My mother was supposed to cat-sit for me whilst I went away for a weekend. I then found out she invited two friends to come with her and she couldn't care less about my cat, she just wanted to use my place to show off to her mates that she had free accommodation in the Capital. She even said to me she might as well take advantage of the situation. It was the latest in a long line of selfish behaviours. If she had asked first if it was ok I might have let it go but she's tried to freeload off my brother's in-laws too.
She has plenty of money and can afford paid accommodation but she prefers to scavenge off people. She also makes everything about her (for example, her GC's successes are down to her genius) and if she wants to do something, you cannot tell her it's not convenient or there's no time, because she has a huge strop.
I didn't speak to her for six months, then I relented because I was never going to get an apology, ever, and now I keep in touch by WhatsApp. My DD doesn't like her much, because of her unfiltered comments on both my and her weight and shape, and the fact DD cannot spend anytime alone with her because they can only do what Mum wants to do. So we only visit once or twice a year for two nights at most. And I pay for a hotel.
Because of restrictions on travel over the past year and my father's illness, we haven't visited for about 15 months. I thought I had a duty to keep her in our lives because DD has a right to know her only Nana, but I know DD isn't too bothered. She completely knows the score.
My mother has mixed race GC and describes them as Spanish. Yes they are Spanish and white English but they are Black too. I said to her, Mum, they are Black. Absolutely not! she insisted. They are white Spanish! Spanish is acceptable, Black is not. She denied their Black heritage.
So WhatsApp it is, and not on a regular basis. When the travel restrictions are lifted we'll visit for a night and that's our duty done for six months. It's a far better life without her selfish and bigoted ways.