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Photos on graves

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Clappingforjoy · 04/03/2021 20:46

Posting here for traffic but currently in discussion with my siblings as to whether to have our parents photo on thier gravestone. Its me that really wants this but my siblings dont like this and think it's not private whereas I feel it gives a bit of soul to the graveside. What you think yes or no to photos on graves.

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Cattenberg · 04/03/2021 21:20

I like photos on gravestones. I don’t think they look tacky at all.

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Clappingforjoy · 04/03/2021 21:21

Based on the price we have to pay and the thought of the photo fading I think I've come to a decision to have an engraving instead.

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DinosaurDiana · 04/03/2021 21:22

No.

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Clappingforjoy · 04/03/2021 21:24

Thank you for the kind thoughts my dad passed 3 years ago and my mom just November last year after suffering from lewy body dementia her last 12 months where awful really tragic. I'm so sad to see the house where I grew up sold and standing empty.

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WineInTheWillows · 04/03/2021 21:24

Sorry for your losses @ParkheadParadise and @MinnieJackson. Flowers

Cattenberg · 04/03/2021 21:24

Engravings can look lovely. I’ve seen ones that really give a sense of the person and their interests.

Cattenberg · 04/03/2021 21:25

I’m sorry you’ve had such an awful time, OP.

halllftheworllldawway · 04/03/2021 21:28

My gran's head stone has her photo on. It's beautiful and so comforting to see her huge smile when I go there.
It's been there for 4 years and is still clear and good as new!

AnnieSnap · 04/03/2021 21:29

I think it’s nice. If I’m walking in a cemetery and there is a grave stone with a photo on. I will read it and seeing the photo gives me a sense of the person.

Blyatiful · 04/03/2021 21:30

Very normal where I live (Eastern Europe).

Acesulfame · 04/03/2021 21:31

It’s not something I’d do or want for myself but everyone is different. Each to their own.

peak2021 · 04/03/2021 21:31

Sorry to read of your loss and I hope you have many happy memories of your parents. I think you have made the decision I would make in your situation.

Tigger001 · 04/03/2021 21:32

I think they are nice and makes it more personal. There is no right or wrong, when I'm chatting away I wish we had a little photo on it, and also for our little son to remember her whilst up there.

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Clappingforjoy · 04/03/2021 21:33

I really like seeing the photos as well

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kneecapper · 04/03/2021 21:34

Sorry for your losses Flowers

WaterGarden · 04/03/2021 21:40

I'm thinking of getting a sign with dh's photo on for his grave. You stick it in the ground.

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Clappingforjoy · 04/03/2021 21:42

That's a good idea water

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ParkheadParadise · 04/03/2021 21:55

@Clappingforjoy
@WaterGarden
I've got those memorials you put in the ground. I think they were about £10 on Amazon. At that price, they are easy to replace when they are old or get broken. You upload a photo.

Janegrey333 · 04/03/2021 21:57

No.

JudgeRindersMinder · 04/03/2021 21:58

My dad chose a lovely photo of him and my mum for their headstone. He obviously knew he’d be in there with her eventually.
If done properly it shouldn’t fade-ours hasn’t in over 11 years.
I like it

Figgygal · 04/03/2021 22:00

No sorry I don’t like them

MrsClatterbuck · 04/03/2021 22:01

The 1st time I saw photos on a headstone was in a graveyard in Malta. Not my cup of tea but it was obviously something they did. Have never seen it in the UK but obviously I haven't been to every graveyard in the country. It may not be allowed but would be interesting if you could see photos on old graves. Some might find it distressing when visiting.

Toddlerteaplease · 04/03/2021 22:08

They look awful when they've faded.

Erkrie · 04/03/2021 22:10

I think it's quite lovely but appreciate it's not for everyone.

Lynora · 04/03/2021 22:23

@maddy68

I think it's a bit tacky and they don't age well over time
You think how some people choose to remember their loved ones is tacky?