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Can anyone say they have 100% stuck to covid rules for the last year?

374 replies

fedupandgrumpy000 · 11/03/2021 15:18

Just out of curiosity, can anyone say they completely have? e.g. no meeting up in groups slightly more than 6, sneaking the odd visitor in, not keeping a 1m distance when socialising, going out more than once a day in 1st lockdown... etc etc, just interested to know really!

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XenoBitch · 11/03/2021 22:21

@DebbieGetsTheJobDone

Who are you to decide who's mental health problems are real and who's aren't?!

oh so let's all ignore all the rules, and all meet our friends and family, shall we?

If we could never hear about the flipping "mental health" after the covid crisis, it would do wonder to our sanity!

Sad to see stigma regarding mental health issues is alive and well. Get used to hearing about it as there will be a huge mental health crisis that will continue long after the pandemic is over.
Diesse · 11/03/2021 22:22

Yes, completely.

SinusOhSinus · 11/03/2021 22:23

Totally OT but @NormanStangerson , I spent ages thinking about where I knew that name from till I realised I was hearing it in Caroline Quentins voice, then it came back to me!

shinynewapple21 · 11/03/2021 22:24

@LowlandLucky

No i haven't. My Father is the early stages of dementia, he lives alone and i managed to get carers in for him twice a day for 20 minutes each visit. I have to shop, cook, clean and do a host of other things for him. The Government expected me to leave him to his own devices, basically let him die of starvation. So yes i broke the rules because i had no choice.

Care visits for the elderly or vulnerable have always been an exemption

I can't believe after a year of this people still believe they are breaking the rules to do this

NormanStangerson · 11/03/2021 22:24

@SinusOhSinus

Totally OT but *@NormanStangerson* , I spent ages thinking about where I knew that name from till I realised I was hearing it in Caroline Quentins voice, then it came back to me!
Smile great show, that.
DebbieGetsTheJobDone · 11/03/2021 22:27

Sad to see stigma regarding mental health issues is alive and well. Get used to hearing about it as there will be a huge mental health crisis that will continue long after the pandemic is over.

My point was that people abusing and calling the "mental health" card to justify anything and everything are the reasons why it's not taking seriously and it will get worst and worst.

How can you take it seriously when people tell you that "being a bit bored" means their mental health is suffering? Hmm

DebbieGetsTheJobDone · 11/03/2021 22:28

NormanStangerson

good for you if the lockdown and the rules didn't apply to you and your friends. Why should it?

Serin · 11/03/2021 22:30

I haven't broken the rules.
Worked on a Covid ward for most of lockdown.

NormanStangerson · 11/03/2021 22:30

Incidentally @DebbieGetsTheJobDone you’ve made an awful leap to decide I was ‘living as normal’. Nothing about it was normal. I didn’t see anyone except them. I got my food delivered or clicked and collected, I didn’t see my family, I didn’t see any medics apart from when I had to go back into hospital, I didn’t see anyone except them, I didn’t get to a single baby class or group. I was hardly swanning about having clandestine drinks parties...

Also good to know where you’re at when it comes to mental health. Confused

DebbieGetsTheJobDone · 11/03/2021 22:35

NormanStangerson

if you decide to only break the rules to be with some people but not others, and to create your own group, that's your problem.

and I am not sure what "getting your food delivered" has to do with anything. You do realise that we are allowed to go and buy food - or carry on with online shopping?

Once again, why do people make stuff up all the time? It was never question of letting us all starve and banning us from getting food/medication/ access to health services Confused

But seeing grey hair is depressing, so in the name of protecting their mental health, the few celebs who made no secret of visiting hair dressers during lockdown were absolutely justified. Good for them! Grin

Mistlewoeandwhine · 11/03/2021 22:38

Yes

XenoBitch · 11/03/2021 22:39

@DebbieGetsTheJobDone

Sad to see stigma regarding mental health issues is alive and well. Get used to hearing about it as there will be a huge mental health crisis that will continue long after the pandemic is over.

My point was that people abusing and calling the "mental health" card to justify anything and everything are the reasons why it's not taking seriously and it will get worst and worst.

