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Original poster

I walked out on my job tonight!

237 replies

MegaMoon · 06/03/2021 20:18

Literally that. I can't believe it really. Half way through my shift I literally walked out. Phoned my supervisor to explain why. I was so angry at my colleagues I just couldn't stay so I walked out. Phoned my supervisor driving home and explained everything. She said she'd speak to my colleagues and call me on Monday. But as far as I'm concerned now, especially after tonight, I can't go back. I can't work with them anymore. Especially after bloody walking out and complaining to our supervisor about them. If I go back, it'll just be ten times worse. I can't. But I need a job. Can't get my head around it.

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Sailawaysailaway · 06/03/2021 22:15

Honestly - I do think you’ve been a bit hasty. Assuming you’re not their supervisor - why has it got to you if they’re faffing around - it’s not on you to solve it.

Also assuming it’s a cleaning company you probably could have raised it and got out on a different team/another job or something.

You’ve mentioned an age gap - are they much younger than you? Is it a case that you feel responsible for the team?

XingMing · 06/03/2021 22:16

For the slow thinking who have been critical above this line, yes, we do pay 13 months salary in a year in the UK. So everyone who is suggesting that they wouldn't want to work for me...

Viviennemary · 06/03/2021 22:17

I think you should go back. They're not your friends. You don't have to like them. Tell the supervisor you will be working hard until it's time to go home. Then you will stop work and go.Any possibility of a different shift away from them. Or different department., They do sound horrible. Nobody should be bullied out of their job.

deb0520 · 06/03/2021 22:18

Isn't it great to find your voice op? Okay the ending wasn't ideal but I'm sure you'll find a new job soon. Good luck

ThePearSquare · 06/03/2021 22:19

I get it, I started a new job at the start of the year and they’ve had a mass exodus since they changed site location.
99% of the staff are brand new, and they were obviously quite desperate with some of them as they are ridiculously lazy.
I almost snapped the other day and went in to rant at them to do some work, but I managed to rein it in. It’s not my job to police them.
I will be talking to my supervisor though (who is never around when this happens - shocker) and I think you should have a good talk with yours (if they don’t terminate your contract) and tell them that you can’t work like this.

TechnoDino · 06/03/2021 22:21

I had a colleague who upped and left in the middle of a working day in response to being treated with contempt. It was 18 years ago and I still think of her with awe and respect.
Good luck with your job search, have you considered going freelance?

Number3BigCupOfTea · 06/03/2021 22:25

I am still saluting you!. I had a job I hated and for all the usual sensible reasons, I went in every day, ignored my misery, was given the silent treatment by a woman in her sixties (wouldn't you think by sixty something she'd have got some wisdom but no, she thought, I know, I'll be a great big bitch to this new woman for no reason at all!) and then............ they sacked me!. I'd had the smile staple gunned on to my face every day for five months when I wanted to cry and I used to feel sick at the thoughts of going in to the place they were all so odd, but I kept doing it to be sensible and then they fired me

So listen to your gut.

I so regret not walking out of the place.

BoomBoomsCousin · 06/03/2021 22:27

I understand the frustration with colleagues who don't pull their weight, but I agree with the posters that say this really wasn't the way to handle it.

Obviously, it's not a good working environment but, if you can't afford to be unemployed, I think you can go back (assuming your employer doesn't fire you, which it sounds like they won't) and do more of a work to rule while you find another job. You probably could do with learning to be a little less shy and retiring in the day-to-day so it doesn't all boil over. Be calm but assertive about what you are prepared to do - especially around the leaving on time - and pretty much ignore them for the rest of it.

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MegaMoon · 06/03/2021 22:31

@Sailawaysailaway

Honestly - I do think you’ve been a bit hasty. Assuming you’re not their supervisor - why has it got to you if they’re faffing around - it’s not on you to solve it.

Also assuming it’s a cleaning company you probably could have raised it and got out on a different team/another job or something.

You’ve mentioned an age gap - are they much younger than you? Is it a case that you feel responsible for the team?

They're both quite a bit older than me. When they faff around and take the piss it affects me and makes me late leaving because we are supposed to be working together.
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Jellykat · 06/03/2021 22:36

Well i say fair play! You were obviously pushed as far as you could go, and found your legs... Its shit 'working as a team' when others repeatedly take the piss.
Is it just you three, or are there other teams employed?

EmbarrassingMama · 06/03/2021 22:37

Good for you OP. Life is too short.

You sound like a great cleaner and a decent human, and I’m sure you will find another - better - job in no time.

Sorry you’ve had a shit day.

Thelnebriati · 06/03/2021 22:37

Its not OK if you are being bullied at work, which leads to you working late regularly and picking up the slack - I think you should talk to ACAS.

