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Are your teenagers driving you mad?

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motherhoodismad · 26/02/2021 16:41

Are they all like this?

In dark rooms all day
sleep late
Dont appreciate a beautiful spring day
grumpy
wont interact with family
wont leave fridge alone

Thank god one back in education soon or i may run away !

I miss them being with us and being all cheerful....

OP posts:
1FootInTheRave · 26/02/2021 17:06

Mine is up early and working hard with school stuff.

However, her attitude is shit and I'm royally fed up of her.

Catflapkitkat · 26/02/2021 17:15

Yes - to all that.

And I hate it when they (twins) open the fridge and say there's nothing to eat. When it's full of stuff they have asked for ...... Oh you don't like it anymore - thanks for letting me know

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motherhoodismad · 26/02/2021 17:16

omg get this EVERY DAY

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Mamadothehump · 26/02/2021 17:16

Honestly? My 14 year old is fucking awesome! I'm very lucky. Sorry!!!

oldsoulrebel · 26/02/2021 17:22

Yep , mine are so lazy . And the food - don't stop yet so bloody fussy . Went to the supermarket today , asked them if there was anything they wanted 'normal food 'was their reply . My idea of normal food is totally different to theirs so asked them to be more specific. "Just normal food like everyone else has ". I was still flummoxed so pressed them further - turns out they meant salt and vining at crisps . Ffs ( i bought lots of perfectly normal fruit and veg too - that'll show em )

oldsoulrebel · 26/02/2021 17:23

*salt and vinegar

Deux · 26/02/2021 17:24

Totally this. 17 year old is worse though as in 6th form so his timetable is not 9-3. 13 year old much better as she has to be awake for tutor at 8.45.

I’m food shopping so much. I had a shop delivered on Monday and it’s all gone. I keep ordering more each week thinking it’ll last but no, it’s all gone. I thought I’d make crispy cakes to make everything last a bit longer. Not a chance, all gone. They’re eating good food as well, it’s not all junk. I was reminiscing about how I used to buy fish fingers in packs of 10 and they’d last a couple of meals and now it’s packs of 30 and they last 2 meals.

DS got a wearable blanket/hoodie at Xmas and I have to wrestle it off him to wash it.

Never mind, one more week.

SassenachWitch · 26/02/2021 17:50

Yes to the dark rooms!! I can’t stand the curtains being closed all day. Oldest one has lucked out having the bigger room on the front, because curtains have to be open by 10am latest, so that we don’t get judged, but the younger ones were opened at 3.30pm today, by me.

Never any food in our house either apparently, despite me asking every week if there’s anything specific they want. I usually get a text the day after I’ve ordered the shopping asking for xyz, tough shit, I asked 3 days ago!

JustLyra · 26/02/2021 17:54

Tbh one of mine is on a "positivity splurge" has turned into "let's do everything together and chat all day" and after five/six weeks of it I'm wishing they'd be a bit more anti-social. The other two are the hiding in their rooms types and I'm alright with that just now.

The food though... I'm amazed the fridge is cold with the amount of time one of them has the door open to have a look and declare it apparently empty.

aramox · 26/02/2021 17:56

Yes the 'normal food like everyone else has'! What is that about? And the curtains. And now formtime from bed. Sun must not touch body!

NovemberR · 26/02/2021 17:56

Yes. Utterly sick of the boy. Can't wait for him to get back in school.

Today was the most beautiful day and he utterly refused to come outside for daylight/fresh air. He is looking like a corpse.

Notcontent · 26/02/2021 17:57

My 14 year old is also up early and working really hard BUT I am getting a lot of rudeness.

therealteamdebbie · 26/02/2021 18:02

They are teens! We were worst Grin

I have an agreement with mine, unless live mandatory class, they get up at any time they want, PROVIDING all school work is finished on time to MY standards.

My house is not a dump, can't have a cleaner now, so if they don't clean and bring some fresh air, I will.

