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To expect Mothers Day cards to say "Mum" not "Nan"

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Boysgrownbutstillathome · 14/03/2021 14:34

You may remember my post on Valentine's day when my DH unwittingly bought me a card to "My handsome fiance". I was upset about it but most of you Mumsnetters found it hilarious and it made the pages of The Sun!
Well this is my DS's Mother's day card to me. Rightly expecting a MD card to say "Mum" he didn't notice it said "Nan"! I did laugh this time and got him to overwrite it. AIBU to think that Mothers' day is for mothers, not grandmothers ( unless your grandmother raised you)

To expect Mothers Day cards to say "Mum" not "Nan"
To expect Mothers Day cards to say "Mum" not "Nan"
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activitythree · 14/03/2021 16:42

AIBU to think that Mothers' day is for mothers, not grandmothers ( unless your grandmother raised you)

YANBU, however, the fact that you do acknowledge that grandmothers do raise their grandchildren means you know it is NU for the shops to sell cards to Nan.

My Nanna raised me. I was with my mother periodically, but that majority of my upbringing was my Nanna. Guess which one I buy a card for?

I think your 22 year old son is just lazy tbh. You can't even argue he chose the card for the lovely design and didn't notice the writing!

theliverpoolone · 14/03/2021 16:43

Ha, @HoollyWugger - just seen you've had the same card I've had!

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Boysgrownbutstillathome · 14/03/2021 16:44

@CrocodilesCry

Wow - what an amazing coincidence! Are you sure he didn't do it on purpose?
Yes. He was very upset about it. I had to reassure him it is a lovely card. He had left it late and was in a rush. His father has set him a bad example over the years!
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activitythree · 14/03/2021 16:49

Yes. He was very upset about it. I had to reassure him it is a lovely card.

Not being funny but it's a shit card and you know it. Why on earth would you spend any time reassuring a grown man that a shit card was lovely?

Tinty · 14/03/2021 17:00

@activitythree
Yes. He was very upset about it. I had to reassure him it is a lovely card.

Not being funny but it's a shit card and you know it. Why on earth would you spend any time reassuring a grown man that a shit card was lovely?

Yes, @activitythree, because some of us actually like our Children and don’t make them feel bad about a mistake, even if they are 23.

activitythree · 14/03/2021 17:03

[quote Tinty]**@activitythree
Yes. He was very upset about it. I had to reassure him it is a lovely card.

Not being funny but it's a shit card and you know it. Why on earth would you spend any time reassuring a grown man that a shit card was lovely?

Yes, @activitythree, because some of us actually like our Children and don’t make them feel bad about a mistake, even if they are 23.[/quote]

Ah, I wasn't suggesting OP make him feel bad. But he was upset, she had to reassure him etc etc? Come on. See it for what it is. A mistake. A thoughtless one at that. I mean I like my children but I would be embarrassed if my 11 year old couldn't buy a basic card, never mind a 22 year old.

hennaoj · 14/03/2021 17:18

Could be worse, I was presented with a card still sealed in it's wrapper by my 10 year old. He was given it by the school, lovely idea but they should have told him to write in it first! (he's autistic).

Bairnsmum05 · 14/03/2021 17:22

It's so hard in Scotland to get cards with gran or granny, all seem to be nan/grandma and nana. A wee gap in the market up here.

Spidey66 · 14/03/2021 17:35

Was he trying to tell you something? Does he have a girlfriend by any chance?Wink

SooMoony · 14/03/2021 18:47

Yeah, I think your son is trying to tell you something...

Original poster
Boysgrownbutstillathome · 14/03/2021 18:48

Thanks for all your views, ideas and funny stories. I've had a nice day as I hope you all have xx

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ChocOrange1 · 14/03/2021 18:52

Doesn't it say "Mam"?

Original poster
Boysgrownbutstillathome · 15/03/2021 12:06

@ChocOrange1

Doesn't it say "Mam"?
No, my son over-wrote it to say Mum
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Petitmum · 15/03/2021 12:08

My children have a very close relationship with their grandmothers and send them a card every year.

Your DS should have read the card!

ShutUpAlex · 15/03/2021 12:11

I live winding up my dad with wrong cards. He gets so irritated. For Christmas I got one that said “for a wonderful mother and her partner.” Grin

strudsespark · 15/03/2021 12:24

Ha ha i think you missed an important message from your ds 🚼 🤣.

I also think you should drops the cards altogether given that they don't make you happy and your family clearly sees it as a chore. Or make it a competition who can get the most misplaced card, that would be more fun than fault-finding Wink.

Royalbloo · 15/03/2021 12:26

I got two cards for each of my DD's Nanna's. What's wrong with that?! They loved them.

hansgrueber · 15/03/2021 12:29

@PolarnOPirate

Grin haha. Are you at least a grandmother??
I once bought a card for our granddaughter wishing a happy Christmas to our great granddaughter, my OH was unusually perceptive to point out that it didn't mean she was a 'great' girl!
StellaKowalski · 15/03/2021 12:30

So he basically just picked up the first card he saw then and didn't read it

hansgrueber · 15/03/2021 12:32

@Felifox

My ndn's boy forgot his card and popped round to the local shop and came back with a nan card. She wasn't amused
Poor lad, at least he remembered. I recall being in a shop years ago and four rough looking lads came in, they very sheepishly asked for boxes of Roses and asked for a carrier bag to put them in!
hansgrueber · 15/03/2021 12:34

@HoollyWugger

My DD once sent me one that read "To someone who's like a mother to me" 😳😆
I once sent the reverse to my daughter, You've been like a daughter to me. God what a good, long memory she has!
happymummy12345 · 15/03/2021 12:39

In my family on both mother's and Father's Day we get cards for parents, grandparents, step parents, aunts and uncles and godparents. To us it's normal. All this mother's and fathers days are only for parents I think is an awful attitude to have

minmooch · 15/03/2021 12:42

My partner bought a Mother's Day card for his Mum - or so he thought. All the words were lovely just on the inside and in very pale silver did it say happy birthday! He just crossed out birthday and wrote Mother's Day
. His mum laughed as he knew she would. He's a great son and shows his love every day.

FireflyRainbow · 15/03/2021 13:27

Yabu. My nan raised me while my mum worked everyday and my kids usually send cards to both their nan and great nan who helped raise them. It's just nice and they like it, especially great nan this year who is bored shitless staying in and not being able to see anyone but her 1 carer most of the year.

PolarnOPirate · 15/03/2021 14:52

@FireflyRainbow OK, but OP isn’t a nan.....

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