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To not be able to think of my best life moment?

45 replies

Misty9 · 14/03/2021 16:10

AIBU (am I being unusual...) in not really being able to bring to mind the best moment in my life? I struggle with my autobiographical memory but nothing really stands out as the best moment?! Context: I'm reading a book which asks you to imagine the best moment in your life...

Can others do this? What are your best moments?

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BackforGood · 14/03/2021 16:46

YANBU

I couldn't name "my best moment"
There have been lots of times (on holidays, etc) when I've taken a deep breath, looked around, and wondered if it gets any better than this.

I certainly wouldn't include childbirth or any of those supposed "magical" moments, due to the pain and the exhaustion etc.
Wedding - yes, I loved the day and the week surrounding the day, but there was no "moment".
I could list lots of lovely 'events' (ds's graduation, etc.,etc), but not one single moment that stood head and shoulders above the others.

cptartapp · 14/03/2021 17:00

Family holidays have been my best life moments. My DC are older teens now.
Us all standing at Gulfoss watching the sunrise or drinking wine in the park in Seville, the New Years fireworks in Copenhagen or wandering the cobbled streets of Rome for example will be hard to beat.
DH and I can continue to travel. But we won't be all together.

Sosigsandwich · 14/03/2021 17:02

Standing at the top of the aisle with everyone I love in one room looking at the man I who I was about to marry, my absolute soul mate. Literally took my breath away.

AWordsWorth · 14/03/2021 17:05

For me it is really really clear. The birth of my child. I had a problem free delivery, and everything worked out just great. Maybe endorphins? But it was amazing (the few minutes afterwards, not the actual delivery).

Lot of other outstanding memories too, but that was extra special.

I can also remember the worst moments in my life too. But that's another story.

Dalamalama · 14/03/2021 17:11

Sleeping under the brightest sprinkling stars at ayres rock.
Finishing my first (London) marathon after going from 18 stone to 11. The high was amazing! And lasted for weeks.

Shopliftersoftheworldunite · 14/03/2021 18:45

Watching the sunset on bondi beach when travelling Australia alone.

Graduating from my first degree.

My second date with my now-partner and not ever wanting it to end.

All excellent moments in my life! I’m hoping the best is yet to come though.

Nicolastuffedone · 14/03/2021 18:48

Definitely my wedding day! Walking down the aisle and seeing my very-soon-to-be-husband standing there...I wish I could capture that moment again!

GhostCurry · 14/03/2021 18:49

@Dalamalama

Sleeping under the brightest sprinkling stars at ayres rock. Finishing my first (London) marathon after going from 18 stone to 11. The high was amazing! And lasted for weeks.
*Uluru

These are lovely.

Like you OP, one particular moment is difficult to pin down. I am not a person of highs and lows really. I am very nostalgic though so I’ll have to give this one some thought!

Misty9 · 14/03/2021 18:50

I did really enjoy my wedding day. But we're getting a divorce... I can more easily recall horrible moments in my life Sad

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Turnedouttoes · 14/03/2021 18:54

Oohh what a great question.

I’ve not had any children or got engaged/married yet so none of those “big” moments.

I think I’d have to say holidays as well although I’m not sure I could pin it down to a particular moment. But I’ve definitely come home from certain places on a high from what a good time I had. Fraser Island in Australia and Seville are my most recent stand outs

purpleme12 · 14/03/2021 18:58

Yes it's easily my child being born
Sure it was hard but hand on heart when she was actually born and I had her in my arms it was truly magical

EyeDrops · 14/03/2021 18:59

I feel a bit like this. I am so content and happy in my life but don't feel like I've had big "wow" moments. Just wonderful warm glows of happy over periods of time. Or little things, like times when my 2yo is snuggled on my lap and I can just breathe her in and feel her warmth. Thats a highlight for me. Undoubtedly I loved my wedding at the time but tbh I've far more enjoyed just being together since? Does that make me sound really weird?!

DDIJ · 14/03/2021 19:03

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PenCreed · 14/03/2021 19:08

Weirdly, one thing which comes to mind was the first time I felt happy again after a period of depression. It was just after a (hard) exercise class, and I walked back to the station feeling happy and like the lights had been turned on for the first time in ages.

My wedding was great, but I'm not sure there's one moment that stands out as the "best" from it!

EternalOptimist7 · 14/03/2021 19:10

Lots of moments. I have always had a really good memory ( well maybe not so much lately with the lovely menopause!) & can go back to very early childhood. A huge moment for me was when I got home from my Grandparents after a week’s holiday & my Dad had put electric light in my dolls house. I was absolutely thrilled. The joy of seeing those miniature switches will never leave me. I could go on & on with other big moments. My first Mother’s Day after adopting DD is way up there.

Misty9 · 14/03/2021 19:13

Aww, lots of these are lovely. It does sadden me that I can't remember much of my life. I don't really remember my dc being born for example. I mean, I know it happened (!) but I don't remember it other than freeze frames from a movie, iyswim. No emotional memories. That might be more accurate?

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thetwinkletoescollective · 14/03/2021 19:19

I keep a diary where I write about three things a day that I am grateful for. So the other day me, my dh and my ds2 were dancing in the kitchen and it was one of the happiest moments. If I didn't write it in my diary I would no way remember it.

Writing down these things are the only way I would have any memory!!

Justcashnosweets · 14/03/2021 19:23

The birth of my daughter is definitely up there, but also holidays with my friends, frolicking on sunny beaches, and a particular fancy dress party a friend threw, and evey single one of my friends, old and new were there. It was one of the best nights of my life.

BanginChoons · 14/03/2021 19:24

My most memorable moment was the birth of my 3rd child, after my second was stillborn. I can so vividly remember holding his slippery little self in the birthing pool, staring at his beautiful face as he cried. In that moment, nothing else existed.

ChameleonClara · 14/03/2021 19:29

Mine are all very small/quiet so if asked in e.g. an interview I would feel self-conscious saying, but I have some lovely memories of family time, just where everyone is absolutely content and nothing is wrong, laughing or relaxing. I like those moments more than excitement generally. I feel so lucky to have had these moments.

Chimoia · 14/03/2021 19:31

Ha shoplifter it was pissing down with rain the day we were at bondi beach, the photos look more like Skegness, just goes to show you can't plan these things...
I have a couple of moments of pure joy that are very random family moments but I treasure them.

CluelessHamster · 14/03/2021 19:32

Waking up in my hospital bed the morning after ds1 was born and seeing him asleep in the crib next to me. The labour and birth had been tough and exhausting and I'd just crashed the minute I was in my bed in the postnatal ward (at 4am) but after a few hours sleep, looking at my beautiful boy in his crib, I felt I could conquer anything.

He was the best looking baby on the ward too!

GreenSlide · 14/03/2021 19:33

Aw for me it was when I was getting my section and they lifted DS over the curtain, and after all the weeks of worry and panic he was healthy and I fucking did it, I made a whole new person and he was and still is amazing.

honeylulu · 14/03/2021 19:34

Mine is so ordinary and mundane I'm almost embarrassed. I was walking along the pavement from our (old) house to the car parked around the corner, with my youngest who was probably two and a bit. I had her after years of secondary infertility and a second trimester loss. For the first couple of years of her life I could hardly take in that she was real.

Suddenly at that moment I looked down at her little head bobbing along next to me (she was chattering but I couldn't hear what she was saying), it was sunny and warm with a breeze and it hit me "omg, this is real, I have everything I ever wanted and I'm soooo happy".

CluelessHamster · 14/03/2021 19:38

That's beautiful, honeylulu. Not mundane at all. I think it's wonderful to treasure moments like that x

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