"What did he say when you told him?" and versions of this -

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SO frigging annoying. People do it all the time on here as if it's clever or something.

An OP will post about something that's upsetting them and some dimwit will say "What did they say when you asked?" or "What did she say when you told her?"

Purely as a way of passively aggressively pointing out that the OP hasn't said anything to the person or hasn't indicated they have.

JUST ASK THEM NICELY!

90% of the stuff that is posted on here can be solved by some very basic communication

Very much this. Is it ok to say 'you need to talk to him/her/them' ? Because that's the only way it'll get sorted.

People seem so annoyed about MN Talk and what people post on here lately. Usually in AIBU too.

But it's also annoying when people tell a story and then don't say how it ended. I ask 'what did he s/he say/do?' on the CF threads, because so many people don't say how it ended!

@mainsfed

But it's also annoying when people tell a story and then don't say how it ended. I ask 'what did he s/he say/do?' on the CF threads, because so many people don't say how it ended!

On a lot of threads we are given literally skeletal facts as an OP, then they disappear for hours leaving everyone speculating and guessing-then come back drip feeding all over the place, or never return at all.

So true @Sparklingbrook

I think you get back what you put in. OPs who responds to questions and acknowledge POVs often see hundreds of responses to their threads, and the quality of responses is often so good.

@mainsfed

So true *@Sparklingbrook*

I think you get back what you put in. OPs who responds to questions and acknowledge POVs often see hundreds of responses to their threads, and the quality of responses is often so good.

Recently there's been a spate of an OP being posted then the OP disappearing for hours. They then come back and make a couple more comments not acknowledging any replies then disappearing again. So weird to not engage with your own thread.

Only a regular poster or someone very good at reading between the lines would notice the undertone in the question.

This says everything about you. The 'undertone' that you are so 'very good at reading' is your imagination. It is a mistake that anyone could make but most of us know that.

Recently there's been a spate of an OP being posted then the OP disappearing for hours. They then come back and make a couple more comments not acknowledging any replies then disappearing again. So weird to not engage with your own thread. confused

I know! I’m so happy when people respond to any threads I post that I try to respond to as many as I can.

@mainsfed

Recently there's been a spate of an OP being posted then the OP disappearing for hours. They then come back and make a couple more comments not acknowledging any replies then disappearing again. So weird to not engage with your own thread. confused

I know! I’m so happy when people respond to any threads I post that I try to respond to as many as I can.

I know, it's stressful when you feel you haven't acknowledged everyone. What's the point of posting if you don't care about the replies? Unless on a massive wind up/PBP obviously.

It's funny when they return after a few hours and get all huffy when everyone thinks they've disappeared. They they are all 'i haven't got time to be on MN all day like you sad lot'

Thought of another more recently common one

Do you lack reading comprehension

Are you always so difficult

90% of the stuff that is posted on here can be solved by some very basic communication

This!

There was a brilliant example of this recently - someone's DH who was wfh from their bed instead of using his custom made office, and it was frustrating the OP. We had suggestions ranging from hoover loudly outside his room, turn off the radiators, get in bed with him and make him feel uncomfortable, withhold sex until he shifts ..... I was at most of these, wondering what happened to basic verbal communication in relationships.

I suggested a direct conversation with him about the issues (as did a few other posters). Lo and behold, by 300+ replies in, OP comes back having done just that, and DH has shifted to his office as a result!