Works so far! If they are happier at night when they can, why not.

therealteamdebbie · 26/02/2021 18:03

curtains have to be open by 10am latest, so that we don’t get judged

I am sorry but WHAT? Confused

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 26/02/2021 18:03

Yep.
16 year old claims he's doing his work, yet I've have 3 emails today about work that is outstanding (as in not completed rather than of excellent quality). Its particularly annoying as its his GCSE year and he's well aware that teachers are grading him based on his work.

14 year old point blank refuses to sit any where other than in his bed to do his work, despite having a desk in his bedroom and a table in the lounge he can use. Apparently he gets back ache Hmm. So he half sits half lays in bed then falls asleep. Then moans that he can't work when I'm shouting at him. I'm only shouting to wake him up. Then he doesn't sleep at night because he's been asleep half the day... then he's tired the next day and falls asleep. You get the picture. Oh and I'm the only parent who expects him to go to bed at a reasonable time apparently.

Honestly I love my DC more than anything but I'm so fucking ready for them to go back to school.

Frozenintime · 26/02/2021 18:05

Yes. Everything takes forever. Off the scale dawdling. Alternating niceness and then trying to be mr big man. Showing off when gaming and a loud, booming voice.
Sometimes wakes at 5.30 and then another day it's late. Sending him to the park to play football with one friend tomorrow but I will be full of anxiety

Frequentflier · 26/02/2021 18:13

i think my DS is a vampire. He has such a complete aversion to sunlight . He does his school work though.

pinkstripeycat · 26/02/2021 18:15

Mine are attending live lessons from 8.45am-3.35pm. The eldest doesn’t come down at breaks or lunch but instead chats with friends online. He ends up eating lunch in his room during the next lesson - grrrrrr

joeysapple · 26/02/2021 18:18

Mines mostly in his room. Getting him to do ANY schoolwork is a fucking battle. He eats everything in sight.

But to be fair, when he does come down from his room he's mostly lovely at the moment. Still wants a cuddle. So it's a definite mix.

1FootInTheRave · 26/02/2021 18:19

Tell me, how can one 16 yo be so bloody fabulous with school stuff and so loved by teaching staff. Then, be a such a swinebag with her parents? Plus, have the appetite of a pack of rabid wolves.

Never mind roll on school, I'm praying for a hasty few years until uni.

Oldraver · 26/02/2021 18:22

Ive of a rant (not a shouty one this time) at DS14 fussiness. It seems nothing is to his taste at the moment and it's driving me insane

He has to have some masks for school not his buff. He has rejected quite a few, even said I could make him some if he chose the fabric. Bought him some from town and they were not right. His DB offered some disposable ones and there was a moan about them not being very nice at all etc etc

Yes, son we know, your Dad and me have been working all day with disposables. This is what triggered the rant about his fussiness and ubgratefull ness

He is under threat of being sent in with my cat and alpaca ones

SassenachWitch · 26/02/2021 18:26

Are yours still creating loads of washing? They’re not leaving the house, so how are they wearing 20 outfits a week?!

itsgettingwierd · 26/02/2021 18:28

Mines up with an alarm every day at 7am.

College 9-4.30 4 days a week.

Walk with grandad on his day off (I work FT WOH).

Running for 30 minutes every evening on treadmill at 7pm followed by strength and conditioning.

Bed 11pm.

Doesn't even raid the fridge.

But he is autistic, loves a routine, doesn't get food unless he's asked permission (not my rules he just won't Confused).

When everyone is back is socialising in schools etc and outdoors and gets busier again - that's when I start to suffer his moods!

Deux · 26/02/2021 18:31

And another thing. I went to get a plate out the other day. No plates! Oh I thought, they must all be in the dishwasher. Nope. Ds came downstairs with enough crockery for a 2 person apartment.

SingleHandSue · 26/02/2021 18:35

I have a 15yo who is doing the bare minimum of school work despite it being his GCSE year. He lounges on his bed with a laptop balanced on his knee and thinks this is the best way to work 🙄

He is wearing the same pj shorts every day, day and night unless I can pry them off him to be washed.

I see him at lunchtime when he asks me to make him some lunch, if I tell him to sort himself out he just goes back upstairs and doesn’t bother eating.

To be fair to him though he is still very cheery and likes spending time with me, even if it is at midnight.