If you are married with children, do you ever fantasize about being single and child free?

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Or is it just me?

Yes it is someone I know but as I said this thread is do I fantasise about living alone and the answer is sometimes yes
My friend and her teen are irrelevant to the topic at hand.

But you brought them up!

I used to say to my DH that I wanted a divorce so I’d have EOW free!

When it’s hard, when they’re upset or sick and I’m worried out of my mind I do think how much easier it would be. But I think that’s an anxiety I have around them and something I’ve realised I need to address.

Then of course the usual - the mess, the bickering, the finances, the monotony especially in lockdown....

DH is DD's stepdad and has been around since she was 4. He's wonderful with her and we're happy but sometimes I do wonder what it would be like if me and him had time to just focus on ourselves without also being parents.

Yes, every day. I posted a similar thread in AIBU a few weeks ago.

Yes, but I used to fantastise about having a child before I had one so it's just a case of grass being greener. If I didn't have them I would want them desperately, but I do very much miss being independent. It's completely normal.

No

But I do fantasise about jumping into an alternative reality for a few days where the kids don't exist so I can have a few days sleep and a good tidy up/organising and then a few more days sleep

No but I do regret not appreciating doing more of the things that I could have done before getting married & having kids like dating & travelling more

No. There might be less stress in some ways but it would get very lonely.

Yes, I think it’s very normal. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you regret motherhood or want a divorce (although this is common and also a valid view, provided your DC never find out).

It’s normal to wonder about the road untravelled.