To be bloody sick of zoom quizzes

takemebackto2003 · 2021-03-06T17:21:30+00:00

DP's family do a quiz every single bloody Saturday night. It always falls right on tea/DC's bath time too. I don't might every so often but every week is a chore, I feel like for those 2 hours I either have to sit so I'm in the frame looking interested when I'm really not or just not join and know they think I'm rude. But seriously.. I'm not interested. We've seen more of them than when life was normal! I've been making myself scarce recently and making sure I'm bathing the kids or doing some 'important' jobs while it's on. AIBU?

sneakysnoopysniper · 06/03/2021 17:47

Why does it need to be every sunday? Suggest cutting it down to once a month then it will be something to look forward to. Make sure DH backs you up on this. Then carry on bathing the DC and excusing yourself. They will get the picture.

ElderMillennial · 06/03/2021 17:56

Just don't do it. DP can attend on his own and you go when you feel like it. Or suggest something different? I don't think it's a big deal. I don't love a quiz but it's a way for families to to stay in touch.

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 17:57

@sneakysnoopysniper

Why does it need to be every sunday? Suggest cutting it down to once a month then it will be something to look forward to. Make sure DH backs you up on this. Then carry on bathing the DC and excusing yourself. They will get the picture.

Exactly, I wonder the same thing! I've said to him every single Saturday is too much, it's suffocating! Feel like Saturday nights aren't our own any more. He won't back me up all he says is "you never show any interest for my family"

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 17:58

@ElderMillennial

Just don't do it. DP can attend on his own and you go when you feel like it. Or suggest something different? I don't think it's a big deal. I don't love a quiz but it's a way for families to to stay in touch.

DP has said "it doesn't go unnoticed" that I don't join in, which I think comes from his mother. I think she likes to use it as a way to keep an eye on us! Once a month is fine but every single Saturday urrrgh xx

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TheBoredLady · 06/03/2021 18:07

Learn to say no. Honestly, it will change your life.

Just join for the first few minutes to say hello, how are you niceties. Then say ‘enjoy your quiz I’m off to watch a film on Netflix/have a bath’ whatever.

Then go. What’s the worst that can happen? If anyone questions it use the broken record technique ‘I don’t want to, I don’t enjoy quizzes’. Repeat until the message gets through.

zzzebra · 06/03/2021 18:08

I've also got this issue but at least it's every other Saturday.

We only get 2 evenings a week at home together so I begrudge using one of them for a family quiz. Also at a really awkward time so we have to plan our evening around it including putting our daughter down to bed early. Which either causes a lovely early Sunday wake or me running up and down stairs 101 times at the start of the quiz trying to settle her.

To make matters worse it's a DIY quiz rather than one brought or downloaded online. So it's 50 questions very tailored to my MILs interests of; gardening, birds, the bible, and cliff richard. We always come last.

I missed 2 and also had a comment about it not going unnoticed.

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 18:23

@zzzebra

I've also got this issue but at least it's every other Saturday.

We only get 2 evenings a week at home together so I begrudge using one of them for a family quiz. Also at a really awkward time so we have to plan our evening around it including putting our daughter down to bed early. Which either causes a lovely early Sunday wake or me running up and down stairs 101 times at the start of the quiz trying to settle her.

To make matters worse it's a DIY quiz rather than one brought or downloaded online. So it's 50 questions very tailored to my MILs interests of; gardening, birds, the bible, and cliff richard. We always come last.

I missed 2 and also had a comment about it not going unnoticed.

Yes!! Exactly this! I'm glad it's not just me who feels this pain. These are also home made quizzes so they're also always about his families interests which tend to heavily include elvis or sports, neither of which interests me! I tried to get involved and did a quiz of 2020 with all current questions and I just got complaints that no one knew the answers. Same here we either have to rush tea; or even worse our food arrives while it's happening so I have to eat my Chinese on the screen like a monkey in the zoo, DS needs bath and bed and we have a puppy so DP sits happily chatting to his family while there's the clean up from tea, a puppy who needs a walk and a 4 year old who needs a bath or putting to bed which of course falls on me! He just won't see why I think doing it every single fucking weekend is such a drain! x

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peak2021 · 06/03/2021 18:25

Two hours a week! I appreciate you may want to avoid Casualty and have no interest in the drink driver and his mate on ITV (Ant and Dec), but this is going a bit far to avoiding it.

Lochmorlich · 06/03/2021 18:27

Suggest you do a zoom chat
with your family every Friday or Sunday.
He'll soon see your point.

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 18:31

@Lochmorlich

Suggest you do a zoom chat with your family every Friday or Sunday. He'll soon see your point.

I would but my family starts and ends with my mum, dad and sister - my sister has 3 kids so she (like me) doesn't have time for zoom chats! He has a huge family where I have no extended family at all.

