To be annoyed at DH on IWD

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I have just sent my 5 year old DD off to school with what I thought was some lovely words of encouragement for her first day back and especially as it falls on International Women's Day and DH pipes up When's International Men's Day??

It really annoys me and he does things like this all the time.

I am due on this week so probably hormonal and fully prepared to be told I am being unreasonable and it was just a joke but Arggggggghh

Tell him to google it

Tell him it’s on the 19th November
Also he’s an idiot

So are you annoyed that he has to make it all about him or he doesn't recognise the singular importance of IWD?

Tell him “Friday 19th November”. That’ll nullify his moaning.

This reminds me of when I was a child and on Mother's Day I said to my mum
"Why isn't there a Children's Day?!" And she said "Because it's children's day every day!"

Tell him ‘the other 364 days of the year, by the looks of things’

It's the 19th of November, but honestly, every god damn day since the fragile beginnings of society has been Men's Day. "This is a man's world" etc, and every year we hear snivelling pricks bemoaning the fact that there is one day set aside to honour women, regardless of their parental status. Fuck off, those men. You can helicopter your knobs every other day of the year. This one isn't for you.

Wow. I was expecting to be told it was me.
I can't put into words what it is about it that annoys me but you are all right. It's the fact he can't accept women have it way harder than men ever will.
He has very different opinions to me when it comes to feminism.
It sometimes annoys me how I married someone with such differing views of the world in general.
I told him to Google it if he really wanted to know.

"19 November, shows how much you actually care about it since you don't even know."

The only acceptable response is ‘international men’s day is 19 November but it’s international idiot’s day every day with you’

Direct him to Richard Herring on Twitter...

@Carolina24

The only acceptable response is ‘international men’s day is 19 November but it’s international idiot’s day every day with you’

What a dick. Personally, I couldn’t be with a man who didn’t share my feminist perspective .

@PeskyRooks I literally remember my mum saying this exact same thing 🤣🤣

@carolina24 I wish id said that

@IsThePopeCatholic I didn't realise we were so different when I was younger.

He just bought me Mcdonalds breakfast. Sort of forgiven.

@bluebluezoo

Direct him to Richard Herring on Twitter...

Beat me to it. Looking forward to some Herring replies fighting their way through all the Harry & Meghan nonsense (from all sides) that is currently cluttering up my feed.

My DH is coming around to the idea of the world revolving around men as my DD11 is pointing all the injustices out to him at every available opportunity. Shes becoming quite a little feminist! His response is fascinating!!

19th November, but they don’t like it as it concentrates on real issues, such as men’s mental health, rather then “how do men, and especially white men, keep their advantage over everyone else”.

That’s what WIIMD men are really asking - a day when they can reassert their dominance, rather than for focussing on the areas where men do miss - such as the above or SPL or similar.

Tell him it’s the 19th November, and you can’t wait to see what special things he’s planning in celebration. That’s bound to shut his trap.

@FuckingFabulous

It's the 19th of November, but honestly, every god damn day since the fragile beginnings of society has been Men's Day. "This is a man's world" etc, and every year we hear snivelling pricks bemoaning the fact that there is one day set aside to honour women, regardless of their parental status. Fuck off, those men. You can helicopter your knobs every other day of the year. This one isn't for you.

Fucking YES!!

(And lol to the “helicoptering their knobs” part )

I remember seeing a post once, it was quotes from men complaining about women having privilege for getting their own spaces. E.g gyms etc.
Black people having their own charities specifically for helping black people.
Complaining white men don't have these privileges and groups, specifically aimed for men or white people, and someone said
It's the same reason you don't get lightning bolts and red shells on Mario kart when you're already in first place.
Some men seem to forgot that they automatically get a head start just for being born with a penis. Especially if they're white.

@MyLittleOrangutan

"19 November, shows how much you actually care about it since you don't even know."

Exactly this!

If you care so little about it that you don't even know when the day is then your can't complain at others who celebrate something else.

What a knob!

I had a similar realisation this morning when my DH posted a picture of me and our DD on his FB and said: Happy International Women's Day. Thank you for always keeping us boys in check!

I don't know why that completely rubbed me up the wrong way, but perhaps it's because he has cleaned the house 3 times in the last 12 months, or that he does zero of the cooking or washing up and he leaves fucking empty tea cups all over the house and crumbs all over the kitchen counter, among other things. These things have really become very obvious now that we are all at home all the time.

We are not on this planet to keep DH and DS in check!

Anyway, I made him take it down and told him that until the day he respects women 365 days of the year, he shouldn't be publicly trying to look like he thinks women are equal to men. He doesn't.

Perhaps a little harsh, but I have had enough of people being performance dads, performance husbands and performance feminists.

Richard Herring’s retired from doing IWD now, but you could direct the idiot to Richard’s excellent book instead, The Problem with Men.

Gah it's also the fact he had to make it about himself?! Only douchebags do that - you see it on all the reddit threads about eg women telling their stories of s*exual harrassment and men piping up "but it's happened to me too". IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU - F OFF