To think this makes us totally incompatible?

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In a new relationship since mid December. In lockdown, it's been hard but we're doing ok.

When we met he had been broke up from his ex (was a short relationship) for just a month. We really got on so I put him being single for just a month to the back of my mind and thought it's fine as he said she was blocked and they didn't communicate anymore.

The other day he and I were talking and he mentioned that one day he might unblock her but not message her just to see if she messages him. I was really pissed off and asked why he would even want to do that. He turned it round and said he would never do it while he and I were together but it's still on my mind. I've been hurt in the past and so maybe this is making me overreact but I'm still thinking about it.

🙄 Just move on. This won't end well.

Sod that!! Hes literally telling you Who He Is.

Next he'll be saying, 'Im just gonna have a coffee with her - thats OK isn't it'
You'll say yes and you have just given him permission to have 2 of you on a bit of string

Well done for asking.
No . It’s not ok .

Aw, how attractive, a mind game player, said no one ever. I'd be moving on asap. 'Not really impressed with game players, I'm a bit too old for snakes and ladders so it's time for us both to move on. Bye!' and then delete and block.

Checking to see if she's messaged for an ego boost. If you're still healing from past hurt, you'll be taking a backwards step with this one. Throw him back.

One day I might do this but not whilst were together.

So he's already thinking about what to do when you've broken up?

You're just a plaything until he gets his ex back or moves on to someone else.

... he’s literally already thinking about ending it with you so he can see her again?

Just seen your other thread too, just finish it he’s not that into you

I don’t know that incompatible is the word I would use. He just isn’t into you seems more like it, he has told you that you and him is going nowhere. Fortunately you haven’t wasted too much time on it.

Sorry, he is a joker. Move on.

Had a look at your other thread now . The red bunting is out .
Tell him FOTTFSOF!
Block him .

I’m off now .
Read another one . OMG .

Don’t bother.

You have made so many posts about this loser already.

Just get rid!

In the nicest possible way, how many more threads are you going to start on AIBU or Relationships about this man's behaviour before you actually take people's advice & leave? He's manipulative & emotionally abusive.

Please don't put up with this.

Plenty more people to date.

Its been what 2-3 months? Trust your gut instinct.

I should hope you do feel incompatible with a mind game player.

He has admitted hes going to play mind games with her.

The whole thing is a mind game on you.

Run.

He has no respect for you at all.

Dig deep and find enough respect for yourself to get rid of him before he undermines your confidence even further.

Jesus OP. How many posts have you made about this absolute charmer??

He blames your weight for his erection problems.

He lets you down.

He doesn't prioritise you.

He makes you feel like shit.

Turn your back and start walking - very fast and very far.

This latest post (🙄) sounds like he's basically saying he wants contact with his ex so don't be surprised if he starts concocting reasons to see her again, etc, etc.....And then he'll be sleeping with her and he'll say "I did ask if you were ok with me seeing where the land lies."

Tell him to fuck off, he's treating you like shit.

Thank you for all your replies. I know what I have to do

He's not over her. You are filler.

He is a total shitbag for saying what he did but it's better that he told you so you know what the score is

He’s a dick for the silly games and even more of a dick for telling his new gf this. Knowing what I do now about men who are dicks in general I’d cut my losses if I was you.

Yeah you’re a rebound he isn’t over her. He’s a dick for doing that to you.

Get rid now.