To think most of you have someone in your life who would do this?

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It was 7.03am on Mothers' Day.

DP had got up was pottering in the en suite, I also woke because I needed to loo and had a pounding headache.

He got me painkillers and a glass of water and left me to lie in.

2 minutes later he comes in to ask where my car key is. Obviously he hadn't looked before enquiring .

It was in my bag where it always is, same bag as always. I never ever need to take it out my bag. Though this time, if he'd actually looked, he wouldn't have seen it - I've started to keep it zipped inside my purse, so I can just grab my purse if I'm nipping somewhere.

So I told him through my pain , it's inside my purse, in my bag.

2 minutes later, clatter through the bedroom door.

"No it's not in your purse, where is it?"

"Are you sure, I KNOW it's in there."

"No it's not, the purse is too flat, there's only credit cards in there."

"I'm SURE it's in there. Never taje it out, started popping it in purse so I can just grab and go."

"I can tell how flat it it, it's not there."

"Have you actually unzipped it to look to see it was where I explicitly said it was?"

"No, I don't need too, I can tell by the feel."

"Oh, well I'm worried now."

"Well the car's locked, I'll just have to find the spare."

3 mins later: text message to say, sorry found it, my bad looking.

He didn't even look before contradicting me where my explicit guidance told him too.

What a fricken nob.

Sounds like an utter non event to me.

man-looking topped up with a dose of male-arrogance.

He gets you painkillers and leaves you to have a lie in and he's a fricking knob. Either you're just not much of a morning person or you have some deep seated anger towards him because this is a total non-event.

Apt name OP
Well done

You told him ‘through your pain’
Wtf? You spoke with a headache? Please tell me you don’t think that’s an achievement.

Pounding headache, intolerable that he disturbed you to ask about keys, and yet you were well enough to post a thread about it

Whilst what your DH did was annoying & stupid (and I also have a DH who seemingly can never find anything) and I would also be really wound up with it, unless you had a migraine I think "talking through the pain" is a bit over the top

I'd have told him to bring the purse to me, and opened it in front of him and felt a perverse pleasure at seeing him proved wrong.

I get this OP. My dh's default position is to not believe me. My god, it's tiring trying to get through to him. I just give up now after one go as it's not worth the hassle. I remember once we were in the car and I was map reading (on Google maps and a real map!) Turn right, I said. He turned left as he felt it was the correct way. 5 minutes later we were back at the same junction. Turn right, I said. No, he still felt left was better. Five minutes later....

Back in the real world, OP, yes of course he’s a fucking knob for that. Re the thread title, though, no mine wouldn’t do this and it isn’t something you have to expect. He’s not a child.

He’s a total knob OP. He could have just checked where you had told him and left you alone!

My DH does stuff like this, not looking properly and being thick about it. He's not a total nob. When I empty the dishwasher I just leave lots of it on the draining board to put away later whereas my DH puts it away properly. He finds it annoying. I don't think he'd go on a chat forum to call me a total bitch for doing though. Live and let live people.

Those of you who has said the op is being unreasonable.

Next time you’re having a lie in, would you be fine with you oh waking you up every two minutes?

She had got up to go to the loo, he came in 2 mins later, and 2 mins after that. Hardly time to be back in a deep sleep especially considering her pounding headache. Storm in a teacup.

You could have very easily cut that short by simply saying; OK, get my purse for me. And voilà- there it is.
I understand it was annoying, but I think yabu to call him a nob.

Infuriating at the best of times. Rage-despair inducing when he's aware that you're ill, he's making the effort to bring you painkillers and he still won't use his brain to override that laziness-arrogance combination and make life easier.

An appropriate place for my favourite cartoon.

Sounds like typical man looking to me, but I feel your pain!

Annoying but typical of men/children looking for anything. Only adult women have the ability to locate things. At least he admitted it was his mistake AND apologised which is way better than most in that situation.

I did have one like that op, and I feel your pain. Note past tense. And, it's bliss not having to deal with this mentally exhausting nonsense any more.

Their vision is attuned to important man things and they lack skill to locate trivial home things.

@notanothertakeaway

Pounding headache, intolerable that he disturbed you to ask about keys, and yet you were well enough to post a thread about it

Magical pills

my explicit guidance

😂

@SpnBaby1967

Whilst what your DH did was annoying & stupid (and I also have a DH who seemingly can never find anything) and I would also be really wound up with it, unless you had a migraine I think "talking through the pain" is a bit over the top

I'd have told him to bring the purse to me, and opened it in front of him and felt a perverse pleasure at seeing him proved wrong.

Yes, that's exactly what I do if my DH is in 'I can't find it' mode.

(sigh) "Bring the bag to me ..."

Yes to most others, it's the arrogance of asking where to look followed by not looking where you've been told to look.

He didn't even really need my car, just fancied it for a change .

And he's since questioned the zipping it up in purse protocol. Well because I never need to actually touch the flipping key, why not keep it in the safest easiest place for me?

Also nob isn't equivalent to birch, pp. It's equivalent to numpty/plum/doofus. It's gently joshing.