To be appalled that someone i would call a neighbour..

[loopyapp]

.. Has reported my immediate neighbour to the police .. For a small gathering following her mother's funeral??

She died very suddenly. I wont give details as it is very outing for the family.

I just cannot fathom how utterly self righteous you have to be to do that to someone on the day of her mother's funeral.

Add to which she has to live here now not knowing which of her neighbours did something so cruel.

YANBU. What a horrible thing to do.

Do you actually KNOW who reported your neighbour or are you assuming it is one of your neighbours? It could be a family member unhappy about the gathering taking place?

Well you're right, Covid doesn't affect 'small gatherings' after funerals does it? Grieving people are totally immune

You're allowed a gathering of 6 people after a funeral. Whoever reported your neighbour is a twat.

YANBU. This fucking policing of each other is ridiculous.

Not excusing any illegal gatherings, but are you sure they knew it was about a funeral?

@rawalpindithelabrador

YANBU. This fucking policing of each other is ridiculous.

Yes. I really, really hate it. I was reported for seeing my parents. Who are my support bubble due to the fact that I have a child under one. Absolutely hateful.

@PetalPath

Not excusing any illegal gatherings, but are you sure they knew it was about a funeral?

I imagine a small group of sombre people wearing black or the like may have given a hint about the occasion.

Yes. I really, really hate it. I was reported for seeing my parents. Who are my support bubble due to the fact that I have a child under one. Absolutely hateful.

God, how fucking awful.

It’s quite possible it was a family member who was uncomfortable about the numbers and felt pressured into attending.

Not all funerals are black, solemn affairs. Maybe they didn’t know, maybe they take the law/locket very seriously, or maybe they’ve just had their own loved one die and are upset others aren’t taking covid seriously.

@TheCatWithTheFluffyTail

It’s quite possible it was a family member who was uncomfortable about the numbers and felt pressured into attending.

Not all funerals are black, solemn affairs. Maybe they didn’t know, maybe they take the law/locket very seriously, or maybe they’ve just had their own loved one die and are upset others aren’t taking covid seriously.

You'd have to be an ice hearted arsehole to report your own family in these circumstances.

There's so many things I could pick at in your post but I won't.

Get a grip.

Its just a few of the closest members of the family having some drinks after the funeral.

Everyone in the area knows what today was. The death was very sudden and very public. Our whole town was all out for her procession this afternoon.

It might have been family but I just cant imagine it. They're all very close.

Our street has a large divide made larger by covid.. To be clearer.. The sort that let a grieving family be and the sort that call the police.

Not saying I agree but where does it stop. The government has made it against the law, where do we start turning a blind eye? Ignore a burglary, a fraud an assault? The covid rules have affected my business far more than a burglary, fraud or assault would ever do. Just because something sad has happened it doesn't make them immune. (And this is coming from someone who had to watch my mums funeral on zoom)

Agree with others you can't assume it is a neighbour. It could be a family member, a friend of the family who cannot be invited, even someone local who maybe saw her buying some food for the people coming. Also can't assume why they did this, they may have their own issues
@OnlyFoolsnMothers - snitches get stiches? Advocating violence against someone you don't know without knowing the full situation? I hope you don't bring children up to think that's ok

On the face of it, sounds unpleasant.

How many, though? Believe 6 are permitted atm?

1. You can’t assume it’s a neighbour

2, harsh as this may seem hundreds of thousands have lots loved ones, but followed the rules with wakes etc, why should they be any different?

Lost not lots

@DenisetheMenace

On the face of it, sounds unpleasant.

How many, though? Believe 6 are permitted atm?

Not sure but certainly didn't sound like a large gathering.

I'm torn. I wouldn't report this as I'm not completely heartless, but what if the person doing the reporting had also lost a family member, but due to covid and people they know not following the rules? I mean that's just one scenario, however the reality is that mourning a death with more people than allowed, inside, could potentially cause others to die, and the cycle continues. It is very hard to know what to do.

@QueenOfTheDoubleWide

Agree with others you can't assume it is a neighbour. It could be a family member, a friend of the family who cannot be invited, even someone local who maybe saw her buying some food for the people coming. Also can't assume why they did this, they may have their own issues *@OnlyFoolsnMothers* - snitches get stiches? Advocating violence against someone you don't know without knowing the full situation? I hope you don't bring children up to think that's ok

Yes I raise them to punch from the age of 2!

I’d say there is more than one person pointing the finger of blame and judgement in this scenario.

LemonT you're right and I am sorry for that.

I had a flash pan moment of rage and diagust and knee jerked into a reaction.

I'll report my own post.

People need to mind their own business. Someone (we have no idea who) reported us for entering my mum's house - we're in a support bubble with her both because she lives alone AND because we have a child under 1. And yet we had to deal with questioning from the police, who were duty bound to follow up but clearly also thought it was a waste of their time. Apparently we now live in Nazi Germany, people dobbing their neighbours in 🙄 Unless someone on your street is having a house party, mind your own business and get a life 😬