To ask about your petty neighbour experiences

[Dotty1219]

Kind of lighthearted because its so ridiculous, but also not because the cheek has actually annoyed me 😂

Backstory: DP and I live on a row of 5 houses, with a shared yard (but everyone has their own parking spaces). The house we live in used to belong to my grandparents. On the end there's another couple (I'm guessing around 60 and 80 years old) who are not very nice people. Constantly trying to control what other neighbours do, where they can park, harassing them, reporting them for silly things like kids playing in the yard, they've had issues with every single neighbour. I'm sure you know the sort. Weve never had any issues with them really as we've kept our heads down, until now when we committed the ultimate sin of using the outdoor tap to wash the dogs muddy feet. 😂
This tap is communal, we all pay a share of the water, it doesn't belong to anybody. Weve used it about 3 times in 4 years, but the nasty neighbour uses it all the time.
He told me we couldn't use it as it was broken (but I've seen him using it after this) and I've notice this week he's put a bag over it and tied it up so nobody else can use it 😂 I can't get over the pettiness. Half of me is tempted to go and take it off and use it everyday to make a point. The other half of my brain is telling me to leave it, I don't really use it anyway and not to make trouble.
I'm just absolutely gobsmacked by the audacity. Can anyone else top my petty neighbour? Would I be unreasonable to start using the tap daily to have a wash 😂 should I surrender in the tap war?

Take the bag off. Use the tap at least once a day. What can he do? It’s a communal tap and you each pay a share. If it is truly broken - it needs to be repaired. Don’t be bullied by the twat.

I once had a neighbour lose the plot and start screaming at me because I had the audacity to suggest that she might ask us before using our driveway for her family to park on - she wanted to use it at will and if we needed it back to knock in. This was the deal she had with the last renters of the property, so her screaming devolved quickly into rants about renters and our lack of good working class values.

Sorry not sure if that's actually petty haha she was nuts I just stood there looking at her like

@PanamaPattie he is a bully. We've got new neighbours next door to us and he's already given them a list of things they can and can't do. I'm tempted to tell him I've got somebody coming round to fix it, just to see what he says 😂

Every week my neighbour puts their wheelie bin out and leaves it completely blocking our shared gate. This means every week I struggle to get past, move it and put my own bin out. But then, when I get home, they’ve put both bins back in place. Why?

@CD845623 oh that sounds familiar! There used to be an elderly gentleman who let Bob the knob, let's call him BTK for short (nasty neighbour) use his parking space as he didn't have a car himself. He died last year and we've just got new neighbours. BTK refused to move his car for the new neighbours, when he eventually did he had a rant at them about what they can and can't do on "his yard. The man is absolutely batshit 😂

@tssdncop So you've been entered in some kind of wheely bin wars without your knowledge 😂

At a previous house, we lived on a terrace and each house had a small front garden. In the autumn when the leaves blew off the trees, one neighbour would sweep up the leaves in his garden, divide them by type and return them to the relevant neighbours! 😂

I'd take it off and if he says anything I'd remind him that it is paid for by yourselves/everyone and if he messes with it further you'll be seeking legal advice.

Not so easy for my petty neighbour. We live in an on-street parking only area, but they're determined that their household of cars should have spaces saved for them. To the point where they use not only their own bins, but also the neighbours to block off the streetside. I once popped to the shop, and they (in the 15 minutes I had gone) moved their car into my space to be closer to their house. Fine, except for they had originally parked behind me - they moved their car one bloody space down to make some weird point.

They do a million other things, some petty, some awful.

Last summer our neighbours would take advantage of the nice weather to have a barbecue in their back garden. I wouldn't have minded if it was evening, but they'd light it around 3pm whilst I still had washing on the line, so I'd have to make a mad dash to bring in the washing and then drape it around the house to finish drying.

Over winter they've now got into a habit of burning excess cardboard in an incinerator in the middle of the weekend afternoon. (For some reason, they haven't considered asking the council for a larger cardboard recycling bin.) This now means I cannot hang out weekend washing in the afternoon on sunny spring days also. Hmmmmmmph.

Why should I have to do washing on weekdays (I work) or get up at stupid o'clock so that it's on the line by 8am and dry by noon?

@BreakfastOfWaffles that's hilarious 🤣

One NDn parked a old banger right outside his house for months because he didn’t want anyone parking outside his house . He had a drive and wanted that space reserved for when he had a visitor . His relative lives next door so I think he had some sort of authority. Anyway said car was there until he moved . It was sorn I checked and it looked a right eyesore . He had previously had words with neighbours for parking outside his house . so that’s what he did would rather nobody park there .

Sorry I don’t see why having a bbq at 3pm is petty I frequently do that in the summer weekend .

