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AIBU?

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Original poster

Is it a lie in in you wake up with the dc and then go back to bed a few hours later?

27 replies

MoonBaby1 · 27/02/2021 08:46

I don’t get to have lie ins in the sense of not getting up first thing with the young dc but at weekends I do like crawling back to bed around 9/10 am when dh gets up. Is this a lie in? I don’t think so but dh does.

YABU = it’s the same
YANBU = it’s not as nice and not the same.

OP posts:
TeenMinusTests · 27/02/2021 08:47

No it's not the same at all.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 27/02/2021 08:47

It's not a lie in but I'd prefer to go back to bed later, than stay in bed. So I haven't voted as it isn't the same but is nicer.

Bobbiepin · 27/02/2021 08:48

I like to get up and eat breakfast with dd and go back to bed but it's not a lie in. Once you are up, going back to bed is a nap.

Trisolaris · 27/02/2021 08:49

Not a lie in, and wouldn’t be nicer for me.

Freezeboy · 27/02/2021 08:50

We class it as a lie in as it’s the same amount of sleep you would get either way round and with none sleeping children we will get what extra sleep we can.

I guess I’m normal terms it’s not quite a lie in more of a long nap.

MyLittleOrangutan · 27/02/2021 08:50

I think it's better tbh. And more of a pain for the other person because the kids are fully awake and want to play or go out rather than just having their breakfast and watching TV.

Youseethethingis · 27/02/2021 08:51

If it was the same to him he wouldn’t mind swapping would he?
He can’t have it both ways.

WannabeOT · 27/02/2021 08:51

That's a nap not a lie in

Bouledeneige · 27/02/2021 08:52

No I don't think it's a lie in. I'd much prefer to stay sleeping. There's 2 days at the weekend so why can't you get one each?

MrsL2016 · 27/02/2021 08:53

I don't think it's the same. I wouldn't be able to go back to sleep if I had been awake with DC for 2 hours+. Can't you and your DH take it turns to get up so you both get an uninterrupted lie in?

mynameiscalypso · 27/02/2021 08:54

It's not the same but I'd much prefer it. I'm fine getting up with DS first thing but I tend to crash around 9/10am and desperately want a nap.

pipsqueakbollock · 27/02/2021 08:55

He's unreasonable
Equal turns with a tally chart if needed.
Once awake, I can't ever go back to sleep.

mamas12 · 27/02/2021 08:55

Hahahahaha
No that is not a lie in
A lie in is when you lie in bed asleep until you wake later than normal
It looks like he is getting all
The lie ins

HikeForward · 27/02/2021 08:56

It’s not the same but I can see why your DH thinks it is.

A true lie in is (IMO) is not having to get up at the crack of dawn with kid(s), being allowed to wake naturally. Not poking partner awake to say it’s his turn. Not fumbling around with weetabix and juice when you’re half asleep and child’s tugging at your PJs.

However i naturally wake around 5am (even if DC are still asleep, I creep downstairs for coffee in peace!) so I do all the early starts. In return I take a long nap/break in the afternoon at weekends. So I feel like it evens out. I’d feel silly forcing DH out of bed when I’m already awake and have no desire to lie in bed awake. I’m a lark and he’s an owl I guess.

On weekdays I have to get up at 5am for work so I guess it just fell into a natural pattern that DH gets all the ‘true’ lie ins.

cariadlet · 27/02/2021 08:56

I'd call it a nap rather than a lie-in but they both involve extra sleep and a break from childcare so I see them as equivalent to each other.

Tierrasfuente · 27/02/2021 08:57

No! It is not the same at all. I really objected to always having to get up in order to ever get a lie in. I can't go back to sleep once I am up either.

Elsia · 27/02/2021 08:58

We take it in turns for a lie in at the weekends. Unfortunately my natural waking up time seems to be around 11am these days 😬 I think it’s just manic weeks, I’m so tired. But I feel like it sets us right back for the day so I try to drag myself out of bed earlier and then I’m still beyond exhausted.

Tierrasfuente · 27/02/2021 08:59

Also, your DH gets up at 9 or 10? That's the lie in.

Original poster
MoonBaby1 · 27/02/2021 08:59

Thanks everyone. I can fall back to sleep so it’s not a bad thing.

OP posts:
Aprilx · 27/02/2021 09:00

No that is not a lie in, I would find it very hard to get back to sleep, once I am up I am up.

MuckleMadMoose · 27/02/2021 09:01

YANBU

That wouldn't work for me, once I'm up I can't get back to sleep. This is a nap, definitely not a lie in.

Chunkymenrock · 27/02/2021 09:02

Your H is the one having the lie in. You're up with the kids and catching up later.

Laiste · 27/02/2021 09:04

No it's not a lie in. Getting out of bed for more than 10 mins means you're 'up' in my book.

However - and this is just for the sake of conversation - i can't think of anything worse than getting up and getting going and motivated and then going back to square one bed again. Ugh Grin

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 27/02/2021 09:06

Of course it isnt , he just doesnt want to get up and deal with the kids

BobGalaxy · 27/02/2021 09:08

That's not a lie in! The point of a lie in is that you don't have to get up surely?

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