I have been chatting with a guy i know from work (previous worked briefly together). I used to fancy him but when we met up a month ago i didn't really fancy him but would have given it another go to see if that returned but things have just gone a bit strange.
He is all over the place. He got back in touch with an old flame the day after our first date and now he's conflicted. He had a row with her over me, she apparently hit him, and they work together so although i don't know who she is i may know her and we will certainly know people in common.
He says he's in love with me, he is jealous of my ex and of any potential new guys, and he is always talking about his feelings and how unhappy and unsettled he is. But he seems so attached to her, he said last night if i told mutual colleagues about us it would ruin his life. Which really stung as i wouldn't want to ruin something he has but obviously i do have a little glimmer of hope for us.
I feel used and rejected and he doesn't seem to appreciate that at all. He is really interested in my life though and really sweet and caring, fun, and we spend hours talking on the phone. But ultimately i feel like this is some chaotic situation i don't want to be part of.
My gut feeling was to walk away but now it's to hold out. Am i just getting more attached and ignoring the signs?