QueenOfPain · 06/03/2021 22:37

XingMing continues ranting to herself.

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MegaMoon · 06/03/2021 22:42

@Jellykat

Well i say fair play! You were obviously pushed as far as you could go, and found your legs... Its shit 'working as a team' when others repeatedly take the piss. Is it just you three, or are there other teams employed?
Thanks! There are other teams employed but at different sites quite a distance from us.
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Lollyneenah · 06/03/2021 22:43

Good for you. Sounds like you're blossoming albeit in a bit of a haphazard way. Laugh,cry, do what youve got to do tomorrow and get back on it Monday. Hopefully it'll be the best thing you ever did

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MegaMoon · 06/03/2021 22:45

@Viviennemary

I think you should go back. They're not your friends. You don't have to like them. Tell the supervisor you will be working hard until it's time to go home. Then you will stop work and go.Any possibility of a different shift away from them. Or different department., They do sound horrible. Nobody should be bullied out of their job.
I wouldn't mind going back but honestly, if I haven't been sacked then I don't honestly think I could face my colleagues again, it was hard enough putting up with their crap but I imagine it'll be ten times worse now I've walked out and complained about them! There's two of them and one of me. I can likely see them teaming up, denying everything, blaming me, and if by some miracle I keep my job, it'll just be an even worse environment to go back to.
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XingMing · 06/03/2021 22:45

I can't state here that I am not mean. You may already have decided that I am Mrs Jacob Rees Mogg, who you will hate automatically. I can only tell you, and I am not going to lay down the financial statements that would prove my case publicly, and not because they'd be news to HMRC (they wouldn't) but yes, I agree that the OP has been badly treated.

The only point I would make about working for us (DH, me and the company we run) is that no-one has ever voluntarily left employment with us except to retire or of their free will, or for promotion/another job. In 30 years.

HeyDemonsItsYaGirl · 06/03/2021 22:47

Aw, that's a shame, I was hoping you'd be my next employer!

I like you, OP. You don't suffer fools in your professional or personal life Grin

Jellykat · 06/03/2021 22:47

I've walked out of a job OP for the same reason. It damages your self esteem after a while.. Best thing i ever did!
Any chance you could be part of one of the other teams as a solution?

Sailawaysailaway · 06/03/2021 22:49

@XingMing lay off the wine love

billy1966 · 06/03/2021 22:50

@HoleInBucket

I am coming so so so close to doing the same in my job. I don't want to go into too much details and I don't want to give out too much information. I am sick too my back teeth of my employers moods and her giving out to me for her failings.

I work as a nanny. The mother came home on Friday evening and within 5 minutes started ranting and raving at me. One of her children has autism and like to do something called stimming which is repetitive behaviour. There is a whole entire system in place within the household to protect rooms and belongings. Basically when a room is jot in use, the door must be closed and locked. That was exactly what happened. All day with me. I am always following the system. Anyways the mother found something that belongs in the living room in the kitchen and she blew up at me. It never happen on my watch. The room was locked all day when I was there and the autistic child was home with me.

Other members of the family are not able to follow the system or they do it but the keep forgetting. It is me going around their house finding doors wide open after use by them. I'm so so so sick of all the blame. It wasn't the first time either. The woman does nothing more but use me and then give out to me when I do my best. I'm so so so sick of it.

That sounds absolutely dreadful.

If you can move do.

OP,
Best of luck.Flowers

LynetteScavo · 06/03/2021 22:54

You flounced because you're coworkers were being dicks.

Your supervisor needs to supervise them properly. When she speaks to you on Monday she'll probably ask you to go back. Whether you want to is another question.

buckeejit · 06/03/2021 22:59

Can your manager view cctv? It might be worth suggesting?

Dinosaurus86 · 06/03/2021 23:01

I think you probably did the right thing. I am perceived I suppose as quiet and introverted too, but once walked out of a job and refused to go back. The boss (rarely in the office) was an awful character. Everyone walked on eggshells around him. One day, he lost his temper at me, blaming me for failures in the business (I was a lowly data entry clerk); started throwing things across the room. Brought me to tears, I’m afraid to say. But proud of myself that I said, well that’s it then, I quit.

The two managers below him called me later and asked me to come back; said I was the only one in my role actually working properly. But I refused - life is too short to work in such a toxic environment. In fact, one of them handed in their notice that day. But I was lucky at the time - it was a part time job while I was studying and I could manage without it. It would have been harder if that wasn’t the case, but ultimately I think the right decision - as it seems in your case.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 06/03/2021 23:03

Fuck it. You can get a new job. That must have felt exhilarating, the amount of jobs I've felt like just downing tools and storming out!

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