Is it just my DH that does this?

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These are only a few examples I have loads of scenarios; does anybody else's OH act in this manner?

When DH asks what chores, I have scheduled for the weekend, I tell him upstairs needs hoovering and a deep clean in the bathroom. So, after breakfast, I get the hoover and go upstairs to vacuum, he comes upstairs and says, "Yeah, I was going to do that for you," then watches/Micro Manages me for 10 minutes before returning to his TV, he did the same when he realised, I was cleaning the bathroom.

Or this one

Last weekend was a beautiful day, so I told DH I thought the Lawn needs cutting he said he'd do it in a couple of weeks. In my head, in a couple of weeks it'll be too long to cut, So I go get the lawn mower and start it myself, and he just smiles and sits there watching TV while I mow the entire lawn, which is very large.

My point is that he always says "he was going to do it" or "he'll do it later," and then sits and watches or, worse, supervises while I do the jobs.

He makes a great Supervisor but lousy worker LOL :(

Oh and in answer to your question, "Is it just my DH that does this?"

Mine doesn't do it. He pitches in and does his share and has done for over 30 years.

It might be easier to divide the work up, ie you do laundry and he does the cleaning rather than managing each other. It must be annoying him watch you hoover, but you deciding what chores need doing is nt much bettering

There are lots of "I will do it later" people/partners, all over the place, and then be critical when you do something your self. Best to do jobs yourself, and ignore the idle and stupid comment makers.

If he can stand there watching and supervising, then he’s got time to do it himself. Stop letting him get away with this nonsense.

I have one of these. Also seems to think he's management and gives helpful feedback.

"says, "Yeah, I was going to do that for you," then watches/Micro Manages me for 10 minutes before returning to his TV,"

So stop hoovering at that point, say "Great! You do this then while I tackle xyz!"

Every time he says 'I was going to' you hand the task over IMMEDIATELY.

Mine is not quite this bad but needs instructed which is another job in itself for me.

When he does something on his own initiative, he must proclaim it's been done, obviously seeking a pat on the head lol but most infuriating of all is when he says oh I done x for you.

It's not FOR me it's just a job that needs doing

@Ellie56 we agreed when we got married that whoever cooked the other would do the dishes, this worked sort off for me as he is a fussy eater anyway, :)

Thank you all so very much for your comments I have tested my new set of balls out this morning and asked him when he next goes upstairs to take the Ironing up with him, FCUK me he did and he put it all away, LOL I know this is short lived but some help is better than none lol :)

It's not 'help'.

He's living his life, not servicing just yours if he puts clothes away.

In 28 years my DH has never once asked me what chores I have planned.

He'd get a very loud "Fuck off" if he ever dared.