Our garden growing up was much bigger than next door (house was 5 bed detached and their home was 3 bed semi so garden reflected that but we also had extra land at the end of the garden). Neighbour demanded (via stern letter) dad should pave a quarter of the garden because our lawn was stealing all the nutrients from their garden. Totally nuts.

Our neighbour started screaming and weeping at DH because our cat caught a bird. She kept calling it "my bird". It was not her pet, it was literally a bird she saw.

I would also remove the bag and use it. They need to not get any more used to having their own way. It is a joint resource after all

@Dotty1219 BTK! Love it! It's so weird how some people get possessive over things that are very much not theirs

@CD845623 his actual name is Bob, but I very much doubt he reads mums net so I think im safe 😂
@EL8888 funny think is I very rarely use it, it's not as if I'm flooding the yard everyday. If he hadn't have done that I probably wouldn't have used it for months. However now he's made it clear he doesn't want anyone using it, I want to use it. Might see if next doors kid fancies a waterfight 😂

@Dotty1219 oh yeah lm not thinking filling up a watering can. I’m thinking giant paddling pool, hot tub, water flight etc!

My parents are in a parking war which amuses them and infuriates them at the same time. This is London suburbs, so it's quite usual for adult children to still live with their parents. This has led to parents NDN having 4 cars. My parents have 1 car (my brothers car) My DM has limited mobility. There is space outside my parents house for two carefully parked cars (public road). NDN have driveway for one car, and need 3 on the road. So if no where else, they will park across their driveway, but if they can they will park two outside my parents house. So my brother needs to pull up, get my DM out, then go find elsewhere to park.

As this is a public road, they technically aren't doing anything wrong. But they complain I anyone parks I 'their' spaces. And they know my DM has mobility problems (but not blue badge level yet). So the lack of courtesy does infuriate them slightly.

Could you apply for a disabled space due to your mums mobility issues? Unfortunately your parents don’t own the spaces outside their house. They have my sympathies, as our next door but 2 neighbours house has 6 cars. It’s a mainly terraced road with not enough parking

Our ex-next door lady was nicknamed Cone Lady because she used to save herself a parking space on the road right outside our flats. They weren’t marked spaces or anything but she felt it was her right to the spaces. We just used to move the cones 😂 Anyway, funny thing was, we were in the pub one night and she happened to be there and we heard her say ‘Cone Man’ so it seems like she had a similar nickname for DH 😂😂

ExH was the petty neighbour.Next door nosey neighbour asked him when he'd be cutting the grass as it needed doing quite badly.He didn't cut it for 4 yrs.Prick.

I use to live in a flat, it had a communal balcony at the front to enter the flat that was shared by only me and one other woman, it had a gate on it that you could close. Anyway we fell out and after that she use to start locking her dog out on the communal balcony, she would shut the gate and lock the door out there making it hard for me to get in and out as I had a double pram and two children, if I opened my door the dog would also try to get into my house. Tried to report her to the council who weren’t interested (told me my video couldn’t be used as proof 🤨) and said I would need other neighbours to complain, but it was only mine and her flat on that side so no other neighbours were going to complain. Was so glad when I moved from that place!

Ex neighbours opposite have now gone....inherited a load of money and bought a place out in Essex....they had 3 cars, 2 vans and 3 motorbikes...also parked outside on the road....all with disabled permits...yet seem to run a garden and building business....??..she would come out of the house with a hammer and watch anyone parking close to their fleet...and scream threats if they got too close and waved the hammer at them...!!...Its very quiet now they have gone !!

There is an elderly couple in my street. They hawk eye anyone and everyone who enters the street.
I said hello when passing one day while the woman was sweeping the street and she ranted on about how she knows exactly who is throwing the rubbish. It felt like a dig towards me, as if suggesting it's my kids, when I know its not. I just smiled and continued on.

Same neighbour when I was having flooring fitted. She came out and shouted at the fitters, telling them that their van is going to break the road. They tried explaining that the road is there to be parked on and drove on, but she was having none of it. They were hawk eyed each time they went back to the van.
Same neighbour ranted at my dad about the amount of people who parked in our street who didn't live here. He is one of them when he comes to my house lol. There's room for like 10 cars, and there is only 3 at most taken up every night.

Another elderly neighbour threatened to phone the police on my kids for playing on the tree (it's the first thing most kids do when walking through our street - swing on the tree)
Another came and knocked to complain that my children were annoying them by playing with a bouncy ball as she was on nightshift and the bouncing kept waking her up.

I dont let me kids play in the street anymore as its not worth the hassle lol

We haven’t spoken with next door neighbours since nasty neighbour lost the plot shouting, screaming and swearing at my dc because when they bounced on the trampoline he could see their heads - we live on a slope so they couldn’t see him but he was infuriated that he could see them. Sadly it terrified my dc so much that they’ve stopped using the trampoline in case they get shouted at again