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Fembot123 · 06/03/2021 18:33

I haven’t done any but I’m still sick of them 😂 Also why do people have to put screenshots of their family/friends Zoom get togethers on Facebook, so boring! I guess it’s the new night’out’ selfie.

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 18:33

@TheBoredLady

Learn to say no. Honestly, it will change your life.

Just join for the first few minutes to say hello, how are you niceties. Then say ‘enjoy your quiz I’m off to watch a film on Netflix/have a bath’ whatever.

Then go. What’s the worst that can happen? If anyone questions it use the broken record technique ‘I don’t want to, I don’t enjoy quizzes’. Repeat until the message gets through.

That's true! I need more of a backbone. They're a very full on family and I'm quite shy/introverted so it doesn't mix well at all! x

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 18:35

@peak2021

Two hours a week! I appreciate you may want to avoid Casualty and have no interest in the drink driver and his mate on ITV (Ant and Dec), but this is going a bit far to avoiding it.

It's because they always start it around the hours or 6-8pm and I'd just rather be chilling with a takeaway and getting little one ready for bed in our own time without an audience x

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grassisjeweled · 06/03/2021 18:36

I wouldn't even entertain this nonsense. Utter waste of time. What do you think it is, 2020? we've moved on from that!

UrAWizHarry · 06/03/2021 18:37

Just don't do it.

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 18:38

@grassisjeweled

I wouldn't even entertain this nonsense. Utter waste of time. What do you think it is, 2020?

we've moved on from that!

Exactly the novelty of it during the first lockdown ok I understand, but even in the height of the first lockdown when I still had a slight ounce of patience for it they didn't do it as often as they do now! The introvert in me despises it! Leave me alone to have my Saturday night in peace! x

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 18:39

@UrAWizHarry

Just don't do it.

I've stopped doing it of late but I just get shitty comments from his mum about me not getting involved.. fuck off 😂

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toolatetofixate · 06/03/2021 18:39

I've never done one. Just say no if you don't fancy it. Or do one a month if you sometimes enjoy it.

CheshireDing · 06/03/2021 18:40

But why do you give a damn what they think OP? You’re busy/don’t want to do it so your choice. Just say ‘no thanks, not for me’

There’s no way I would agree to this every week, once a month at a push.

DH was FaceTiming his parents last night, I sat at the other end or the room studying - my choice I don’t want me fat face on screen , I did a quick hello and that was it.

I won’t even FaceTime DH because though - you need to lay your cards on the table from the beginning OP !

zzzebra · 06/03/2021 18:40

@takemebackto2003

I could have written the same thing. I brought a 2020 quiz to do. The complaints I got from MILs household about how it was impossible and not fun, despite everyone else scoring higher than usual.

I think the average score we get each week is around 10-15 out of 50. I'd say 50% of those are lucky guesses.

It'd be a lot easier to tolerate a proper downloaded pub quiz that lasted for an hour. But part of the fun for MIL is spending the weekend creating the quiz. I should add she doesn't live alone, so it's not a loneliness thing.

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takemebackto2003 · 06/03/2021 18:41

I thinks it partly because it brings home that I don't have any extended family so I can't even leave get my own back by making him do mine with my family. My parents aren't into that sort of thing, my sister is a single mum so doesn't have time and I lost my only cousin last year x

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CeibaTree · 06/03/2021 18:42

Why don't you tell him after lockdown you'll all be spending at least 2 hours every Saturday with your mum and sister - it'll only be fair as you need to spend as much time with your family as you have with his.

AlwaysLatte · 06/03/2021 18:42

It sounds perfect if you hate Zoom quizzes and they happen to occur during children's bedtime. Perfect excuse! Then you can dip in and out when you like.

TheChosenTwo · 06/03/2021 18:42

They’ve fizzled out for us to be once every 3/4 weeks - I love all the people we do them with but dh and I have been out working every day during the pandemic begun! Although I’m missing contact with my family, I don’t feel like I need these for social interaction, I’m bloody knackered by the time Friday rolls around and just want an early night
However, i bloody love my whole il family and the other groups we zoom with, we frequently just zoom for a chat now which is better than a quiz. We also seem to eat much later than everyone else we know, it’s just our preference, but mostly we start the chats at 7:30/8ish after they’ve eaten and we would usually have dinner at 8:30 sometimes 9...
anyway, I think pretty soon they’ll be all but a distant memory for most so probably not many more left.
Just say hello and say you’re going for a bath or whatever if you’re not interested, I wouldn’t care about comments if I were you!

Notaroadrunner · 06/03/2021 18:47

I wouldn't feel a bit bad about telling Dh to take the laptop to another room (or the shed would be better :-) ) and then you sit and have your take away or watch tv in peace for the 2 hours. As for his mother making comments, let her. What does it matter to you? There's no rule to say you have to engage with his family to this extent. It's ott, and would seriously do my head in.