouldn't necessarily be able to recall a specific one of those if asked? More just a general feeling.