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Are your teenagers driving you mad?

60 replies

motherhoodismad · 26/02/2021 16:41

Are they all like this?

In dark rooms all day
sleep late
Dont appreciate a beautiful spring day
grumpy
wont interact with family
wont leave fridge alone

Thank god one back in education soon or i may run away !

I miss them being with us and being all cheerful....

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JustLyra · 26/02/2021 18:37

@Deux

And another thing. I went to get a plate out the other day. No plates! Oh I thought, they must all be in the dishwasher. Nope. Ds came downstairs with enough crockery for a 2 person apartment.
For the first time ever I've completely banned plates and bowls upstairs. They were fine at bringing them down when they were 13/14/15, but seem to have left that ability at uni.

I may also have snapped a few weeks ago and bought coloured tumblers and allocated each older child one colour. Any glass that's not their colour is not allowed upstairs.

oldsoulrebel · 26/02/2021 18:42

Caught my dd14 the other day with her laptop on the other side of the room playing a live lesson to the wall . Asked her why . Apparently it was too distracting. Distracting her from fucking tiktok Confused

Ginqueen456 · 26/02/2021 18:43

Yes!!! I can't wait for my 14 year old to go back to school just to get her out of the house!

MintyCedric · 26/02/2021 18:51

Mine is great on the whole, although I could do without triple the amount of washing up due to her healthy eating kick and the incessant turbowitter.

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motherhoodismad · 26/02/2021 19:29

Oh my god are you all living in my house?!! No food in the fridge apparently, plates , glasses and mugs disappearing and yes tons of laundry !!
Think we still have kids, not sure as dont see them much , hear the movement at night like the bloody hamster....

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Musicaldilemma · 26/02/2021 19:31

I think this generation of teenagers is going to grow really tall. So much extra sleep and food!

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motherhoodismad · 26/02/2021 19:34

Those of you with babies and cute little ones, oh dear you have this to come (laughs like an evil villan)

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nokidshere · 26/02/2021 19:34

Well my bedroom locked uni student, who definitely wanders around the house like a vampire at night, eats like a horse and has a floordrobe in his room, has just come down to make me dinner so he is forgiven everything else

Thankfully other than those things he's pretty quiet and tidy most of the time.

therealteamdebbie · 26/02/2021 19:35

@SassenachWitch

Are yours still creating loads of washing? They’re not leaving the house, so how are they wearing 20 outfits a week?!
you mean, 20 outfits A DAY don't you?
Workinghardeveryday · 26/02/2021 19:36

I feel your pain!!! Just like that in this house. Drives me mad!!!! When I try and wake her up I just get abuse!!

therealteamdebbie · 26/02/2021 19:37

@motherhoodismad

Those of you with babies and cute little ones, oh dear you have this to come (laughs like an evil villan)
at least with teens, especially locked up at home, i can SLEEP. Babies were cute, but the sleep deprivation nearly killed me.

Not looking forward to be up half the night wondering where there are and when they are coming home.

Smallfry79 · 26/02/2021 19:49

So nice and reassuring for me to read these posts as so many of them ring true with me. Im a single parent and all my friend's children are younger so Im not quite sure what is normal teenage behaviour.
Sometimes I feel I have failed but then I read threads like this and think maybe it will be ok.
The 'normal' food bit made me laugh especially when it ended up being crisps! There is never any 'right' food in this house i.e. chocolate

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motherhoodismad · 26/02/2021 19:51

Sometimes I feel rejected, as does dh, it can be hurtful as feels like they dont care, or dont like you even. Getting used to more time as a couple, is it mother natures way of preparing parents for when they fly the nest???

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OldRailer · 26/02/2021 19:56

Mine is no trouble . A bit grumpy but never rude. Too quiet though. It saddens me.

Todayissunny · 26/02/2021 19:59

I'm trying to relax and just accept it all. But it's the smell that gets me. I've got 3 of them - boys 14, 14 and 16. I feel as if I spend my life telling them to shower/cleanteeth/wash faces with very expensive anti-blackhead wash or asking if they have done it....

MumofSpud · 26/02/2021 20:16

Yes ! Same here! DD15 is horrible to me - I actually ran away last week (2 hours) and bought cigs (I stopped smoking a few years ago) but.... NOBODY noticed I was missingShock

therealteamdebbie · 26/02/2021 20:16

Don't forget when you were a teen, internet was lacking, but you had a support group, friends and places to be to escape your parents.

The poor kids are stuck home for months.

I think most teens are doing amazingly well. They don't like mornings, so what. If they sleep late and are quiet at night, that's more quiet for you too.

CassiaLime · 26/02/2021 20:19

Well, my 14 year old is up at normal times, goes to bed at 11pm, logs into all classes as required and is as cuddly and nice as he ever was - on the whole

However .... he rushes off any old shit homework and he's addicted to his Xbox and messaging on Instagram. So it's a fine line I think.

I'm just glad he's back at school soon where he can properly focus.

redcandlelight · 26/02/2021 20:24

mine are great at the moment. mostly.
though go through so much food, it's insane.
and they bicker a lot

1starwars2 · 26/02/2021 20:50

My 13 year old has given up getting dressed unless he is leaving the house - pretty much only p.e. lesson times, so hardly any washing...

PumpkinHead1980 · 26/02/2021 21:18

So glad its not just me going through hell with a teen right now!
Daily arguments over logging on to lessons
Personal hygiene
Changing clothes each day not once a week
Swearing and shouting on gaming headset thingy
Eating everything in sight
Oh and the shitty attitude is the cherry on the cake

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motherhoodismad · 27/02/2021 10:22

But the sleeping all day and up at night really gets to me and dh, does anyone else hate this?? Esp when its a beautiful spring day?

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BarbedBloom · 27/02/2021 10:30

To be fair, I am a night owl who hates sunshine so I guess I never grew out of the teenager phase Grin

MaLarkinn · 27/02/2021 10:42

I have four teenagers, please send help Grin
To be honest they're not rude or anything but one of them is up all night, and constantly eating cereal, drives me mad.
I let the food run out this week.

My stepson went out the other day before he finished his school work and when I died him to come home and finish it, he said you can't tell me what to do, you're not my mother. Give me a fucking break.

WhereverIlaymyhat2021 · 27/02/2021 10:50

Are you blaming this on lockdown......im not sure How old they are but you are potentially in for several more years of disappointment if so 😂.

Do we all forget what we were like as teenagers by the time our kids get to that age?!?