How can you take it seriously when people tell you that "being a bit bored" means their mental health is suffering? Hmm

So anyone using the "mental health card" should have to disclose how low they are, or how they made an attempt on their life before you will be satisfied that that their rule breaking was justified?
GrandTheftWalrus · 11/03/2021 22:41

No, a work colleague gave me a hug after my miscarriage.

LimitIsUp · 11/03/2021 22:42

I have been 90% compliant - so no not entirely

shinynewapple21 · 11/03/2021 22:43

I have to say I cannot understand when posters are saying they haven't seen their elderly parents for 18 months unless they live in different countries .

There has been plenty of scope within the rules for distanced outdoor meet ups or even window visits.

IrisW · 11/03/2021 22:46

We’ve adhered to all the rules - I’d be too worried about passing it to someone vulnerable to do anything else, and I’m in a higher risk group.

NormanStangerson · 11/03/2021 22:48

@DebbieGetsTheJobDone

NormanStangerson

if you decide to only break the rules to be with some people but not others, and to create your own group, that's your problem.

and I am not sure what "getting your food delivered" has to do with anything. You do realise that we are allowed to go and buy food - or carry on with online shopping?

Once again, why do people make stuff up all the time? It was never question of letting us all starve and banning us from getting food/medication/ access to health services Confused

But seeing grey hair is depressing, so in the name of protecting their mental health, the few celebs who made no secret of visiting hair dressers during lockdown were absolutely justified. Good for them! Grin

My point, that you chose to ignore or were incapable of understanding, was that I saw these three other mothers because I didn’t have anyone else, but I did not then go traipsing around a supermarket putting other people at risk. I chose to conduct the rest of my life as contactless as possible.

And yes. I knew I was breaking rules. But to me, being isolated and not having support, and being a new mother, meant that I felt absolutely no guilt about doing so. Because it prevented me from burdening GPs or Paeds with queries that really should have been directed at the furloughed HVs, and my own mental health teetered on the edge of fucked but I was kept on the ledge by their friendship and help.

I didn’t know these women before. They weren’t existing friends. We formed a support group.

You seem very black and white with your approach to this and while it may be hastily passed and ambiguous ‘law’, I don’t think there is anything black and white about the natural human response to the constraints of this pandemic.

Lovely1a2b3c · 11/03/2021 22:49

Almost.

Every rule except once- we had a pre-booked holiday rental for two households and they announced 2 days before the holiday that only one household could meet in a holiday rental but we went ahead with the holiday.

Aside from that I have been entirely limited to my house except for walks so I've definitely not been responsible for spreading Covid around.

KindnessCrusader · 11/03/2021 22:50

I can honestly say me, my Husband and 4 children have 100% stuck to the rules, yes.

DebbieGetsTheJobDone · 11/03/2021 22:53

So anyone using the "mental health card" should have to disclose how low they are, or how they made an attempt on their life before you will be satisfied that that their rule breaking was justified?

Mate I am not the Covid police.

Everybody (or near everybody) suffered because of the lockdown. So in the name of mental health, we are all absolutely justified to break the rules and do whatever we feel like.

You can't even argue that shutting down sport facilities is not damaging for people's mental health, that expecting people living in crap areas to stay "local" is not damaging their mental health, that not seeing friends and family is not damaging to our mental health, that cancelling kids birthdays, gatherings, school days is not damaging to their mental health...

None of the above are remotely an exaggeration. To protect ourselves, we really all should ignore rules and guidelines. 🤷

frasersmummy · 11/03/2021 22:56

@AgeLikeWine.. 110%??🙄
It's really not a competition to see who can.do lockdown better

Pixxie7 · 11/03/2021 23:07

Yes 100 per cent

MintyCedric · 11/03/2021 23:08

I've had no choice. My dad was diagnosed as being 'end of life' 10 days into the first lockdown and with very limited NHS/social care input and no other local family I've had to virtually shield myself in order to protect and care for my parents.

Thankfully we've all had our first jabs now so looking forward to a more relaxed summer with a bit of luck.

CatChant · 11/03/2021 23:20

Yes.

TheSandman · 11/03/2021 23:25

Yes.