To wear a lesbian flag badge

[Keepitnerdy]

I'm a lesbian, (I sort of didn't realize it and always said bi) I dated a couple of men because really it was easier now I want to exclusively date women. I have no idea how to go about it, the dating apps for my area have such a small pool of women but I'm about to start a public facing roll do you think if I wear a lesbian price flag I might get a date?

I understand there's a pandemic and will continue to follow the rules of my country, I just have no idea how to get any ladies.

I'm not sure they would recognize the labrys flag is it more of a British thing?

Maybe I'll get a jacket and fill it with lesbian badges 🤣 but I will definitely check out the bookshop place and since their so low tech maybe I'll look into a magazine it's more that the country I live in doesn't have English as a main language

It's more likely a time thing than a space thing. The colours are now part of the ace flag, for some reason. but if you look at eg photos of dyke marches from even a couple of years ago you will see those labrys flags.

www.indiegogo.com/projects/dyke-march-london-2013#/

In Britain, though, rainbow pride flags have lost a bit of their gayness as the 'protect the NHS' connotations of rainbows are strong just now.

I've dated women (kinda) but they were always more curious or "teenage experimenting". I think despite fancying 7 of 9 and reading tipping the velvet and fingersmith way to much should have been a strong indication for me.

I'm only 30 so I don't feel that late in the dating game.

Try autostraddle if you are on the younger side, there may be groups in your area.

I must admit I don't see loads of rainbow flags here and the country is kinda behind the UK in things so maybe I'll try that as well. Maybe Wednesdays I parade myself around like a peacock

@SuperLoudPoppingAction

It's more likely a time thing than a space thing. The colours are now part of the ace flag, for some reason. but if you look at eg photos of dyke marches from even a couple of years ago you will see those labrys flags.

www.indiegogo.com/projects/dyke-march-london-2013#/

In Britain, though, rainbow pride flags have lost a bit of their gayness as the 'protect the NHS' connotations of rainbows are strong just now.

I know it’s wrong but I really feel like the NHS stole our rainbow 🤣

I actually work for the NHS and am also gay and now that everyone’s wearing rainbow lanyards it just doesn’t have the same meaning anymore.

Hi there , I remember this being the same hurdle when I was younger . The first step is to make some lesbian friends . Do you play sports? Women’s hockey , football or rugby teams can be really good places you can make new pals who might be likely to attend gay clubs or bars

I had a look at autostraddle sadly nothing for my country but it still looks like a interesting read.

My mum always wore rainbow as it makes her happy so I never really associated it with gay pride 🤣 but I do get the feeling that NHS stole the rainbow vibes lol also people complaining about having to wear them lol

I'm not actually sporty but I lost alot of weight in the last two years so maybe I should start. Do you think swimming sports (not diving) would work? I'm really short so basketball ball isn't a good idea.

It's hard with compliments too as its quite normal to say hello beautiful to all the lovelies.

Is there a local Roller Derby team near you? I used to play and as you’re in a female led sport you’ll find a real mix of women, in the London teams there’s lots of bi and lesbian girls, they normally have social events (when things are normal) where you can meet lots of different people.

I'm about to start a public facing roll do you think if I wear a lesbian price flag I might get a date?

I see lots of people wearing pride badges etc whilst doing their jobs. I don't assume they are 'available' and wouldn't cross the line between professional and personal. I just think they are LGBT+ or a supporter of LGBT+.

I'm not sure if they do that here I can skate but I think I'd be scared to do roller derby. I'll definitely look in women sporty things all the group's seem to be damn yoga

Seems I'm going to have to take life by the tits and make a real effort. My kid is starting overnights with his dad next year so maybe I can do more then but for now I'll look at a joining a group and making friends...

Really wish their was a Grindr for lesbians that was well maintained and had a good user base, I think I'm really cracking after being celibate for 2 years.

Have you tried using apps like tiktok and tumblr? plenty of millenial queer communities on there, and it’s easy to strike up a conversation :) obviously not a dating app but definitely can help you meet more lesbians!

There's another Grindr alternative for queer women called Brenda, which still makes me laugh

Stroll round Sissinghurst Castle Garden when the white garden is at its best. And learn how to smoulder at people.

@WithMyOldCockLinnet

Stroll round Sissinghurst Castle Garden when the white garden is at its best. And learn how to smoulder at people.

Now that's an idea

Once the Womn's Place UK meetings start again come along to their meetings - lots of amazing lesbians at those (obviously not there looking to find a relationship but at least you might meet some nice new people who in turn have nice friends etc).

It's hard with compliments too as its quite normal to say hello beautiful to all the lovelies Maybe the "lovelies" find that a bit cheesy?

Lesbian here too.

And while I notice all the little LGBTQ+/lesbian flags/pins and whatever else. I usually don’t need that to gauge if someone might be queer/into me.
Also someone wearing a rainbow pin doesn’t mean they are single so I wouldn’t naturally assume they are.

As a lesbian, I have been lucky to live in major cities (where are you located?) and so have had lots of women show up on apps and dates from there but honestly I stay clear from apps usually as I prefer to meet people organically. Meeting women organically in an heteronormative world does mean being willing to make the first move. Sometimes I will look gayer than usual but I am very femme so the assumptions isn’t necessarily that I am gay. If you plan on woman spotting you and coming to you, you are playing a losing game. It might happen (it has definitely happened to me many times), but you are more likely to get dates if you are proactive.

If I see a girl who is cute I might start a casual conversation, especially if we are at a setting where it’s likely acceptable and won’t be an annoyance/interference.

Honestly biting the bullet and going for it is the best a lesbian can do. It has definitely been the case for me. :)

Good luck!

Hola guapa , en España pueden ser bastante elogiosos, lo que puede dificultar el coqueteo.